Do You Hold Grudges?

I do. It's one of my character flaws. If someone wronged me I hold a nasty opinion of them for a long time, unless I can get closure from that person. I wish I could change that about me; being able to let things go easier.

 

what the cat said ^^^^^

 

No, there is no point...there is always To Morrow...

 

yes I hold grudges

but only for the serious shit that deserves it...not for regular shit

 

I have a tendency to give people a second and sometimes third chance but after that I don't want anything to do with them. I try to let it go as soon as possible though because holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. It just eats you up inside. No time for that crap. I don't forget though. Once you are on my shit list you stay there.

 

I don't hold grudges at all. I was raised in a family where tempers flared and people yelled for a minute and then 5 minutes later it was forgotten. Sometimes I try to stay mad at people if I feel they've wronged me but I just can't be bothered after a day or so.

I do remember a kindness forever.

 

I'm the same way. I'm capable of letting the small stuff go, but the serious stuff I have a harder time forgiving.

Well said

 

No, I don't think it's in my nature. I usually get over it within a week, even for people who probably deserved a whole life time of spite. I just don't have the energy.

 

I used to hold a lot of grudges. Not any more. They are too heavy. However, like others above, I'm not likely to forget and let someone cause more trouble for me though.

 

Heck yea! I remember what you posted in one of my threads. I'll never forget! I'm on to you!

 

Depends on the situation, I tend to have a very good memory with personal situations and have a certain constitution, where some things I tend to not let go as easy as others.


I find this Tool track really speaks to me concerning the issue and has a direct quality to it, which I really appreciate it as where with most psychedelic music prior kind of displaced these feelings more.

http://youtu.be/EiR1hmpk-x4

Wear the grudge like a crown of negativity.
Calculate what we will or will not tolerate.
Desperate to control all and everything.
Unable to forgive your scarlet lettermen.

Clutch it like a cornerstone. Otherwise it all comes down.
Justify denials and grip 'em to the lonesome end.
Clutch it like a cornerstone. Otherwise it all comes down.
Terrified of being wrong. Ultimatum prison cell.

Saturn ascends, choose one or ten. Hang on or be humbled again.
Humbled again.

Clutch it like a cornerstone. Otherwise it all comes down.
Justify denials and grip 'em to the lonesome end.
Saturn ascends, comes round again.
Saturn ascends, the one, the ten. Ignorant to the damage done.

Wear the grudge like a crown of negativity.
Calculate what we will or will not tolerate.
Desperate to control all and everything.
Unable to forgive your scarlet lettermen.

Wear the grudge like a crown. Desperate to control.
Unable to forgive. And sinking deeper.

Defining, confining, sinking deeper.
Controlling, defining, and we're sinking deeper.

Saturn comes back around to show you everything
Let's you choose what you will, will not see and then
Drags you down like a stone or lifts you up again
Spits you out like a child, light and innocent.

Saturn comes back around. Lifts you up like a child
Or drags you down like a stone to
Consume you till you choose to let this go.
Choose to let this go.

Give away the stone. Let the oceans take and
Transmutate this cold and fated anchor.
Give away the stone. Let the waters kiss and
Transmutate these leaden grudges into gold.
Let go

 

Trying to stay mad at people I know I'm supposed to be angry at is always a hilarious internal struggle. I never stay mad long though, it just seems like so much effort.

 

If it's my mom, grandmother, sister, favorite uncles, favorite cousins, or friends I let it go repeatedly.

If it's a relative I'm not that close to or an acquaintance, I breeze off of you. Kick rocks, deuces.

 

Not towards people I love.

 

Yes!

I bear them to the grave!

That's after I've given the same person numerous fresh starts and they still do bad things.

 

Same Here......My Brother And I Have Been Full On Feuding For Close On 15 Years.......I Forgave And Forgot Many Times......Then Got

Kicked In The Guts By Him Again.

In The Final Showdown He Took Me to The Supreme Court In This State.........And Lost.

He Then Stole Ten's Of Thousands Of Dollars Off Me And Looked Shocked When I Said That If I "Go First" I Don't Want Him Within

Miles Of My Funeral, And If He Goes First I Sure As Hell Won't Be At His.

In The End He Walked Away With Some Of My Dollars.......I Walked Away With My Conscience And Pride Intact....

I Will Never Forgive......And I Will Never Forget All The Things He Has Done To Me.

Sorry for The Long Rant.



Cheers Glen.

 

Holy shit, Glen.....glen.....holy shit...i would hold a grudge in that case , too....It would be a very sad one, though.....

 

Pretty much this. I will give people a second chance always but when they keep screwing up, I can turn and walk away without looking back.