I love my NJoy Toys, stainless steel anal wonders. I've got a both of their large butt plugs (I wouldn't both with the small and medium size ones, they don't like to stay in) and the Pure Wand. The stainless feels SO good and glides right in. The plugs can be worn for hours and clean up in a minute. The Pure Wand will reach that special spot so nicely. Yes, they're expensive, but I found them to be worth it.
I started using a six inch realistic dildo to get used to taking an object up my ass. It does take a bit of practice before your sphincter muscle gets accustomed to letting things come in the back door. After using the dildo I knew I wanted the real thing and it’s been amazing. Now that my girlfriend and I are separated by Covid it’s not easy going back to the dildo. Sometimes I give her a show while she jerks her cock watching me on camera.