Domestic Abuse Goes Through The Roof During Lockdown!

Although I am a Male, I myself was a victim of Domestic Abuse during my first Marriage, and many a time I would go to work with scratches on my face as my then Wife tried to almost scratch my eyes out.
So I am speaking from experience here with this particular post.
That was 13 years of hell I can tell you, and it was not easy to get out of with 3 children and many other considerations.

It only ended when she went off with another Man.
Harry Johnston was his name.
Thank you Harry from the bottom of my heart, and I send you lots of virtual hugs!
And if I could meet you from a safe distance, I would treat you to Booze all evening!

I feel so sorry for those people who are suffering even more so than usual during this Corona Virus Pandemic Lockdown, with what is in effect a terrible crime.
The article below is talking about the UK, but I am willing to bet my house that this could now so easily apply to the USA or Canada or Australia or anywhere in the world.

I pray that some how and some way anyone suffering this can escape from this vile and horrible situation.

'Every abuser is more volatile': the truth behind the shocking rise of domestic violence killings

Alison Young lived in lockdown long before Covid-19. For most of her eight-year marriage, her controlling husband only allowed her to leave the house for “authorised trips”.
“That was invariably food shopping and, when I got back, he always checked the receipts, the mileage and searched the car for crumbs in case I’d eaten when I was out, which I wasn’t allowed to do,” she says.

“If you bent the rules or argued back, you didn’t know how he’d react. Sometimes, he’d let me laugh it off, other times, he’d have a knife at my throat – so the fear never left.
It was either just under the surface or spilling out of every pore.”

In the first four weeks of lockdown in the UK, 13 women and four children are believed to have been killed by men, most while shut inside their homes – that’s double the (already mind-bending) average of two women a week.

At the same time, women’s frontline services are reporting record-breaking cries for help. Calls to domestic violence helplines have increased by 120% while traffic to their websites is tripling.
There’s an unprecedented demand for refuge places.

 

Well I just have to say that I am both very surprised and very disappointed that no one has seen fit to make a post in respect of this subject.
I see 114 people have viewed this opening thread title without any response at all.
Would anyone care to put me wise on why?

Or better still.
Give an opinion on this particular news item I have tried to draw some discussion on from members of this forum.

 

some people don't belong together. the solution is to leave , far away

 

At last.
A response.
Thank you.

That's all well and good but some Women are not brave enough to do that as they are very frightened people.

Frightened of beatings and frightened of death.
The article above says that this is happening.

 

i'm not really sure what there is to say about it? yeah, it's awful. unfortunately, it's also not surprising. this (along with an increase in child abuse/neglect) was predicted as soon as the lockdowns started.

i don't know what can be done about it. i really feel bad for the kids; they're really stuck in their shitty situations. i feel bad for the women (and men) in abusive situations, but i also can't understand why so many of them refuse to end it when they are fully capable of doing so.

 

Its just like bullying in childhood you have to make your stand.

The fatal flaw for any abuser is at some point they have to sleep.

 

Lorena Bobbitt Acquitted In Mutilation of Husband


The most extreme case I can think of.

That was going to far she could have bashed him with a frying pan knocked his lights out.

 

Thank you for postings people I do believe there are goodness knows how many domestic abuse cases there are out there, from someone just suffering verbal abuse and mental abuse to someone taking a beating now and again to what you show there.

Has anyone here seen the film Sleeping With The Enemy?
It's quite an old film now, but was a shocker even then, and I recommend you see it if possible.

Sleeping with the Enemy (1991) - IMDb

A young woman fakes her own death in an attempt to escape her nightmarish marriage, but discovers it is impossible to elude her controlling husband.


Storyline
Laura and Martin have been married for four years. They seem to be the perfect, happiest and most successful couple.
The reality of their house- hold, however, is very different. Martin is an abusive and brutally obsessed husband.
Laura is living her life in constant fear and waits for a chance to escape.
She finally stages her own death, and flees to a new town and new identity.
But when Martin finds out that his wife is not dead he will stop at nothing to find and kill her.

