Domestic Chores

My mom worked full-time and did all the chores around the house, from what I can remember. Dad took care of the yard, cars, etc.

When I was a SAHM, I did all the indoor chores (I even baked!) and my husband did all the outdoor chores and repairs. I felt that his job was to bring home the money and my job was to keep the house in order.

When he quit his job, I started working full-time and *still* had to do most of the housework. I felt this was quite unfair and was somewhat bitter about it.

Now, I'm a single mom and I still do most of the chores and I work full-time. But, better to be single and have more chores, than to have a husband who does nothing, IMO.

 

When I lived with my dad, and I could be wrong here cos we left when I was four or five, but I remember him laying around on the sofa all the time. Both my mum and dad worked, my dad was in the army and my mum was in Asdas lol, but I don't really remember him doing much housework
Now, with my stepdad, it's shared quite equally, with me and my brother chipping in too

 

It's weird. My mom and dad just kind of did what needed to be done. I mean, Mom was definitely more picky and spent most of her weekend scrubbing and cleaning, but if my dad got home from work earlier than she did, he'd make dinner, sweep, etc. Dad also worked outside in the shed fixing the cars, making this and that, etc. Dad had no problem doing laundry, sweeping the floor, doing dishes, etc. At the same time, I've seen my mother mow the lawn, chop wood and feed the chickens. The more I think about it, there wasn't really any division as to what chores were designated to whom.

My ex-husband was very "I'm not doing anythign, I worked hard all day" (by work hard he meant played video games and studied at university all day). If it were up to him, the cat hair would've piled up in the corners and the dishes would've never been washed.

Now with my boyfriend, he likes things clean. He's not stupid about it and nit-picky, but when he cooks, he washes up after himself and cleans up his messes. He leaves books and clothes all over the place, but does his laundry and puts it away, cooks all his own food (he doesn't believe in making the bed, it's the whole "well it's just going to get messed up again when I get tired" argument). He likes the bathrooms to be clean, but with four other guys in the apartment, well, that's just not going to happen.

 

Growing up my mom did pretty much everything. 1. because she was anal and it didn't matter who did what chore, she went behind them and bitched about it being all wrong and re-did it. and 2. because my dad always has and always will believe that it is a woman's job to wait on him hand and foot and keep the house absolutely spotless while also taking care of every single need of the children and working full time (sometimes full time and part time) and taking care of the pets, doctors appointments, getting the vehicles repaired and doing the garden. My dad did take out the trash on occasion when he didn't make me do it (and by make I mean breaking my arm if I didn't do it, yes I was abused) and he also mowed the lawn because he could use it as an excuse to drink more beer. But according to my mom "at least he held a steady job" (yes she has low standards).

In any event, these days it is pretty much equal for my boyfriend and I. I suspect it is because we both lived on our own before living together and we both have mutual respect for each other and each other's time. We both work full time and split chores evenly. He does the things that I don't really care for, like dishes, but I do most of the cooking (he works night shift, but he cooks when he is off) and I like cleaning the bathrooms and we do our own laundry separately (no kids, so that still works out for us). And we both work in the yard, and take out the trash when it is full.

If one of us were home more than the other, then we would expect that person to pick up the slack. Makes sense to both of us.

 

My mom and dad both did that kinda stuff, but definitely moreso my mom. Now that my parents are split up, my dad obviously takes care of that stuff at his place, and I live with my mom on weekdays, and I do just about everything considered "domestic chores."
She takes care of the outside/yard work, and loves it. The woman wants to sign up for a carpentry course ahahh So now I'm the housewife and my mother is the man of the house.

 

my mom does most of the household things around here.

 

my mother did all the housework and worked a full time job while my dad worked part time and slept. the arsehole.

 

hahaha i had to put 'wally the walrus' :/

i had a maid when i was growing up. lucky parents!

 

to be very honest neither of them did any of the domestic chores. my mother told my sister and i that we had certain chores to do on certain days. but when my sister was 16 she moved out so basically from when i was 12 until i moved out i did all the chores and cooking and took care of my baby sister. i also did the outside chores as well mowing the lawn, weeding the garden, watering the plants at night etc. so long story short i did all the chores and took care of my sister and my mother.

 

my dad did all the washing up and cleaning and stuff. my mum struggles with life

 

My mum did most of it but now its me

 

I said other because it was mainly me doing all the work.

 

My mother did most of the domestic work and she still does.

Peace and love

 

right now my mom does pretty much all the housework... my stepdad occassionally does one big thing... like maybe once a month or so. it's very unequal. i think because they work different schedules (same number of hours, but my mom works a few long days and my stepdad works 5 regular days) my stepdad has the idea that my mom has more free time or something. she wont go back to school because she's convinced the house will fall apart if she does.

 

Hmmm. Nearly 75% of people grew up with their mother doing most of the domestic chores - and 18% of people say that their mom and dad share the tasks.

That's a lot of women working without pay.