Ethnic sexual stereotypes....some fallacies refuse to die

Though we've discussed this elsewhere here from time-to-time, it never ceases to amaze me that, today, in 2024, "ethnic stereotypes" regarding males of different ethnic backgrounds is still thriving, with more followers than you can count.

According to "myth":

ALL black men are hung like horses.

Asian/Oriental men are not known for being well-endowed, due to their "intelligence", meaning, "it's all in their head".

All Latins are fantastic "in the sack".

Well, sorry to break up the party here, guys......

Common sense (that is, what remains of it these days) SHOULD dictate that there are SEXY men and WELL-ENDOWED men in ALL ethnic groups.

So, a black man doesn't have a trouser python that hangs down to his knees.......does THIS mean he wouldn't make a great sexual partner/bed buddy?

Even I know that it is not WHAT you have, but HOW you USE what you DO have that matters.

And, if someone cannot accept you for being "average" (unlike these mule-hung guys you see in porn), well, hell, that is THEIR problem.........too bad these misguided, delusional guys cannot decipher the difference between FANTASY and REALITY.

So much for "with age also comes wisdom"...................

 

It IS indeed a serious issue when you realize that we live in a distorted world, where far too many people accept (or choose) RUMOR and FANTASY over FACT and REALITY.............................

 

Exactly!

Why guys still fall prey to accepting what they see in porn, and STILL believing in unfounded stereotypes is totally beyond my scope.

Could it be that WHAT they see in porn actually, over time, "brainwashes" far to many bi/gay men to the point when they finally DO encounter reality, they find it's a totally different ballgame altogether?

Well, they say, it takes ALL kinds to make a world........

 

I'll admit that it does one's ego good to take and handle a big, fat dick... and a lot of guys have them. They're challenging both orally and anally and you get to see guys with huge cocks just brutalizing bottoms like there's no tomorrow and if you're a bottom looking to be treated like this, of course you want to be submitted and debased by a guy with a huge cock but as I've told many a guy, porn makes it look easy to take a huge cock and... it's really not that easy unless you train yourself and even then, the things you might use in that training aren't going to be like the real thing and driven by a guy who wants to bury it as deep as he can in your mouth, ass, or both. Some seriously hung guys I know have told me that they reason why they go after men is that women... didn't want anything to do with their monster-sized dick.

There was a time where even the most effeminate gay man wasn't a size queen; many a woman talked about being fucked by one and... sang a different tune after being fucked by a huge dick. And through it all, the stereotypes have been kept alive and while I believe that a lot of guys know the real truths about cock size, and there are plenty of guys who have the BBC fantasy - and that's good enough for them and then you have the brave and the bold who are pouncing on all the gigantic cocks they can find - but a lot of guys want to experience an average-size and prick... even if they, too, dream of BBCs.

 

Though, of course, many a white gay/bi dude DO discover they REALLY get off on having their butts ripped into by a BBC, think of the other guys who LUSTED for BBC (or ANY huge cock, for that matter) for years, BUT, when the FANTASY became a REALITY, they were like: "What the fuck was I thinking?"

You are 100% correct; porn DOES make taking a huge cock (regardless of color) as though it were the easiest thing in the world.......nuthin' to it!

Nothing but sheer pleasure and the ultimate in sexual ecstacy(!!)

Here again, what you SEE (or, what you fantasize about) is NOT always what you WANT (or THOUGHT you wanted)

In such situations, the reality of it all hits head-on like a runaway train, for sure.............

 

Given that some guys do, in fact, like huge sausages stuffed into their buns, it keeps the stereotype alive and well... and focused on Blacks and other guys reported to be stupidly hung. I grew up having to deal with them so I tend to be all "So, what?" about them. Dude has a big dick... and that means what? If you've seen and had one huge dick, you've seen and had them all with the only difference being the mindset of the guy it's attached to... and too many guys watch porn and get it into their heads that everyone wants to have their hole "savagely" beaten up - and there are still way too many horror stories of ripped assholes and other damages due to improper use of large penises.

