Do you ever fake orgasms?

Nah, I give up. Just exchanging one set of problems for another, I guess

 

That sucks, Seized, but I know how you feel, and it sucks! I hope one day you find a special person to make you orgasm just the way you want it.

 

I just found a REALLY interesting study called The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm.

http://uic.edu/orgs/cwluherstory/CWLUArchive/vaginalmyth.html

The vast majority of women who pretend vaginal orgasm to their men are faking it to "get the job." In a new bestselling Danish book, I Accuse, Mette Ejlersen specifically deals with this common problem, which she calls the "sex comedy." This comedy has many causes. First of all, the man brings a great deal of pressure to bear on the woman, because he considers his ability as a lover at stake. So as not to offend his ego, the woman will comply with the prescribed role and go through simulated ecstasy. In some of the other Danish women mentioned, women who were left frigid were turned off to sex, and pretended vaginal orgasm to hurry up the sex act. Others admitted that they had faked vaginal orgasm to catch a man. In one case, the woman pretended vaginal orgasm to get him to leave his first wife, who admitted being vaginally frigid.
Later she was forced to continue the deception, since obviously she couldn't tell him to stimulate her clitorally.
Many more women were simply afraid to establish their right to equal enjoyment, seeing the sexual act as being primarily for the man's benefit, and any pleasure that the woman got as an added extra.
Other women, with just enough ego to reject the man's idea that they needed psychiatric care, refused to admit their frigidity. They wouldn't accept self-blame, but they didn't know how to solve the problem, not knowing the physiological facts about themselves. So they were left in a peculiar limbo.
Again, perhaps one of the most infuriating and damaging results of this whole charade has been that women who were perfectly healthy sexually were taught that they were not. So in addition to being sexually deprived, these women were told to blame themselves when they deserved no blame. Looking for a cure to a problem that has none can lead a woman on an endless path of self-hatred and insecurity. For she is told by her analyst that not even in her one role allowed in a male society-the role of a woman-is she successful. She is put on the defensive, with phony data as evidence that she'd better try to be even more feminine, think more feminine, and reject her envy of men. That is, shuffle even harder, baby.

 

I barely ever orgasm from sex, but I still enjoy it very much. It just sucks because my boyfriend is already self conscious as it is and he gets depressed when I don't cum, so I fake it most of the time. I try directing him but I feel like I'm only going to get there if I'm doing it. I know my body better.

I think after over a year and a half, he'd be angry with me if I told him.

 

You guys should masturbate together, and watch each other so maybe he picks up on how you like it better!

 

Seems like an interesing book, Trippin.
A few weeks ago, I watched a great documentary about female orgasms, called Orgasm Inc..
It's on netflix, and might be free online, too. Most women can't orgasm vaginally, only about 30% can. Porn leads people to believe false ideas about the female orgasm and vulvas, too. So many women now look to get surgery on their vulvas so they look just like pornos say they "should". Sad.

 

I've never faked it once. I was abused for four years as a young girl (11-15) and even then the abusers brought me to orgasm, as messed up as that sounds It was even more confusing for me.

 

Not sure if turned on, or disgusted. :unsure:

 

Disgusted at me?

 

How true this is. I personally know 3 women who have seriously considered this as an option. Thankfully they never did anything about it.

God, the porn industry would hate me. I'm rather well endowed in that department but I'd never let a scalpel near me in a million years

 

Yes, but I failed to fool myself. I'm just too smart for me.

 

I just fill up an old squeezable ketchup bottle with warm custard

 

Interesting discussion...

I've faked it, but not for him...

I picture sex and orgasm as a meadow with a mountain at one end...
I start somewhere in the meadow and during foreplay I walk/run through the it.
Then I get to the foot of the mountain and begin to climb.
As I get to the summit (climax) I can lose footing and slide down the hill a little and have to climb up it again,
I can fall off the mountain completely and have to start climbing all over,
I can run straight up the mountain and throw/fall off the side.

Sometimes, if I keep losing my footing, a fake orgasm can send ME faster up the mountain. It causes my man to be more attentive, get rock hard,
or just get me more mindful in my own being. Usually works fine and from there my first real orgasm is easier and the rest just tumble out of me over and over.

But faking for him? Not so far...

 

There are many guys that doesn't even know we're the clit is.. And they just go up and down so fast that with so much friction they just make themselves cum, so many man don't know to have sensual and passionate sex. :/ Ive faked my orgasms must of my life till I met my fiancé lol only man that actually made me cum. Try to find someone that knows what he's doing.

 

That is really sad! At least you can give yourself an orgasm after!

As for me, I can truthfully say that I have not faked an orgasm since I was a teenager! I'm blessed with the ability to have several orgasms during a session, it helps that my husband is an adept lover! On the very rare occasions that I don't reach my climax through his handywork, I simply reach for my trusty Lelo & get him to help out!

 

Absolutely not!

 

How does one even fake an orgasm? I think any experienced partner would easily notice.

 

I have faked it ! But only with Myself

 

When enough is enough and it's time to get some rest.

 

Yes, whenever I make use of public transportation.