Ending a marriage

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Try and work though it all!

 

I am very sorry to hear that. You are putting yourself between a rock and a hard place and you have already realized splitting with hubby will split the family. There is simply no way around that. Have you tried counselling?

 

To thine own self be true.

 

Need more information on why you want to leave.

At the end of the day you’re probably going to do what you want to do, I imagine.

 

a youngster?....the kid will bounce back if affected at all...kids are far more resilient than adults ……...staying together for the family unit is the worst possible reason....share custody and move on

 

Been there. If you know you need to get out, nobody but you is able to know that. Do you wish to live on good terms or do you feel he will be a good dad to your daughter? This is important as in the end, how you make the break may help or hurt you when it comes time for the courts to determine visitation rights. The kid regardless of how you feel about this, will be put in the middle to some extent. If she is truly young as in a toddler, then you can make a plan that is different than if she is older and has some say and can learn at a different level what is happening between the 2 of you.

 

Just be mature and decent to each other through it all and dont use your child as a pawn. Thats the best anyone can do in those situations

 

I'd try to do it amicably, but also be sensible, and get some solid legal advice. Sorry things didn't work out.

 

I think I misunderstood the question. Just ignore me. Nothing to see here.

 

If you stay together for the kid, then split after, it can mental fuck the kid because they'll grow up realising their parents only stayed together unhappily because of them. Seen this in my life with friends more than once.

 

i'm pretty sure being the child of two happily divorced parents is much less stressful than living in a house full of passive aggressiveness and/or active aggressiveness, which is what will result from staying together for the kid.

 

There are probably at least 20 things the kid is going to care more about than the parents

 

Would he get the truth at counselling?

Try a secret lady lover before you split with hubby. Im guessing he isnt a jerk, just boring and doesnt want sex.

Then if you have trouble finding a secret lady lover or you do and they are always a pain in the ass, then at least you have a better understanding of what 97% of the male population go through

But do it BEFORE you split with hubby

 

Hey baby
Welcome to Dumpsville
Population..
You.

 

People were not meant to remain together forever. We learn from and teach each other and then we move on. Sit and close your eyes and remove all thought from your mind and the correct decision will spring up like a fountain from within. Works for me all the time.

 

Sorry that you're going through this Shakeybear

Does he give a reason why he won't go?

Do you want to say why it is that you want to leave him?

 

I understand the first part, love just doing sweet FA nowadays.

How old is he?

 

I think you could see a couples counselor unilaterally for at least one session. Maybe there's a strategy for getting him into counseling.

 

What about acupunture too? Sticking some little metal pins in his skin might make him talk.....cure his high blood pressure too apparently