Do You Think Sex Addiction Exists?

Some people are just base and nasty, some just go through a phase. It's a excuse for base nasty people tey think makes it ok....'cause they're addicted...so they get to
Part of the current "MY illness!", "MY medication!"....disease and weakness ownership/indentification ploy ~

 

I am addicted to sex, it's a feeling no other known addiction could give to me, but then again I refuse to fall into other addictions like gambling or drugs. Sex is my drug.
Mind you I am not addicted to the point of cheating on anyone. When I am in a relationship I can't get enough, day or night I could want it, every night anyway unless I am sick.
It fixes my issues, like a bad mood or a bad feeling, after a disagreement with my S/O, after a long day, a bad day with the business which isn't often but it happens, it's just what I need to make things balance out. Now if I had someone who didn't share my interests or was an asshole about sex it wouldn't be the same for me then. Because it's a wonderful thing between me and my partner it's fix and always has been, like some who would go for a much deserved massage at a spa or to take a day off from the working world.

Edited to add,,,
A friend had a contract by his landlord to manage a house he was living in that included an apartment for others as well. The contract meant year to year he would get a cheaper rent for changing light bulbs, furnace filters, repairing piping, taps and a whole lot of other things since the landlord lived 4 hours away.
Now he wants this friend of mine to move because he can rent it all another way for more bucks so he wants to push my friend out in a month. The idea he had was my friend leave on short notice with $600.00 bucks in his pocket.
Well to cash out on a contract he had to pay my friend his security, ($850.00) deposit and about three grand in cash. That was my figures take or give a few bucks. I went to battle with this older man I never met before and after two days my friend walks out with signed papers agreeing he will get his full security deposit back, $850.00 plus $2500.00 in cash for the remaining contract cost he was done out on by being asked to leave. Yippeeeee! He is happy to leave with more then the $600.00 he was offered which is less then the security deposit alone. And one nasty cheap ass chinssy landlord is mad as hell about meeting me for two days of war that he lost with his wife screaming down his neck for being a dumbass.
What sucks for this guy is my friend knew someone who was a landlord for many years who could do battle for him. It's done, it was stressful, Now I need sex! I didn't get any last night because the battle ended so late and I had to get up early so I AM getting some tonight!

 

I really do think it exists. I think anything can be an addiction. Or minds can get fixated on certain things, I wouldn't doubt it.

 

I agree. I think some people have addictive personalities and can just replace one addiction for another. I think sex addiction is related to OCD.

 

I don't see it as OCD, that would mean it had to happen as one wanted it, be it the same positions, finishing up the same way or even cleaning up after in a same way since OCD is about same all the time.
I have dealt with OCD and it's a funny thing, not about feeling good and wanting or being able to do something but Having to do it every time the same way, like making sure things are put away, closing all cupboard doors, even licking the drops off your coffee mug, habits that are developed and are hard to break with or without help.
I like my sex but there's nothing that has to be done any certain way each and every time, but yet I might be OCD about cupboard doors not being closed. Even in someone else's house I want to push an open cupboard door in their kitchen closed of I see it not totally closed, that is my one OCD. I would think if someone had sex with someone who was OCD about it, it would drive that other person nuts.
Addiction is a totally different class of mental issue then OCD, at least in my experience with myself and other people with OCD.

 

^^I'm not sure that I would consider you a sex addict. After all, it doesn't seem to be interfering with your life and the lives of those around you in a negative way and you seem relatively happy.

