Do you...

haha trust me, its possible

 

i know i think so. i get along really well with them now. i must confess, i'm an acquired taste, so i dont' really hold a grudge. i've also become very independent. everyone else is still living at mom's, you know?

 

haha exactly.

and its like I am thankful somewhat for them treating me different and such cause I see the way my siblings act and would kill myself if I was like them..

 

yes easily

 

My father dislikes me.

 

not only do I think it is possible, but I believe it's actually quite common. While you may not want to admit it, or maybe even can't notice it, if you have a straight a child who's headed for Harvard, and a 17 yr old crackhead daughter who's pregnant, wouldn't you prefer one of hte two?

I know that's a bit extreme, but whether you mean to or not you can't help but have a preference IMO.

 

I completely misunderstood this the first time.......

 

haha well my threads are always hard to understand...

 

My mother and I don't get on too well and never have. I won't bore you with details.

On the flip side, she's a very nice person. She's kind to animals and gives a lot to her friends and strangers. This is kind of a shit answer, but try to build a relationship on what you do have in common. My mom and I both like Stephen King and animals. I admire her kindness, her organizational skills, and the depth of her feeling when she really does care. No one is completely bad; build a relationship based on things in common and things you admire about her.

 

I cracked the code...


I'm sorry you got crappy parents. It's just the luck of the draw, I guess. You have to look at the positive side, you are independant and not a whiner. Your mother should be slapped for not being there when you had surgery or calling, though.....
Have you tried to have a relationship with them? Could they think that it's you who doesn't like them? I had bad times with my parents years ago and thought they never wanted me. There have been hard feelings on both sides, and I still feel that my sibs get all the coddling, but I figure that's what makes them so needy, and I'm glad I'm me.

Write them all out of your will.

 

yes

 

I tried to talk to them, especially my mother but nothing ever comes of it. I dont ever make a big production out of it because i am grown now and am doing okay.
I have been moved out for about 5 years and they only visited me ONE time and that was the move date to help me move my shit...and that was it. Never once did they visit me. When i had my major surgery two years ago and was in the hospital for a week, no call, no visit. When i arrived home, she called me and said that she got me a few things and that i owed her 20 bucks and that i need to come and get them. Even though where she bought the groceries was only a block away what a loon
But i just know i am better off not really knowing them, and not make a huge ordeal about it cause I am A-OKAY!!
Damn straight there not getting in my will