 

My wife has been bringing this up since the lockdowns started. This, along with increases in child abuse.

I found Gov. Cuomo’s response to being questioned about the increase in domestic violence interesting. He said, “Domestic violence is bad, but they’re alive”. I found it disturbing how easily he dismissed it, and how he casually dismissed the fact that they didn’t all survive. What a piece of shit.

 

I agree with you in all you say there SP.
What a crass and stupid and awful thing to say.
So they are alive possibly after several beatings and mental and physical abuse over many years.
So that makes it alright does it?
The useless dork!
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Charges and cautions for domestic violence rise by 24% in London

Police have warned of a looming rise in reported domestic abuse cases with some victims currently suffering in silence fearing if their abuser is arrested and becomes unemployed, they and their children will be plunged into poverty.

The Metropolitan police, which covers London, said its officers are arresting an average of 100 people a day for domestic violence offences during the Covid-19 lockdown.

Commander Sue Williams said charges and cautions were up 24% from 9 March, when people with coronavirus symptoms were asked to self-isolate, compared with last year.

She said domestic incidents, which can include family rows not recorded as crimes, were up 3% year on year and 9% between 9 March and 19 April, although offences were up just 2% in the Covid-19 period.

“We are seeing a rise, there’s no doubt about that, and we welcome that because we will take positive action against any perpetrators,” Williams said. “We are arresting about 100 people a day for domestic offences, which I think is pretty amazing, even given all the challenges we have in London.”

Charities said reports to them are up by around a quarter and Williams said policing around the country expects a rush of reports of domestic violence once lockdown is lifted, which is what happened in other countries when restrictions were eased.

This gap between the large rise reported to charities compared with the small increase reported to police has caused concern that victims are unable or unwilling to come forward.

 

I am just catching up on this thread.

I guessed this may happen.

 

It is difficult to see the true picture at times like this.
A lot of domestic violence is mental rather than physical, so I can see why charities are seeing a sharper rise than police who only deal with the later.

Our daughter considers that most of the additional calls are caused by a combination of everyone being at home in such quiet surroundings that they can hear raise voices and people not being able to go out for a few drinks when situations get tense. Most of these calls do not involve activity that constitutes a crime, so they do not appear in statistics.

Perhaps the current situation is causing more bottled up tension to be released, but I question whether the overall amount of domestic violence has increased in real terms.

 

I don't think this is a case of it MAY happen Gal, as there is already overwhelming evidence that it IS happening.
As per my news item info.

 

As per questioning as to whether domestic violence is increasing in real terms wilsjayne, I don't think there is any question about it at all.
There is!

The below ITN news report is just eight hours old, and I find it rather disturbing to say the least.

Domestic abuse killings double and calls to helpline surge by 50% during coronavirus lockdown

Domestic abuse killings doubled over a 21-day period in the lockdown and a national abuse helpline received 49% more calls, a report by MPs revealed.

If urgent steps are not taken to deal with the increasing levels of domestic abuse during the pandemic we will face "serious consequences for a generation", the home affairs select committee warned.

In its report, the committee said the UK – like countries around the world – had seen a rise in domestic abuse since the lockdown restrictions came into effect last month.

Calls to Refuge increased by 49% in the week before 15 April, domestic abuse charity Chayn reported that visits to its website had trebled in March 2020 and the Men’s Advice Line saw an increase in calls of 16.6%.

Research by Counting Dead Women calculated at least 16 domestic abuse killings of women and children had taken place in the first three weeks of the lockdown.

This is double the average rate and the largest number of killings in a three-week period for a decade.

• Concern as more head to domestic abuse websites during lockdown
• Domestic abuse laws to be brought back to Parliament
• Domestic abuse laws should extend to children – report

 

Mother Of God sureno.
Now that is unbelievably BAD!

