Do I come across as a slut?

To answer that is, as most people are saying, is up to you. If you wake up on certain mornings after not knowing if you screwed someone you barely knew, well that is not necessarily "slutty" behavior. I just wonder about your own self-esteem when sleeping with someone that shows that he is WORTHY of your mind and body, because to be a great sexual partner, one must include everything.
But, if you feel you are being careful with yourself, and protecting your partner, I say, "Go for it". I have had many sexual partners, before I was married of course, and I had a boyfriend that called me a slut after two sexual partners. So, if anyone who judges you and makes you feel unworthy and "dirty", cut your relationship of with them. You alone know how you are. You only get to experiment with anything you think you can handle for a very short time in your life. After that,responsibilities seem to take precidence over sex. Sometimes
If you are happy with your life, don't pay attention to anyone else unless you are being reckless and naive as to diease spreading.
Be happy with yourself and project that to others,a nd they willcome running, friends and lovers, because a truly happy person attracts people ofall sexes. They congregate around me when I am happy,a nd a Gatherings I get incredble jewels and necklaces put around my neck by brothers who just thought that I was beautiful enough that they wanted their colors around my neck. I LOVE that.
Try a Rainbow Gathering. I guarantee that nobody will thin you are a slut unless you have a daisy chain of screwing and not massage. Stiil, the men can scer whmever they please and they are a STUD. Oh, yeah. And they are the ones who know the LEAST about really pleasing a woman. Especially a woman who knows who to reach an orgasm if their partner is doing even the most remotely right thing. Women take resposibility for their own orgasms, so don't alwys thin it is your incredible ability, men.
Ceshire Cat

 

I mentioned the numbers and it wasn't to suggest that she was a slut, it was to call into question just how "serious" the relationships were. Thats all....

 

Oops, I voted YES, thinking this was a general poll too see if [bold]I[/bold] was a slut!

 

i voted no

 

you are whatever you want to be. sleeping with 17 guys when you're only 21 doesn't make you a slut unless you want to think that way. I think you're just sexual, like the rest of the population. Nothing wrong there i think. Sadly not everyone is ready to be so honest about these things.

 

I was just using that as a figure..

And a serious relationship can last only 3 months. It depends on what stage of the relationship it actually became an official relationship. With me, I've been in some very serious relationships but have never actually been with someone for more then 2 - 2 and a half months. I've also been in love one of those times. It's all based on perspective and how much chemistry two people have plus what obsticles they are faced with in a relationship.

 

"Do I come across as a slut?"

According to what guidelines do we make this judgement?
18th century social expectations?
Catholic church expectations?

Why would you want anyone's judgement? Are you trying to justify your actions or are you looking for someone to tell you to change?

 

Not as much of a slut as I'd like. Keep trying.

 

as I mature, so does my idea of a serious relationship. And after I see my friends married for 10 years I really have a different idea of what a serious relationship is. Can you have a deep intimate connection with somebody in months.......sure. At strongest that intimate connection can definately be love. I believe that love is a way you treat somebody rather than a mere chemical reaction. By my definition any two people can love each other and length of time doesn't come into play. Its idealistic I know, but its what love is to me. HOWEVER, a serious relationship and love are two different things. Time is definately a major factor in the measure of a serious relationship.

As most of the other posters have suggested, its the consciousness behind the lay that makes you a slut or doesn't. I just thought that morgans consciousness of a "serious relationship" was a bit naive. Its a bit of a stretch, but this similarity was one of few things that could be interpreted as supporting the argument for yes.

 

Question. How old are you so that I may accuately post my thoughts on this?

 

late 20's.........

but to accurately appreciate what I'm saying, analyze the relationships that couples you know from our age to senior citizens age. Because I'm suggesting that what seems like a "serious relationship" to somebody our age is typically not one in the grand scheme of life. I've been there myself, had a relationship that I thought was the world at the time. Then time showed me it was my perspective on relationships that was naive. Its hard to think in a "bigger part of the picture" but thats what maturation and aging is.

 

That's just it, it's all about perspective. Each person has an idea of what is a serious relationship. What someone sees as a serious relationship when they are 45 - 50.. well it's vastly different then that of a 21 year old, true. The only thing with that is that it's still a serious relationship even if it's only 5 months long. It depends on the people. Maybe it's only a budding serious relationship but it's still doesn't change the fact that it's serious. I agree that there are different levels of seriousness.

My best friend has been in a relationship for 8 months and it's already more serious then her 4 year relationship with her ex bf because of the maturity level of her and her current boyfriend. The dynamics are the same, they live together and all that, but they are taking the next step soon and next fall are buying a house together and getting married. I'd say that's a lot more serious then her 4 year relationship supporting her lazy boyfriend and living in a small shit ass two room apartment.

 

Weeble, you are a fascinating person.

 

I hope that's a good thing.. lol

 

hmm ok so now i want to ask the same question, but for myself. do I come across as a slut? hmmm i'm curious.

 

you arent a slut until i have defiled you...

 

is that an invitation?

 

Me first!

 

I made a deal with T-bone that he gets sloppy seconds.. you cool?

 

You wouldn't want to share me...
Wait, I'm acting slutty again huh?