 

Oh ya, I am an addict alright, I get kinda nasty if it isn't happening like some women get grumpy during their period. It's no where's like an OCD but I really do want it every day, just like my uncle wants to go to his casino every day, at least once a day.
I can blame my mind or my inner body Just like an alcoholic because I like it, have to have it and the only time I don't care for it is when I am not in a relationship but to hold out on my guy over anger like some women can,,, I am the first calling for it. I think my first hubby and I ended at nine years because he wasn't into it as much as I was even tho he wasn't really going away from it, just slowed down a lot from where we started. I can say I am happy but if BF slows down and I don't it might make things as you said, an interference in a negative way.
If something makes you feel good like gambling or smoking dope maybe and you want it and you push for it or make a fuss over not getting it I think that makes it an addiction. Seriously, I would rather have sex then go out for a nice dinner with my guy when we are short for time and choices have to be made.
Another addiction I had was going to yard sales like some of my friends but I curbed that many years ago even tho I get a hankering to do it still on Saturday and Sunday mornings. It was necessary and I did it every weekend even if I didn't buy stuff, I had to go. One friend I have has to go still and it kills him if his new wife says no, he has enough stuff. He is having a time trying to let go of the need.

 

anything you enjoy a lot and do a lot of is merely an interest

when you have so much problem controlling whether or not you actually do an item to the point you are harming either yourself or others (and by harm I don't mean upsetting their silly "codes") then it is an addiction. Sure you can do this with sex. Slut etc are non-issues, as long as you are not hurting anyone be free

 

Sex addiction is no more of an excuse to cheat then alcohal addiction is. That would be an all about me addiction for cold hearted selfish people that put themselves above all others including the ones they pretend to love.

 

as long as you also blame everyone else addicted to anything for anything they do related to their addition then you are being consistent

 

I suppose .

 

I agree

 

I think Sex Addiction is yet another label that people use to conveniently classify or put other people down with. There are probably men, and women, driven by some form of insecurity to make as many sexual 'conquests' as they can to try to reassure themselves in some way. I don't think that's an 'addiction' though, more of a symptom of some underlying pathology as most addictions are.

I'm not like that. I just like to fuck.

 

There is another side to it. "I have an X addiction" is a way to take responsibility off of one's own actions and put it on DISEASE.

"Its not my fault....., I have a DISEASE"

 

Where is the line. When is it an addiction and when is it just having a good time. I have had slutty periods in my life, I admit it, but I never felt as if I was addicted to sex. . .Ok so just a little.

 

The line is somewhere around "its interfering with the other parts of my life".

 

I believe that it can be an addiction to the extent that-how do I say that... I believe that some people use sex, just like some people use gambling or porn or going on shopping sprees... -I believe people can have unhealthy, compulsive habits (probably to fill a hole inside their self, but that's neither here nor there...)--- and then when they do the unhealthy, compulsive thing and it fills some kind of need, hole or void that they have...their brain thinks "ohhh, this worked! this worked!"--- so the compulsion continues and the habit grows stronger.

HOWEVER.... I believe HEROIN ADDICTION is a brain disease. There is science to that. Opiates change your opiate receptors and it is permanent. I do NOT believe sex addiction or any other addiction such as this is a brain disease... so, not a physical addiction. So something that the person ONLY HAS TO BREAK THE COMPULSION (and possibly fill the void elsewhere)... there is no physical addiction to break. And since alcoholics or opiate addicts cannot use their (brain diseases) addictions as excuses for BEHAVIOR.... then a so-called "sex addict" has no excuse for behavior either. (and really even much less so than the other examples.)

Many times..often times... I think when I hear someone say they are a "sex addict" and then go on to talk about their compulsive behavior and who they hurt, what they did, blah blah. I think sure, I'm sure you have a compulsion. But just grow up. Everyone has to deal with stuff. You're making excuses. And when it comes down to it... if it is an addiction, it's not a (brain) disease--- and it's pretty much all just excuses and being weak.

 

Interfering with rest of life AND the inability to control behavior when you try to.

 

I must be addicted to sex means, I have wanted to do in the morning, afternoon and evening, but luckily I can control

 

There might be such a thing as sex addiction, but I think, given the great bodily stress you get when having sex, that resembles that of physical excersise in the gym, I think compared to porn addictions or masterbation, an actual sex addiction must be rare.