Discrimination you face for having dreadlocks.

Well someone had to some out and say it.

Sorry sunflower, but it looks like you're not as at peace with your mother as you make it sound, you're running around attacking people for having problems they don't.

 

So now we are jumping to assumptions again?

 

Damn, so inhumane/unhuman those assumptions right.. Let's all take them serious as if it weren't just assumptions. Or at least go in defense like they're true.

 

No, it's:

 

Ehh whatever anyone jumped to, it's a hard fact that dreadedsunflower is attacking wild-flowers, first about making her own thread, and then about the view she expressed in her thread. So from there, you've got to look for the REASON she's being aggressive...

 

You are assuming ok, don't care what way you want to put it. You all went against dreaded sunflower for doing the same thing. We don't know either of them, so why not just put this thread to rest.

 

Everyone went against dreaded sunflower for being needlessly aggressive in all of wild-flowers threads. Of course there's more to the story, and guessing at that only LEGITIMIZES her action. I don't have to assume anything to see that she's being aggressive , she's being quite open about it.

 

Yes she might have been aggressive, but that doesn't mean we can assume the reasons behind it. Not everyone who had rubbish parents when they were young should ditch them and go raise their kids with out them.

Yes, her approach may have been wrong, but that doesn't mean people now have to start on her.

 

Mint hot chocolate hell-tothefucking-ya! pass some of that over, I appreciate everyones feedback.

And dreaded sunflower I think they're going to come around to the dreads, eventually. I mean I don't ever expect them to LIKE them but I mean at some point they will cave and respect my choices. I'm sorry that you've had such a rough childhood and relationship with your mom. I can relate but not on the same level, you've obviously pulled the short stick in family relationships so I don't really blame you for being so hostile over my trivial problems. I think we were both in the wrong getting so dramatic, this site is for peace and love and we both stepped over a line. I didn't realise you were pregnant, I know the stress of this, infact it's up in the air right now if I'am right now too....I mean the odds are in my favour but it's a possiblity at this point and it's been worrying me. I can only imagine at 19 how you must feel having it confirmed and I wish you the best with your new miracle and hope you both have a beautiful life. My suggestion would be attempting a realationship with your mom (like you are now) but having your own home to start your little family in, at some point you have to acknowledge whether or not your mom deserves all of your efforts.

Anyways, I'm sorry for some of the comments made to you, and I hope you can accept my apology I don't hand them out often. You're obviously going through alot of shit right now.

And everyone here has made some valid points, I should keep the dreadies and maybe find somewhere else to live if it stays this way. I think I should have a job right now for sure being 19 but it's a little hard to find one at the moment. My parents are really generous with me and have put up with alot!!! I've done alot of dumb things in my days, like coming home at 7am in the morning, smoking pot in my room, sleeping around, dropping out of highschool (im currently in a program to get my highschool so I can take something that will get me a job in college, in the fall so I can be more independent). I talked to my dad I was really upset and asked him if the reason he wanted me to get a job and stayin school was because he wanted the bset possible future for me or because he wanted to have moer time with mymom and didnt want me around as much and he said ti's because he wont be around forever to support me and look after me and wants me to have a good future. So, that meant alot,.

They really are good parents, there are moment tho when they are COMPLETLY out of line, but then again I have those moments too.

I was shocked too that this forum got so much attention in one day!!! It was pretty entertaining to say the least, I cant beleive I spent so much time argueing over someone elses opinions I should be more open to them even if they are hostile everyone is different and ill be more careful to make sure i'm not repeating myself in my threads. I just love interacting with all of you guys you're really down to earth and beautiful people.