Do you share thoughts of others when having sex?

I saw some comments about this being a turn off. When one thinks what their mate is thinking about a sexual experience with someone else it shuts them down sexually.

I guess we are different. If my wife sees I am having difficulty achieving an orgasm she will go thru many scenarios of past sexual experiences either she or I have discussed in the past just trying to help me. Actually this is so common. Yesterday as we were doing it she actually said try to remember when you were sucking his dick on that bed in his cabin. Your dick was in his mouth and his in yours. She went into greater detail and sure enough it materialized in my mind and bam I came hard.

Afterwards she said do you miss the dick in your mouth. I said sometimes but when you make me cum the feeling passes so no worries. She said I am not worried I just wondered if we should set something up for you to experience again. I said no.

She is very thoughtful.

 

Yes, sometimes we do. Since we are newbies in the Lifestyle we do talk about other couples we would like to fuck. We are very open with each other and share our thoughts freely. Absolutely, No jealousy.

 

I like to hear my wife talk about her experiences with others while we have sex. For example, when I tease her clitoris with the head of my cock, she might say, "Oh yes, Steve loved to do that to me." I like to think about her times with others, all of which took place either when were dating in college or after we married.

 

When we were active my spouse and I began to exchange scenarios about sex with someone we knew, or maybe didn't but saw, who either of us were attracted to and recounted prior partners sex habits. She might utter his name to me as if directing (inset name) to keep doing it like that. I would call out (insert name) saying how much I liked her tight pussy. Many scenarios of ours included the fantasy of having someone else joined our love making. We did this from time to time removing the monotony of boring sex. But then we also did a lot of other things outside the normal pattern of kissing to oral to intercourse to orgasm to afterglow in our sex life together.

These days when I'm with a partner I am so enthralled in her I don't need to spice it up with scenarios like that. The women I have sex with are just for that. Sex and sex alone, no emotions before or after. During that time I am exploring and gaining carnal knowledge of her and her body which is spice enough. If I ever have a fuck buddy long enough I might introduce such play into our trysts. But for now there is no need.

 

Hey Barry, that statement describes just about every relationship I have ever had. I won't get into them but, Is it possible for you to compare the non emotional relationship with a typical deep felt emotional relationship that most seem to become involved in.

For me, once I understood more about myself deep within, I see ALL relationships as only that "relationships." There is for lack of a better term, connection without entanglement."

For me both live a totally FREE life without the fear of anything that usually knock around people in "deep love for each other" type of relationships. Life together hits higher highs without the lows. Its a freedom that few seem to experience.

Can you give a little explaination as to how your scenario and mine may be the same of differ.