I get it. What would it be like to suck one or to take it in the ass? Would it be hard, really hard, or what the fuck was I thinking about insanely hard? Watch porn and, yeah, those big dicks look good wrecking assholes and pussies, don't they? Black dudes so well-endowed that most pussies can't take all of the dick and assholes get gaped open and grossly so but, yeah, what would that be like? I find it interesting that men who have not even handled another guy's dick, let alone sucked a dick are the ones fantasizing about taking on cocks of eight inches or more and I just kinda smile knowingly and think that if they ever get a chance to have the experience, yeah, they might wish that they hadn't - but experience remains to be the best teacher of all time.

Methinks that the real "proof of concept" isn't if you can handle big dicks: It's if you can handle any sized dick so that you can give and receive pleasure... but what do I know?

 

Excellent comments and opinion, for sure.

Too, when WATCHING porn, and that porn deals with a guy with at least 10" or 11" of rock-hard, steel-hard, ass-ripping, prostate-pulverizing cock between his glutes, the guy watching the flick IMAGINES what it would feel like to be getting the SAME treatment the porn bottom is getting, and it is then the FANTASY aspect begins to take root..........in a serious way.

BUT............when the guy FINALLY gets the chance to have his tight butt ripped into by a massive, steel-hard trouser snake, and he is FEELING it for REAL, how much you wanna bet that not a few guys suddenly TOTALLY regret allowing their FANTASY to become REALITY......and the REALITY is something they certainly CANNOT handle, far, far removed from what they THOUGHT it would FEEL like................

 

Yeah, the reality literally sinks in or "Why did I think this was a good idea?" You're either going to handle it or you aren't. Does "ass training" or being pegged help prepare you? Probably but fake dicks, historically, have been said to not be a replacement for the real thing so having a ten-inch dildo in your ass isn't quite the same as having a guy behind those ten inches and shoving it into your hole and then reaming you out in ways that you wouldn't do to yourself with your dildo. Is this a sub bottom's wet dream? Probably. Would they jump on a huge dick the first chance they get? Maybe, if they're not risk-adverse but if they are, then this will forever remain a fantasy as they fuck themselves with dildoes or get pegged.

And the stereotypes will live on. We have always believed that the bigger the dick, the better the sex and that's just not the whole truth of things because it implies that only big-dicked guys (1) know how to have sex and (2) are the only ones allowed to have sex because their dick is bigger and (3) are you fucking kidding me? Big dick is the holy grail of sex and guys who are smaller are deemed to be inferior, less manly, other such fallacies and despite the realities involved with having sex with big-dicked men, the stereotype persists and now, bisexual men can be size queens and then you have people believing that all bi guys are size queens and more stereotypes come into existence.

It's just my opinion that guys who are sitting on the bench and waiting for a big cock to become available for the valued FWB status are missing out on being able to have sex with... lesser endowed men and the overall experience of what it's like to have sex with a man. If you can't suck a five-incher or take it in your ass, how do you expect to deal with a dick that's literally twice that size in length and maybe even girth?

Some guys want to walk before crawling and... I really do wish them luck experiencing being fucked by a huge dick.

 

You brought up a VERY valid point on this, quite awhile ago.

Basically, you stated: "It's not WHAT you have, but HOW you use it."

IMHO, I think it would be both wise (and indeed mature) for a mule-hung guy NOT to rip into another guy's ass with no restraint and with wild abandon?

Has the "top" ever had his chute brutalized in the past by a huge cock, and this his warped way at getting "revenge" against some poor, unsuspecting dude who thinks it's all gonna be all "fun and games" when his butt is being ripped apart by a huge cock, regardless of color?

I also TOTALLY agree; NO AMOUNT of dildo play/pegging is going to TRULY prepare a guy for having his rectum wrecked by the REAL thi

And DON'T get me started at that totally asinine "cuckold" fetish, where a white guy is denied sex with his wife/girlfriend, and being made to watch while she is fucked by a BBC.......geeze...........

