Do you look like the people you look up to?

This might be a convoluted post, because I have quite a few ideas here, but here's a start.

I was thinking about beauty, and in that thread I was talking about how I've gotten a lot of compliments about my looks, but I don't think it was actually about my looks. I think that people perceive beauty based on memories and values.

For instance, if someone of a certain aesthetic made a big impact on their life, they view people who look similar, as beautiful. I think the reason people viewed me as attractive was because of presentation and similarity to someone important to them or someone who represented a certain memory or value system. Of course attraction is also related to overall health, but that's not really what I'm talking about here.

I was thinking about my own upbringing and how my ideas of beauty and aesthetics were created by those first 12 or so years of life. First of all, it was my grandma, and the other women in my family that I first perceived as beautiful. Most of them don't really look like me, they have lighter skin and lighter eyes. I have since learned that according to others I do look like them, but I never perceived that as true, because my mom has darker skin, darker eyes, and even different hair, and curvier bodies, so that's how I saw things. I'm somewhere in between my mom and the rest of my family.

Then, there were teen magazines that I started reading. Maybe there were even classic novels I read as a child. There were teachers and camp counselors. There was a lot of musicians too that shaped that. I watched a lot of TV, watched MTV constantly and had the radio on 24/7 in my 10-12 years.

I always wanted to be either more like my mom or more like the other members of my family, in terms of looks. At some point, in my early teens I became fascinated by the hippie era, but also other generations of the past and my aesthetics changed. My preferences now reflect that, because since then I found a lot of people who were less tied to modern trends to be happier, more interesting, more productive people, and that tied in with my values. So people who look more like they are a part of that community are more attractive to me now.

This might be too much for random thoughts, but I'm just throwing it out here, what do you think?

 

Interesting. Do you mean aesthetics as actual looks, or as someone's style, how they dress, do their hair, etc.?

 

I mean all of the above...it can be any or all of those things. Thanks for asking Le Aura.

 

There isn't really anyone I look up to. If I did, looks wouldn't factor into the equation.

 

The only people I ever looked up to were my parents and some school teachers who I felt were caring and smart.
Yes I look some bit like my parents altho time difference in our ages makes us dress quite differently and appreciate different things. So do I look like them? No, probably not much at all except I have some of their physical structure in shape, facial features and in mind but again we all appreciate many things of our time but again, my dad will come to my house from the island to fix his car with me and a group of my friends to put toys on and make modifications, odd yes because I am a chic but we do appreciate many things alike. My mom and I however don't always see eye to eye on many things so while dad is here and we do many things together my mom will do her thing.
I heard some people say that some people tend to look like their dogs after a while,,, so this is kind of what I am thinking you mean, we grow together kinda thing. Or couples look kind of alike in their ways and how they get along well together.

 

Well I guess I might look like my parents.

 

For me personally it has changed with time. The familial is with out doubt a measure that I have been aware of since childhood. Genetics are a factor in personal physical looks.

As I aged and changed then other influences came into play. That was from looking at beauty techniques and styles to learning to accentuate positives in myself. Basically to be comfortable with who I am. This ,I think, is a life long journey of sorts as what was comfortable when I was 20 or 30 is not at 50 in some cases and yet in other areas it still is.

It is not a matter of self acceptance or valuing beauty .it for me is more a feeling of being happy with who I am. I am not a primping kind of person but I also am aware that what I present is what is seen at first and that is what others make assumptions on. I do not aspire to be a "beauty" but I do aspire to present myself in any situation as being put together and presentable.

 

I am the younger female version of my dad. I am a cross between him and my mom looks wise. It depends on who you talk to as to who I look more like. Personality wise I'm a lot like my dad. Even at my age, he's my hero.

 

yeah, i look up to myself and i look a lot like me.

the only other person i can think of that i ever really looked up to had a giant head and really looked nothing like me.

 

Not then but he does now.


Hahahahahahaa

 

i neither look up nor down to anyone. i LIKE people who are considerate and mostly harmless by choice.

 

I don't think I look like the people I look up to, but I think they are usually people with whom I share a sense of aesthetics and style.

 

look like? i didn't see the look part.

do i look up to people who look like me?

well i do have to admit admiring their good taste.

 

I'm pretty tall, so I hardly have to look up to someone.

 

Hedgeclipper Haz Style....???



Cheers Glen.

 

I am only just over 5' 5" so I pretty well look up to most people. A friend years ago was 7 ft, almost hurt my neck to talk to him standing. I used to say to him, "sit, so I don't hurt myself"

 

The two possibilities that popped into my head were...
Mr Potato Head or OJ Simpson??


I never really looked up to anybody or wanted to be like anybody. I admired certain things about my mom, sure... but not everything and I didn't want to be totally like her. Certain traits, yes.

 

i dont look like anyone i can think of, and i dont have a style except for i often wear penguins shirts. i dont look up to other people who wear penguins shirts....except for wishing the best for the members of the penguins hockey team.

 

When I was a kid I looked up to the 80s and 90s supermodels. I really wanted to be a supermodel but I guess I don't look anything like them because that didn't happen.

I also looked up to Kristy Yamaguchi, the Olympic medal winning ice skater, but I really don't think I look Japanese.

I also have always looked up to my siblings and I physically resemble them but I'm nothing like them at all in style and appearance. They've actually always remarked on how I've always done my own thing, created my own quirky style and didn't follow in their footsteps at all.

 

I don't necessarily look like people taller than myself...


Apparently I must look like a lot of peoples "uncle Jack", or whatever, the one that took off for California and never was the same after that... I get that all the time. Who the fuck is this guy and why does he try to look like me?