Does this make me a bad person?

So I just found out this guy I like broke up with his gf and when I found out I think I giggled like a school-girl. I was very excited. I feel kinda bad about being excited about that, but it's not the first time I've felt that way about guys I like breaking up with their girlfriends.

 

Nah, that doesn't make you a bad person. Hopefully you can take advantage of a poor wounded heart

 

I'm taking advantage alright. actually he doesn't seem upset at all
And I was taking advantage before the break up too but its a different story now. Much more fun.

 

Good luck and have fun!!!! Maybe drink the wine. haha

 

Don't be the rebound chic. Just a fuck buddy and bye bye.

How would it make you a bad person? They didn't break up over you did they? If you didn't home wreck it, No reason in the world to not giggle and be happy, You might have a chance to be happy if it all works to your favor.

 

No. I didn't do anything unethical. It just feels odd to be glad someone ended their relationship
Other than that I'm just in it for the fun. I'm no ones fuck buddy. No offense to anyone who's into that kind of thing.

 

I don't think so. I've actively persuaded girls I like to break up with guys.

My general rule of thumb is if he's a decent guy and they're happy, I shouldn't get involved. But if she's unhappy or he's a jerk, fair game. If I don't know the guy, 9 out of 10 odds he's a jerk... I know guys.

 

of course that doesn't make you a bad person. bad people are made by a combination of genes and upbringing.

being a bad person could potentially make you laugh at others' misfortunes though.

 

No, it doesn't!

 

Yes, it does.

 

Perhaps if she would act upon it in a dubious way but not at this point. Why does it in your eyes (if you're serious)?

 

Hey, I just answer silly questions with silly answers.

 

Thanks for clarifying, I'll remember for future posts :biggrin:

 

doesn't make you a bad person, after all the Germans invented a word for it - schadenfreude

 

I don't think schadenfreude is meant for such events.

 

It is a little mhuahaha but unless you actively tried to make the break up happen then no, I don't feel that it makes you a bad person.

 

Why isn't there a proper english word for that? It's not just the germans who invented a word to fit the definition properly. Here it's called leedvermaak. There's a dutch saying: leedvermaak is het beste vermaak. It often seems to ring true. And yeah, it doesn't really fit the situation of the op since the reason she giggled wasn't pure schadenfreude.

 

No, he just likes to troll every post I make.

Also, let's say it was more than just a giggle, it was also an "I knew it!" and a "game on". Then I got a little more personal than usual.

I really didn't know anything about the girl, I have let guys know, if I'm really interested to let me know if they happen to become single. I didn't really do that with this guy at all though. It was and still is strictly platonic, but I am on the prowl. I just want to see if I could get him. I was just there, just in case he was interested before, just making my presence known, at this point, I'm doing it strictly for my own ego.

 

there is no such thing as a bad person. just a lot of really stupid things a lot of people do.