Do/can you talk about Senior, Bi Sexual Options with your wife?

If more couples were open about dealing with Senior Sex Options , it would make life a lot easier?
Can you talk about it? We did after menopause and the associated anxieties. I never thought about anything bi or gay, while having regular sex was not an issue. Wasting time and money on other women, just to get off was not worth it. How many women are hot for 70+ yr horny old man? My wife told me, well we both knew,that old gay guys are always horny.
If you are in a NoMoreSex marraige, Can you have a logical discussion with your wife?
What if it was the other way around?( That was a stupid question) What husband would mind if his wife wanted her to enjoy F/F sex?
We talked about our situation and came to a solution. Can you?

 

No. For my mate infidelity is an absolutely rigid no-go, regardless of the genders or sexual preferences involved. Meanwhile, we've been celibate going on 5 years now. She'll periodically encourage me to end our relationship and go find someone who can fulfill my needs, but she candidly says that's only when she's feeling suicidal; she says she'd feel freer to end her life if she knew I was taken care of. Other times when she's raging, she threatens to leave. Considering that her threats coincide with her feature-length recitals of an exhaustive litany of what an abject failure I am as a friend, mate, caregiver, and human being, and how we have no interests in common any more (her one and only obsessive stream-of-consciousness conversational topic is her paranoia and psychosis), I'm not sure she realizes that her threats don't carry the gravitas she thinks they do. She stays because she has no other viable options. I stay because no one else will take care of her.
So here we are.

 

My wife who is LL is accepting if I play with a male but she doesn't talk openly with me on the subject, just as she won't talk openly about any aspect of sex she may still enjoy. I wish she would just spell out what she likes. I have always told her when I would visit my old cock sucking friend and she even met him once. She said at the time, she had a shop to go to so I could hang around with him a bit. I went back to where he was staying and he sucked a good load out of me. She said she doesn't mind what I do with them. She would be wary of doing anything with me for a while in case I have picked up something from him. Although my MM adventures have been light relief, she assumes we are up each other's anus the whole time. It also gives her permission in her mind, to not try with me. No open communication has her assuming. My first wife judged me harshly on such presumptions even though I was never doing anything with anyone else then.

 

I feel blessed that my wife will pick up the slack,when a friend is not around. No Strangers, but with approved partners its all good. Since she can't, bi is ok, especially if she gets to watch and hear all of the details.

 

My wife and I have had a number of discussions over the past six months now that she has openly told me she really has no interest in having sex with anyone. She knows I have several other men I occasionally have oral sex with as well as two other women that she also knows. She's been involved since shortly after we met, and we've enjoyed moments together with these women and most of the men. She's just lost her sex drive but has encouraged me to continue with my male and female lovers without any guilt. She's come home many times and there I am sucking his cock on the living room couch as she makes her way through the house. I never have sex with the two women at home, I go to visit them at their place as she (my wife) requested. She doesn't mind walking in to see her husband sucking cock but does not wish to come home and see me eating pussy.

 

I wish she could safely get her drive back by hormones, hypnosis, depression med,low B12, etc?
Keep up the other kinds of affection with her! Sitting next to her, hand holding, hugs, back rubs, massages, etc.Dont let your touch decline like it did with me. She is still a giver, wanting to see you happy!, Which is great! Sending you both good thoughts!

 

I have talked at length with my wife about her not wanting sex anymore and it is like talking to a paint stick about it. It produces no options from her. I have told her that since she is making her decisions regarding sex I will make my own as well. She has stated she doesn’t want to know what those decisions are so We don’t talk about it. I’m fairly sure she thinks I find women. And I am certain she has no idea I have sex with men. Honestly it is simpler this way. She is a good woman and I don’t want to hurt her. She just has no libido. It just seems at this point the simplest solution is to meet friends in secret.

 

Mine simply did not care about how several multi year spans of no sex affected me! Thought I should just get over it, let it go, get past it! Only when I brought up open marriage did she feel threatened. Complained it was "work" for her to have sex with me - yet still no sex for 7 weeks! It lasted a few weeks and again no sex for 6 months now.
Told me she was "willing to have sex with me" in a fight a month ago. I only care to have sex with people who "want" to have sex, not doing so begrudgingly. Doesn't know of my bi interests, whic, while always there, grew out of her years of rejecting me. It is nearly a total turn off for me, mentally, despite still finding her attractive!
I like the way you put it, a out of she made her own decision about sex, then you get to as well!
Except mine doesn't want me to have sex with others, despite not having sex with me! Wanted a divorce! She doesn't get the hypocrisy of it?!

 

If my wife came home and found me eating out a woman on the sofa, she would go ballistic. If she comes home and finds me sucking a cock or getting mine sucked, she will pull up a chair and watch.

 

This is why I only fuck the two women at their homes. My wife knows my guy and I have been sucking each other's cocks for 13 years and we'll never stop satisfying each other orally. She knows his wife and has participated in foursomes over the past several years with us. Having just turned 65 years of age she simply just does not want to participate in sexual activity anymore, I get that. But, having told me that she also stated she knows how important it is for me to have sex regularly in order to be the man I am that she loves so dearly as I love her equally and will never stop loving her. Our marriage is a non-sexual one, but it is a very comforting, satisfying one as we always interact with each other, hugs and kisses all the time because not only do we need each other we were made for each other. She understands I still desire sex, whether with him, her, or both and has encouraged me to do so. That is a loving wife, and I could never turn my back on her. I love her so much for allowing me to enjoy what it is I enjoy even though she is no longer having the same sexual desires that I have.

 

It is simply too deep seeded in my wife that me having sex outside of our marriage is cheating. She simply can’t wrap her mind around how strong my sex drive is. In her mind it’s like playing tennis, if I weren’t able to play tennis anymore I would just find something else to do.

 

During the (nothing happening at all)stage, I discovered that I love a dildo fucking my ass and prostate orgasms. The only thing I enjoy about tennis at my age, is lovely ladies in hot tennis outfits,especially when they bend over to pick up a ball.
With us, there was a difference between enjoying sexual pleasure and love. I can enjoy many different types of sex, but I can only love my wife.