 

It's possible and not unheard of. I think that if guys knew what being cuckolded really meant, they might not be all that eager to be cuckolded. That and a guy with any size cock can cuckold another guy but, again the BBC is the cock of choice...

 

When it comes to sex (of any variety) it is nothing short of mind-boggling how truly bizarre things can get; mummification, CBT, sissyfication, water sports, latex body suits, gas masks........I need not elaborate further.

I've seen too much of the truly bizarre in 'net porn that totally and completely turn me off, even if it involves only males.

We ALL have our "off the wall" fantasies......but ONLY to a point.

You DO have to wonder, though, about how ANYONE could take pleasure (sexual or otherwise) out of such truly bizarre "fetishes".

I know "it takes all kinds to make a world", but, still.................

 

I stopped wondering about people and their fetishes a long time ago. It all falls under "whatever floats your boat" and we all have different ways that we like having our boat floated - I can appreciate the diversity and the sexual ingenuity that humans have. Someone asked me about my fetishes - and assuming that I had them - and I think I disappointed them because I don't have any fetishes. Or that one time I kind of got offended because someone said that sucking cock is a fetish and, well, people are entitled to their opinions even when they're wrong.

 

Though I do admit to have a few fetishes (spanking/suits/uniforms, and a few others); I have long since concluded that my fetishes are, indeed, QUITE mundane and tame, compared to some of the truly wild and insane stuff I know is out there.

Yeah, I guess it all DOES all boil down to "whatever floats your boat", or, if you will, "variety is the spice of life".

Interesting, too, that the most "milquetoast"-appearing guys can often be harboring some truly wild desires, especially the "closet" desires to be with another man for sex, when it is certainly not possible, due to personal lifestyle, marital status, religious beliefs, etc.

There, things CAN get a bit complex and tricky, for sure.............

 

"Different strokes for different folks; so on and so on and scooby doobie-doobie..."

 

"RUH-ROH"!

 

With some bi/gay men, perhaps they find themselves unable to accept what TRUTH really is, so they take FANTASY and turn it into their own personal REALITY.

BUT, when that "day of awakening" finally DOES come around, that FANTASY is going to dissolve in a flash, replaced by the REALITY that they (for whatever reason) cannot (or will not) accept...........

 

Or, like many guys, they have that "Oh, shit, what have I gotten myself into?" moment and... they handle being dicked down with a phone pole. Just gird their own loins, realize that they did ask for this, open wide and take the dick like a man. Give it the best sucking you can bring to bear and make sure plenty of good lube is used when he goes to get it in you and, yep, if you never had a big dick in you, it's gonna hurt so just relax, breathe, and remember - you asked for this.

End of the day, there's nothing wrong with having this stereotype as a fantasy to tickle your fancy as you spank and edge your monkey and with visions of the big, fat, pricks you've seen in porn since you've been watching it. You don't have any intentions on having sex with a guy with a dick that big... or with a guy at all and no matter the size of his dingus. But if you're looking to have your first experience with dick and the guy has to have a huge dick and because you believe in the hype behind the stereotype? Just remember that the horror stories you may have heard have truth to them.

 

Very well said.

If you WANTED it and LUSTED for it, and then, when the moment of truth arrived, you started to chicken out, remember NO ONE forced to you go through with it.....gird your loins, and take it likea man, and remember it was YOU that believed that, what you saw in porn was ALL reality.......

 

Further:

I had forgotten to mention that, over the years, I have seen a fair share of photoshopped (or highly erotic m/m art) on the 'net, depicting former President Obama.

It should come as NO surprise that these depictions show the former President as being hung like a mule; here again, once again, that same old (and tiresome) stereotype, having the gullible believe that ALL black men sport an 11" trouser python........how disappointed the gullible are when they discover that, while SOME black men ARE indeed QUITE hung, others are simply "average".

The same as men in any other ethnic group.

As I had stated before, the worst part of this is that TOO many gullible gay/bi males still cannot seem to grasp the concept of "fantasy" vs reality................