Do You Want Your Bf/dh To Spoil You?

Do you like when men spend money on you? How about when they give you spending money? Is that a requirement? If not, then what's the difference between a bf/dh and a long term fwb?

 

I like to think I could treat him too, that we could share the cost of say, a night out, a meal!
Spending money? That's like sick!
If I'm earning, I have my spending money, if he was pushing money on to me, that would be like, wtf!
But if he knew I wanted something, and he wanted to get it, then what's the harm?
It's 2016, everyone deserves a treat, and a surprise sometimes, goes both ways!

 

Then what's the difference between your ltr's and fwb's? And why do you think getting spending money is sick?

 

dh=designated hitter?

 

Dear husband

 

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He would get mad because that's not his role. On the other hand, if I gave a 10 to my mother, she would see it as a kind gesture and like she was just on my mind that morning.

What did you do to deserve it? You're beautiful!

 

... So, i dunno nor really care about the feminism/housewife quandry here.
However, in addition to which ever of us has the cash on hand for a need or feasible want of the other is the one who pays it. From grocceries/meals to car parts to phone bills. In addition, i cut my tips by almost half and slip them into the car stash spot for my long term boyfriend to use as he needs. Likewise, when he pulls a band from the bank account for whatever he'll slide me anywhere from $20 to $150 to have on hand for whatever i may need or to add to my next big personal investment.

Fuck buddies never really had need to involve spending money either way except maybe on condoms, but usually bringing shit was expected. If i hosted we smoked pot usually, if they we drank most of the time - on the respective hosts dimes.

Casual dating, and relationships pre cohabitation; fucking of course i like when he picks up the tab for our "date" and when he treats me (mostly still in food or pot) and i like doing it for him just as much.
Doing shit like that - cutesy cuddly let's-fuck-in-the-car-before-we-even-make-it-home type shit - in any sense you can/want, are able, and the other person will actually appreciate is what that stage of relationships is all about.

 

It makes me uncomfortable for anyone to give me money, or spend money on me. No thanks, I've got my own.

 

I feel like being a woman is bullshit, that women are second class citizens, that men get away with more, and that the least they could do is spend money on us.

 

And then sexism will go away and it will no longer be a man's world?

 

hmm, seems to me like women are the ones that can get away with most anything. the world is pretty strict on men.

 

Wow, how do you figure?

 

Lol. No. When I want to be spoiled, I spoil myself. I do not need a man for that.

 

Not in any real sense. Guys sometimes allow themselves to be manipulated by a pretty smile and a vagina, but that doesnt mean women actually have advantages in any real sense of the word.


Just the fact that our best advantage is that we're pretty and have vaginas kind of indicates we dont have any real advantages, yes?

 

I don't buy the idea that one gender is entirely more advantaged than the other (all in all). In some ways women are more advantaged than men, and men more advantaged than women. There are also different double standards that men and women both face. I don't care to list out all the advantages I feel that both men and women have over each other at this time.