hi there.. Im new Im thinking about getting deeadlocks but I'm worried I won't be able to pull them off. I like them and have always wanted them, but worried Im just going to look ridiculous. I am in my late 20s, a mother of 3 young children, a little overweight, pretty strait laced, dont drink much, don't do any recreational drugs, dont listen to bob marlry and not interested in rastafarianism at all, its not my cultural heritage, im caucasian and Australian... feel like Im pretty boring lol. Im also very shy and don't like to draw a lot of attention to myself and feel I might need a bit more self confidence for dreadlocks. I tend to dress relatively conservative. I am a vegan and I care a lot about the environment and sustainability. Im also a creative soul, enjoy thought provoking art, design, and music. I like the idea of dreads because they deem easier to style and look good than my normal hair which is slightly wavy and very frizzy and I dont like to use product or spend time straightening. I love that you can tie a knot in it and go rather than fuss around with bobby pins and hair ties. I guess I would like to change my look to suit more what I am on the inside, not what I "should" be on the outside. But maybe dreadlocks should be the last step not the first, I dont know... thoughts? also Im thinking about going to a loctician and getting the crochet method done. I know people tend to not like that method. But what can I say, I want them to look neat instantly. other thing is I'm studying to be a remedial massage therapist. its kind of important to come across as clean and neat and professional... worried dreads may effect my job prospects. very much appreciate your thoughts xx
It will draw attention fasho. People are curious and like to ask questions. Comes with the territory I guess. My hair locking made things easier on me than harder. Thats why I likes em'. Finding a boss that does as well can most definitely be a challenge. Id do it if I were you. Your a chick. Women can make locks look all proper n stuff. Dudes, just end up looking....wook'ish haha.
ok so I just read the faq. hope i didnt ask anything too stupid... the job thing was covered there. oops. maybe I should post a pic of myself so you guys can tell me what u think. if I knew how to post a pic!
yeh I was thinking maybe wearing a headscarf or head wrap for work purposes might help, if they are partially or fully covered (id prefer partially!)
ok this is me. Au naturale. will delete in a couple of days, call me old fashioned but I feel weird about pictures of myself floating around online. sorry I don't know how to rotate it.
When I was talking about getting dreadlocks I was told "You cant do those, you don't have the right personality for it!" Ill echo the same thing I told her, "What does your personality have to do with your hairstyle?"
:iagree: Do it not for what others think - but for what you wish to feel - Conviction of Conscience may not always pay the bills, but contentment of the Mind, Body, Spirit and Heart, is not something which others have the righ to influence = methinks
First of all, when it comes to cleanliness, don't worry about what people are saying. Dreadlocks are very clean if you do them correctly. And there are ways to keep them pulled back neatly so as to cause less attention. Not using product on my hair was a huge reason I got dreads as well. My hair is bland and boring and can never decide if it wants to be straight, curly, or frizzy, and I got sick of dying my hair every two months. Its a mess and a hassle and I hate exposing myself to all of those chemicals. As far as going to a loctician, I can't really help you on that one because everyone is different about their dreads and allowing my hair to dread on its own is what felt right for me. I had a friend work on them for about two hours when I first did them and now I only palm roll maybe once a month. It seems like what you want in your lifestyle would suit dreads very well, no matter which way you do it. And about calling attention to yourself. I hate it too, but if it makes you feel any better, I hear more people whispering than anything and if anyone says anything to me it's just to compliment and to ask questions. I also have less people being rude, overpowering, and causing drama around me, I've noticed. I don't know if that's due to my entire demeanor or if people are in general more intimidated by me. It's crazy how much one thing can change people's attitudes toward you so dramatically. Good luck on your dread journey. I always encourage people to go the dread route if they're thinking about it, it's definitely one of the best decisions I have made for myself.
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