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Discussion in 'Transexual and Transgender' started by Well I'm curious, Feb 5, 2021.

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  1. Well I'm curious

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    Serious question. Are TG people open to men who want to hookup with them.
    Some might find them genuinely attractive or simply want to have intimacy with a trans person, it doesn't mean exploit but simply find mutual fun from testing that attraction and intimacy or do many Trans people feel they are being sought out as an experiment as opposed to mutual intimacy?
    Do women ever pursue trans people?
    Many of us are in a different space that we may never meet let alone be close to trans. Be it loving in a small town, family reasons, married or simply not so open as about sex, sexuality or relationships. Or maybe open to people but living in a world that is not be it career reason s or demographic or just don't want a long term relationship but open to being open and mutual benefit s
     
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    There are definitely trans and nonbinary ppl in small towns. Its not just a city thing.

    Trans men are men. Trans women are women.

    If you are a straight cis woman, being with a trans man doesn't mean you're a lesbian.
    If you are a straight cis man, being with a trans woman doesn't mean you're gay.
     
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    Yes I'm sure they are in small towns but they are in small numbers and may be more open, accepted and better represented on the city's either by clubs, community or social gatherings.
    I would not mind betting like minded people are attracted to the city for those reasons.
    There are gay people in small towns but they don't partner up easily as small towns often mean country towns and the general population will most likely be pretty straight and I'm pretty sure by any measure the ratio of lbgqt etc people will be higher proportionately in the city.

    I'm not asking how you identify. Or if it makes you gay. I'm asking about trans people engaging with people who till that point identified as heterosexual is a thing. Do trans fuck straight people, I know some would but it seems some might see guys trying to hook up seeing them as a novelty item.

    Many straight people would say taking hormones, breast implants font make you a female if you have a doodle. If you were born a boy physically you are male. Identifying as a girl does not make you a girl. Oh today I don't identify. What is that. Nature did not make a neutral gender.

    I'm asking if trans like to fuck straight guys. I've met at least one colleague who had the full sex change, Legally classed as female I guess and I believe the preference was aale partner.

    I'm straight, heterosexisl at this point, is Curious a label? I deem we should add that to the ABC alphabet chart of sexual identity.
    Lbgtqf & curious let's make curious the 2021 addition to the list.

    Does anyone like to hookup with curious guys, if you still have a doodle and engage in sex with men who can now identify as curious how does the Trans identify? Is it gay if both partners have penises? Or is it T&C terms and conditions?
     
  4. Well I'm curious

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    Come over here with me,

    If we play dress ups and I play the girl will you I be able to identify as whatever I want? Afterall it is 2021 and with 2020 going to shit they did not add a new letter to the list last year.
    If I dress up and you fuck me and Stoke me til. I vum
     
  5. KathyL

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    Why would a trans person want someone who is interested in them because they are trans? Trans people are people first. If you are interested in me because I am pretty or interesting or athletic, fine. (Except I am happily married, so I am not interested.) If you are interested in me because I am trans, then get lost. That's creepy.

    Trans people, like cis people, can be straight, gay, bi, asexual, or any other orientation. Being trans has nothing to do with sexuality. Most do not change their orientation when they transition. If they liked women before, they typically like women after. If they liked men before, they like men after. Most start out with a partner, and most would prefer to keep that partner, although it often doesn't work out that way.
     
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    I wondered when you were going to respond with some common sense wisdom. Thank you.
     
  7. FWKbi

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    What if the interest is because you feel a kinship, like I'm in a Flux of who I am, I'm pretty sure I'm bi, get turned on by seeing an appealing women, sometimes but rarely get turned on by a guy in clothes, but seeing a man naked turns me on, and I like being the woman when I'm with a guy.

    So in my mind I see parallels in personality, so I think I would be with someone who gets me, that we don't need to be in the "standard" roles.
     
  8. KathyL

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    If the interest is in the individual and their personality, then fine. More power to you.

    But what is this kinship you feel with people you don't know? How is that possible? What do you know of my personality, for example, other than what I post on the forum? How can you see any parallels? Being a transgender woman is very, very different from being a cisgender, bisexual man.

    From this end, that kind of interest feels like, "Duh, Ah think Ah'll have me one of those." It makes a girl feel like a sex object, something disposable and worthless. No one wants to be treated as a check mark on a score sheet.

    Treat women (cis or trans) like women. Individuals. Get to know their personalities before you say you feel kinship with them.
     
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    Why do some people treat trans as a sexual object? They are people with feelings also and that should come 1st and taken into consideration.
     
  10. FWKbi

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    one answer is to feel comfortable with someone else who wouldn't judge me. It's like you might go to a lecture on philosophy, meet someone, and think we have a common interest let me ask them out, you still don't know anything about them, but you both have an interest in a specific aspect of philosophy. Of the interest in a trans person would be on a more personal mutual connection.
     
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    I tried to cover it in my first thread.
    I'm not seeing them as a sex object.
    But some people might generally see a person being trans as the attraction.
    Yes there should be other mutual attraction but maybe for some it might be the attraction.
    Not a secual conquest but an attraction bto the physical attributes of the person and being with a person with those aspects.

    I get it , some guys might want a trans to top them. That's because they find the idea of that person, sexuality of physical aspects appealing. That mightean the person finds them pretty, athletic or attractive. There is likely to be some attractions and and in some cases there will be people who do want to hookup with others no strings attached. Whatever they identify as others might want a relationship with certain types of people.
    No different to a person being attracted to people of the opposite sex.
    I am mostly attracted to women. I could be inclined to hookup with someone because I'm curious about how that would feel, if it's a mutual connection who cares.
     
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  12. KathyL

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    Beware of making assumptions about physical attributes. Most trans women are not the "shemales" that you see in porn. They might not have the physical attributes that you might be attracted to.

    I agree that, if there is a mutual connection, it is none of anyone else's business. If you get to that point, then it may be acceptable to ask about their physical attributes.
     
  13. Well I'm curious

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    Hi Kathy,
    I don't really watch shemale porn but there are a lot of things that might appeal if I had the opportunity to experiment with different people.
    I never thought about having sex with a person who has had a sec change. I worked with one once although not closely.
    If it were the right person and a mutual attraction why not. But granted I'm sure it's not the same as a person who was born a female.
    When I say physical attributes I probably mean various things including body type/shape, boobs, a pretty face or maybe a cock, something I have not had any experience with other than my own.

    I'm a typical male I still find women attractive who have nice figures and pretty faces or that generally would be noticed by the majority,
    Sleeping with a trans person who you find attractive might be one thing but maybe it is also a turn on to sleep with people who for whatever reason their different sexuality might appeal or be part of the attraction.
    Not meaning to be demeaning or weird but some things might turn people on, even if that's not what you want them to see on you.
     
  14. KathyL

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    "Different sexuality"? What does that mean in your fantasies? Most trans women have very conventional sexualities. In my experience, and I know quite a lot, most trans women are lesbian. A significant portion are straight. Those who still have a penis would rather not use it, and many can't. They are women, and, if they want a man at all, they want the man to treat them like women, not like gay men.

    There are a few trans women who have a fully-functioning penis and like to use it. There is a member here who brags about his girlfriend being like that. It works for them. If that's what you are into, and if you find a suitable partner, more power to you. But that is a tiny minority of the trans population.

    I am not into men. But if I were, I would only be interested in someone who was interested in me as a woman. If I thought the guy was interested because I am trans, he would be out the door, because that is weird and demeaning. And creepy. The majority of trans women I know would agree with me.
     
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