Do you ever get the feeling

that you are just a terrible person? I do.

 

No I don't and I don't think of you as a bad person either

 

I have known you for many years and have never thought of you as a bad person.

 

Sometimes I think I am a terrible person. I can be an opinionated prick at times, and I am sure some of my fellow forum members can attest to that, but it's never my intention to be hurtful to people. I am a misanthrope, though, so sometimes it's hard for me to find compassion for others. I would rather be an asshole than be a phony.

 

I never feel like I'm a terrible person. Sometimes I feel like an asshole about something but one instance doesn't define me and I can always redeem myself...hopefully.

 

You'd become a much better person in my eyes if you gave this thread a complete descriptive title :sunny:

Seriously though, I don't see why you would see yourself as so terrible.

If you do your best to be happy and make the world a better place, then you are worthy of honor.

Even restraining yourself a little from fucking things up as you might otherwise is worthy of respect, imho.

Why do you think that you are so terrible?

 

It's just a feeling I get sometimes. I lie a lot to get myself out of trouble and I am afraid of being honest, I guess. But I agree with you Wizard, that one thing doesn't define a person...

At the moment, I feel like a terrible person because I have developed feelings for someone who is married.

 

I don't think you're a terrible person, although I frequently disagree with you about everything

 

Having feelings isn't a bad thing, and not really something that you can control.

Getting sexually involved with someone who is married is not very nice if fidelity is explicitly or implicitly part of their marriage agreement.

 

Forget it.

 

^ I thought you had a fiance?

 

No, I don't.

 

Not really as long as I am doing the right thing!

 

Please no one else reply to this thread since apparently it is breaking forum rules and really annoying people.

 

I once told someone that I was the worst person I knew. He said he had never heard anyone say that.

There is the famous saying that says, "everyone is their biggest critic."

 

It's not a big deal. Usually the mods ignore thread title issues anyway.

I think I owe you an apology, antithesis. The thread itself is about something important, how you feel about yourself, but I let things get side tracked with a trivial issue about the thread title.

So I'm sorry.

Please don't stop talking about this. Getting to why you feel the way you do about yourself and making things better is important.

 

I try really hard to not be a terrible person. You get what you give. I try to do right most of the time and hope for the best.

 

I only know you from your posts on here but I don't get the impression that you are a terrible person. We all have things we need to work on. Nobody is perfect.

Having feelings for someone doesn't make you a terrible person. I don't know that I would suggest acting on them if its not agreed upon by both spouses in the relationship but that's really your call.

 

Thanks Ruby I know he doesn't feel that way about me, so it doesn't even really matter. I am just mad because he is a good friend and now I have to end that friendship because I am an idiot.

It's cool, e7m8. I am just feeling a little sensitive right now about things. It has been a pretty terrible couple of months in which my entire life has been turned upside down. So I have been kind of overreacting to things

 

Do you feel like you have to end your friendship because of your feelings? Maybe you can just take a step back for a little while until the feelings settle down. It's a shame to end a good friendship over something that didn't happen.