Do You Think Sex Addiction Exists?

I think anything is addictive, if it becomes destructive and to me destructive behavior is anything that causes the person, not the behavior to be socially unaccepted and inactive. So, if it's not destructive, as in the person is socially accepted and socially active, but that person does it often and they form an attachment to it, I think that's just a vice.

Basically, here is a habit, as in vice, that is not considered socially just to the majority, but it's something that someone can do while still being socially accepted and socially active, meaning it's not destructive, therefore it's not addictive. For example, smoking, having a lot of sex, drinking a lot of coffee, cutting or other forms of self-mutilation, etc. But, it becomes addictive when it's becomes destructive and what is destructive? Well, when it causes the person to be socially unaccepted and socially inactive.

And I know I'm putting a lot of emphasis on other people's perception of an individual and their vices or addictions, and I'm forgetting the perception of the person, themselves. So, I also do think it's a matter of what the person's individual identification system is. If they think it's an addiction, it's going to be an addiction. And odds are, they're going to act like it is an addiction, as in act socially inactive, so that outsiders can perceive them as socially unaccepted. So, it all ties together.

So, don't think it's an addiction, lol! It's just a vice because a lot of people have vices as coping mechanisms. I don't think everyone has vices because I truly believe that there are enlightened individuals who don't need attachments of any kind, but I think it's rare.

 

It is a natural phenomena to seek sexual outlets unless you are psychologically repressed. It has become more in the public eye because of the media (including the Internet) and also because of the increase in opportunity as a result of affluence and well being. Solo sex must have existed since Biblical times at least!

It is ironic that in areas where there is acute deprivation and little money (or prospects for it) there is more sexual activity and (more importantly) too many unwanted children who add to the general absence of welfare.

 

I can understand why porn addiction or solo sex can be addictive, because your mind is so sexually stimulated without the body being in the least involved, but seeing that the muscle cramps you get days after proper sex with someone else are so immense, days after you had it, I think the chances of being addicted to actual sex with another person are about as large as being addicted to using your treadmill.

 

You get muscle cramps after having sex??

 

A whole hour of shaking my hips whilst humping will do that to me, sometimes. Maybe I'm just growing old.

 

I absolutely believe that it is real, and I believe the people who are at risk are those who were repressed as adolescents and young adults. It becomes an obsession and they feel like they have to make up for lost time.

 

It exists. While, at face value, the notion of sex addiction seems a little absurd (like, duh! We're all sex addicts!) there's a difference between the healthy exercise of intimacy between consenting adults (and there are many shades of healthy sex that can look quite depraved to an uninitiated, vanilla-missionary type who prays before sex and asks Jesus for forgiveness after an orgasm) and pathological sex that is disruptive to a positive life trajectory or habitual sexual behavior that hurts others or yourself, mentally, physically or both. A sex addict undertakes sex compulsively, does not consider the consequences of their compulsions, tolerates unreasonable or unacceptable risk, etc. etc.

In other words, if you don't have enough self control to keep your dick or your pussy from getting you into trouble or you take sexual risks that healthy people wouldn't take, then you may be a sex addict.

Just like some people can enjoy alcohol in a responsible manner for their entire lives, LOVE alcohol and drinking, sometimes getting really good and drunk even (when appropriate), and other people simply can't control their urges with alcohol consumption or do so in a destructive manner, there are people that love sex responsibly and some people have their love for sex become pathological.

 

Yeah I think it does people get so consumed with how something makes them feel whether it be sex or drugs food whatever if someone allows themselves to become so consumed with the sensation that follows a particular act so consumed that they lose touch with their lives then yes yes I feel it is an addiction