Did The Anal But Does It Get Better? Lube Specifics?

So my boyfriend and I tried Anal sex and it was my 1st time. He used a lot of lube and went really slow and made me as comfortable as I needed to be but I am not sure it is for me. I know all women are different, some like it and some don't but does it get better after awhile or will I always dislike it? I would like to hear some experiences from people that didn't like it at first and maybe learned to love it eventually. I feel intimidated because it seems like a lot of women have success on their first try and they like it. We also used a strawberry lubricant that was just for basic intercourse so I am wondering if their is a huge difference between those lubricants and the ones intended for anal.

 

Well, what didn't you like about it? Did it hurt, or was it just uncomfortable or strange feeling? Did you play with your clit during? Did you warm up before, gradually working yourself up in size rather than just going straight to him pushing himself inside?

The answer is, yes, it very likely does get better. You really should do more practice with just anal play + clit play before to help get accustomed to the sensation and to associate anal play with pleasure. And you can't really judge a nuance sex act from one experience.

 

It didn't hurt but it was uncomfortable like I just did not like it in there and I think maybe it's a little too sensitive. If that makes sense. He didn't just shove his dick in there, he went really really slow but no we didn't warm up to it. I've had fingers in my ass before and it doesn't feel nearly as uncomfortable as a dick.

 

We've tried it several times over the years, we keep thinking it can't be as uncomfortable as it was the last time we did it, but no...it never gets any less uncomfortable, for him and for me! We used to use KY, then we switched to Sylk as that is what out family doctor recommended for vaginal dryness so we thought it should work for anal, neither made any difference, Sylk is more slippery than KY, but it still just feels.....unpleasant! Certainly no pleasure for me! And yes, we went slowly & gently, he refrained from thrusting, preferring to gently move around, I even tried using an insertable vibe in my vagina thinking the added Gspot stimulation would enhance things. NO!
So we stick to vaginal intercourse, after all, it's where mother nature intended his dick to go!

 

Although Wifey sometimes complains that anal sex hurts a bit,its never unpleasant for me.Even if I just have my cock inside with almost no thrusting,I really love the tight grip of her arse around my shaft.For me,anal sex is a sensational feeling and I would happily try taking it myself.Wifey has fucked me with a strap-on and it felt Amazing!

 

Most people have to warm up to anal sex, both gradually over time regularly working up in size to the size of your partner's penis, and just before having sex doing the same, either with fingers or toys. As you become more familiar with it, generally just wearing a butt plug for a while before having sex will warm you up. Consider anal warmup an important form of foreplay for anal sex to help you relax and make uncomfortable sensations less of an issue.

However, you also just have to become more familiar with the sensations involved. You should more regularly incorporate just anal play into your other sexual activities, including masturbation. A finger in your ass while you receive oral. His thumb rubbing the outside of your anus during vaginal, or even fingering you. A butt plug during sex or during masturbation. Do this with some regularity and it really helps to unlock the pleasurable sensations of anal penetration and helps your brain to interpret them in a positive light rather than something unusual or uncomfortable.

Basically, for most people, the feeling of their ass being full of something isn't normally interpreted as pleasure, so it just feels odd or uncomfortable (some people first starting say it just feels like they need to go to the bathroom). In those cases, you have to combine it with something you already enjoy a lot, like clitoral stimulation, to really help start enjoying the anal penetration on its own. Many people find that anal penetration + clit stimulation leads to more powerful, intense orgasms.

 

I may have given you the wrong impression! I really enjoy anal stimulation, the well timed insertion of a lubricated finger can bring on a more powerful orgasm for me, & my husband often strays further south when going down on me (fresh from the bath or shower i should add), which is a divine feeling. It's just that anything larger than a finger adds nothing to the experience as far as pleasure is concerned for me. I really want to enjoy it, but for some reason I just can't.
One last thing....to any lady contemplating trying anal intercourse for the first time (and I apologise now if you are reading this straight after eating a meal!), whatever you do, resist the urge to fart after anal intercourse until you are siting on the toilet! The ensuing explosion of semen makes a hell of a mess!

 

First, anal is not for everyone. There are some women who, even if after trying it multiple times and doing "everything right", will never enjoy the experience, That's just the way it. Anal isn't for her. All the lube and going slow isn't going to make a difference. Give up on the anal and move on!

Now I will only speak for myself. My husband and I practice a lot of anal in our love making. I enjoy anal. I mean I really enjoy anal...a lot! But it wasn't always that way. The first ten times, at least, were less than satisfying on my end (pun!). I did it because it was exciting and pleased my partners, but it was either painful or at the very least not enjoyable for me. My first husband was practically obsessed with anal (and many other kinks, actually). While dating him i went from tolerating anal to genuinely enjoying and preferring anal. I think three things probably changed. 1) My body got used to it where it didn't feel like a foreign object was penetrating me where something doesn't belong. (Note: Even after years of anal I still be to stretch and dilate my butt with a plug or fingers. That is always the case. Don't think it is ever as easy as you see in porn). So for me it took many, many tries until my body said, "Hey, this ain't too bad!". 2) I learned that cleaning myself out first really, really....really makes a difference. I can relax a 100 times more knowing that I'm not going to embarrass myself with a mess. The first ten times I did anal I felt like I was going to poop while doing anal. Then after I learned to to start cleaning myself out first, I still felt like I was going to poop but I knew it wasn't going to happen. That was a relief, and that's about when I really learned how to do anal and enjoy it. It's all about pushing out while he is pushing in, and I can't be thinking of doing that if I'm thinking that I will make a huge mess if I push out. Make sense? 3) I figured out that my orgasms during butt sex is what make butt sex all worth while. I need clit stim during anal to really enjoy anal. I will use fingers, but I most always use an Hitachi to get myself off during anal. And for me, an orgasm during anal is fricking mind-blowing, earth-shattering intense in a way that does not compare to vag sex. I don't buy into this "anal orgasm" thing. It's all one orgasm, but for me why have a vanilla cone when I can have a triple ice-cream Sunday with whip cream and a cherry on top! Really! So the only reason I got to the point of enjoying anal is that I got past the point of finding it uncomfortable. I can't say that would be the case for every women, but it's probably the case for the majority of women who do enjoy anal. Whew! That was a long answer!

Oops! I forgot to mention lube. We use Astroglide, but here's my secret. I have a tube of Vasoline petroleum jelly. I squirt a small amount in my butt (a little more than the amount of toothpaste I use) in my butt. I insert my finger and spread it around. I know, it doesn't sound lady-like...but either does the enema, right? Why do I use Vasoline first? It coats the inside so the Astroglide doesn't absorb and dry up as fast. It has always worked for me! I know a lot of people only recommend water-based lubes...and they're probably right but that Vaso has never been a problem for me when I use it with the Astroglide.

 

I've been doing anal for years with my man and it gets better. For me it got better after like the third time..we love it and do it often.i love when he cums in my ass it feels goods and I feel full..keep doing it