'Another pandemic': In Latin America, domestic abuse rises amid lockdown

BUENOS AIRES/SANTIAGO/MEXICO CITY/LA PAZ (Reuters) - Lockdowns around Latin America are helping slow the spread of COVID-19, but are having a darker and less-intended consequence: a spike in calls to helplines suggests a rise in domestic abuse, in a region where almost 20 million women and girls suffer sexual and physical violence each year.

In cities from Buenos Aires to Mexico City, Santiago, São Paulo and La Paz, families and individuals have been confined in their homes in an unprecedented way, often only allowed out for emergencies or to shop for essentials.

Prosecutors, victim support teams, women's movements and the United Nations all say this has caused a rise in domestic violence towards women. They cite increasing numbers of calls to abuse hotlines.

In some countries, like Mexico and Brazil, there has been a rise in formal reports of abuse, while in others, including Chile and Bolivia, there has been a drop in formal complaints. Prosecutors and UN Women said the latter was likely not due to a decline in violence, but because women were less able to seek help or report abuse through normal channels.

"The jump in violence has not surprised us, it is the unleashing of a violence that was already there in people," said Eva Giberti, founder of the Victims Against Violence program in Argentina, who helps runs a hotline for women to report abuse.

"Under normal social circumstances that had been limited to some degree."

Argentina's emergency 137 line for abuse victims, supported by the justice department, has seen a 67% rise in calls for help in April versus a year earlier, after a nationwide lockdown was imposed on March 20.

UN Women in a report on Wednesday said there was evidence of rising violence against women in Mexico, Brazil, and Colombia, and a doubling in the number of femicides in Argentina during the quarantine, citing a women's observatory in Mar del Plata.

Pre-pandemic, the Argentine government estimates that a woman was killed every 23 hours.

Domestic violence "seems to be another pandemic," said Lucía Vassallo, a film maker whose documentary "Line 137" looks at the issue.

'THEY DARE NOT GO OUT'

Rising concern over domestic abuse has been global, with fears victims are being silenced in Italy, calls for help from women rising in Spain, and systems to prevent child abuse in the United States hampered by the lockdown.

In Latin America, the fear is that violence against women that was already prevalent is being exacerbated further. The region has seen huge marches and strikes by women over the last year against male aggression and abuse.

 

I doubt that the additional murders are happening out of the blue among people with no history of domestic abuse.

In the area that our daughter deals with, a high percentage of abuse calls are to the same families all the time. Several of these groups have committed serious assaults, some involving life threatening injuries, but without the victims cooperation the cycle continues.
With these families stuck together 24/7 and the bars closed, it is a small step to murder.

I an sure that mental abuse exists in your country, but unless physical violence is involved, their are no reliable statistics.

 

Lives? We can't all respond on your timetable. Anyway I read your OP then read this post and lost all interest to reply. I mean... give us a chance dude

 

I wasn't expecting everyone to respond to MY timetable bagel.
The thread had been started for a few days, and I was just expressing surprise at the fact that there had been absolutely no response from well over a 100 people who had viewed the subject.
That is all.
End of!

I was wondering why?
That is all, and quite reasonable to my mind.

If for whatever reason you lost all interest to reply, that is absolutely your prerogative.

Anyway.
My doing that second post has bumped the subject and has garnered some meaningful response, so job done as far as I am concerned.

 

RIGHT!
But I guess that if you or I tried to make a meaningful conversation about that it would possibly generate some bad mouth replies, and I don't want to upset my day!

 

There was no significant difference in the prevalence of domestic abuse for men and women aged 16 to 59 years1 in the year ending March 2019 compared with the year ending March 2018. ... This compared with 6.5% of men and 11.1% of women in the year ending March 2005.

In the year ending March 2019, an estimated 2.4 million adults aged 16 to 74 years experienced domestic abuse in the last year (1.6 million women and 786,000 men). The police recorded 746,219 domestic abuse-related crimes in the year ending March 2019, an increase of 24% from the previous year.

domestic violence statistics - Search - Office for National Statistics