It's really a silly discussion we were having one day while talking about past relationships. We were probably around our early 30s when she told me that I was the only guy that she had ever given a bj to. Now she had just got done telling me about all the guys she had sex with prior to our getting together, and it wasn't an outrageous number of guys but it was still plenty. She said some of the acts were questionably consentual because of being very intoxicated or not being firm enough to get "NO" clearly across to the stubborn horny worked up young guy. She went on to say that when guys would take no for an answer some tried to persuade her to give them a bj instead. That's when she said she would just let them have intercourse with her rather than give them a blowjob. I asked her why didn't you just give them a bj and send them off happy? They would have got off and you wouldn't have had to have intercourse with them. She went on to explain to me that she sees giving a blowjod a way more personal thing than having vaginal sex. I scratched my head and had to wonder do any other women feel this way? I've never heard this rational before. When I was a young man vaginal sex was always the home run we were all trying for. A blowjob was second best. Funny thing; Now that we're farther along in life and have been married for over 3 decades I wish I could get a blowjob rather then vaginal sex. I guess she doesn't like to get too personal with me anymore.
You should work on it. Does she like getting her pussy and ass eaten. Sometimes you have to step up and be willing to take a bullet to prove your point. She should be personal with you, so there shouldn't be an issue. If she doesn't like cum, take a load yourself to show her she is missing out on one of the best parts and hen you cum in her mouth, give her the biggest hottest kiss you ever shared.
The sex gets better when you are more connected, try to improve your relationship and I'm sure she will start to want to give you head again. Give her attention that does not lead to sex. Look in her eyes, run your fingers through her hair, tell her she is beautiful, kiss her gently and walk away. Let her catch you staring lovingly at her, smile a little and look away. Pepper her day with little reminders of how much you love her, do it consistently and the rest will follow.
My wife always claimed I was her first and only blowjobs. She never had sex with anyone else either. I had asked her numerous times in our marriage about swinging and gave her a hall pass to enjoy sex elsewhere. She declined for many reasons of course. One being she would never give another guy a blowjob or anal. She always enjoyed giving to me. And great at it. But she too feels it's a personal thing between the two of us. Btw...sex is now non existent now in our home on account of health issues.
Whenever we have sex I will just about always go down on her. I get so much satisfaction from orally bringing her to an orgasm. There have been few occasions in the past where I just want to get a quick fuck and be done with it. Now that she has gone through the change she really needs that oral primer to make it not so painful. What I was most interested in is to discover if there are any other women out there who in a casual sex situation would feel thier giving more of themselves by giving a blowjob rather than having vaginal sex? My wife in her younger days of one night stands would have vaginal sex with you before she would ever give you a blowjob. Like I said in the beginning of this thread, it's really a silly question. Just curious how others especially women feel about this.
