Did It Mean Anything?

So I fucked my friends boyfriend. Yes I know I'm a fucking terrible person. He's six years older than me. They've been together for several years, have two kids and have their on off moments. When we first met we hit it off through arguing, it's something we did and still do for some odd reason. He's given off a vibe for quite a while now. He's an asshole to hide his real character, which he bears to me whenever he can. I fancy his real character.

One night we were drinking, just talking. He told me he laughed at his friend when he found out he was trying to "get with me". He told him I was too good and that he wasn't near my type. His girlfriend, my friend, was passed out in the other room. Then the atmosphere shifted. He mentioned he watched me mature, no it wasn't creepy it was sincere and pretty sweet. I turned 18 last January. He went on to mention that I never got to meet his younger brother when he came down to visit but didn't say anymore than that. Just brought up the meeting that never happened and didn't say another word about him. Not sure what the fuck that was about.

We've been close to fucking before but this time around we both just knew it was going to happen. Although before anything did happen I tried to stop it (even though I didn't want to) by telling him I was on my period. Didn't stop him. He was the one to mention "no feelings" and "sex is just sex" blahblahblah but let me tell you he wasn't treating me like I was just a casual one time fuck.

I like to be held down, he loves being rough, but his hands never once went around my wrists instead he laced his fingers through mine, even as I blew him, well one hand was behind my neck but you get the picture, he kissed my forehead, cheeks, nose and his kisses weren't filthy but sweet and teasing, he checked on me through out, asked if I was ok, was he being too rough, he caressed my hair, face, body even went as far as to mark my body, leaving a pretty obvious set on my neck. Afterwards we just held each other for a while, his girlfriend was still passed out thank fuck. We let our fingers draw on the others flesh or run through the others hair. He seemed sad as he mentioned that I would make whoever really happy. He even said he cared about me but didn't want to elaborate, just said that if I faked him out in the bedroom that there wouldn't be anymore of him for me. Then he wanted me to stay the night. I'm just wondering if it meant anything. I mean he brought up the no feelings thing and my previous lovers had a similar mind set and still weren't as caring or as sweet as he was. Could he have hidden feelings? Does he really care? Do I need to step up my own game? Fucking confused. Help.

 

I ate a bean n cheese burrito today. Does he care? shall i graduate to the baja burrito next time??

 

This reads as if it were a harlequin novel.

...All harlequins at the Value Village where I purchase used books are 69¢... No word of a lie.

 

I've met funnier stoners but I must say you are a charmer. Keep it up. You'll go far in life.

 

Believe me I felt the same way. I just don't like being played. I'm human. If I am being played I'll only want to out do the one playing me.

 

He was playing his girlfriend. You were just an accomplice.

Admittedly, the part where he said he had watched you mature was quite frankly smooth as fuck... You see, that was a coldly calculated line. I'm not saying that you haven't matured, hell, I don't even know you. It's just that, that line can be used on anyone from a former prostitute, to improved college quarterback, to you. The fact that he pulled it off with a straight face is beyond my level of drunk pickup talk (I would have gotten halfway through the sentence and shot beer at my nose in a fit of laughter).

EDIT: on second thought, you were played as well... Unfortunately you have the added guilt of fucking your friends boyfriend (I'm not judging).

 

He's said that a few times and yes he was sober but I've never thought about it until now. She hasn't been the best of friends so I figured this would be my way of saying I'm fucking your boyfriend and there's nothing you can do about it. G Easy's expression comes to mind.

 

Following so I can read thoroughly tomorrow and give an honest response.

 

For some reason I was picturing this as a totally drunken scenario. If that's not the case and you were both relatively level-headed, his entire theory of you having matured would have gone down the drain as soon as you blew him. His judge of character (daddio sleeping with mama's younger friend) probably isn't as concrete as you've been led to believe. (sorry for painting this in such a humorous manner... I can't compete with your mini erotica novel)

What's done is done. No point in adding insult to injury by using it as an opportunity to humiliate your friend. If not for her sake, for her kids. If I knew that my dad did something like that while he was with my mom, I'd be pretty pissed. (sure it's funny to joke about, but a young kid may take it differently than I, the wise 23 year old *ultra sarcasm* that can see the greyness of the situation)

 

They aren't his kids and she's the type that says she'll leave but never does because she doesn't want to get a job to support her kids she has him around for that yaknow how most young moms are these days

 

Alright, sadly I know exactly what you're talking about... In fact, the way you've described everything, the guy may be someone I used to know! (kidding... but still, very eerie)

Try not to rub it in her face. Unfortunately, the young mother you speak of probably doesn't have much else going for her (I speak with the utmost confidence on the issue, as I've seen this happen in the past). Grant her the piece of mind that her entire world isn't a complete lie.

If you do tell her (which I'm not sure if that's your intention... If not, whoops on my behalf): the best case scenario is that you have a short laugh and your friends cover their mouths and giggle alongside you (I'll admit, it would be kind of funny at the moment)... Worst case scenario, the young mother works her way up into a blazing inferno of rage and does something to spite everyone (which could be a million different things).

 

She has a car, diploma, and her cousin has been trying to get her a job but she just won't go for it believe me she can have something going she could even go back to school if she wanted but no. I don't like how she acts like a victim and puts all the work on him. She's stuck in this 50's housewife mode yet doesn't cook or clean.
I don't want to run off with the guy but I would just like to know if he was being real or not so I can stop it before he ends up getting feelings and wants to leave her since he said I understand more than anyone he's met in his complicated life or if he's playing then yay we can both play but I still need to step my game up. Yes I've seen this several times before where the guy gets fed up and gets with the friend that actually talks to him and doesn't just use him.

 

If you want to be with him it would be unfair to take him away from her while they're in a relationship.

If you don't want to be with him, you can either pretend like none of this ever happened or you can tell her the truth. (who knows, maybe he'll be the one to spill the beans)

Here's how I see it:

He cheated on his girlfriend, whereas you fucked your friends boyfriend (his is slightly worse, but they're both within the same range of backstabbery). As far as his girlfriend would see it, she probably wouldn't care that he used you (if he did in fact use you). She'll think he's a cheater and that you're untrustworthy.

If you like him, it wouldn't be fair to use this as leverage to steal him (stealing would be the correct term if you did it on purpose). If you don't like him, pretend as if it never happened. If he did in fact use you, don't involve his girlfriend in whatever your revenge strategy is, as she didn't ask for it.

If you don't like either of them, then yes, telling her and watching the entire thing explode would probably your best bet. Moral? That's not for me to decide, but we know the answer... Funny? Most certainly.

 

I answered in your repeat thread..

I'm sure I know where your coming from, let me get this..

Your friend was OK till you got it on with her guy, now you think cos you've had a piece of him, he is yours ...and your friend is crap?

Wake up, he is a typical screw around guy, even his partner means nothing to him!

Leave them both alone, I bet if you told your friend..he would deny it, they probably even had private talks about how your a liar, and they think you fancy him..

He watched you mature, and your how old? Grooming springs to mind.

And silly little imature girl!

 

OP, you talk a lot in real life dont you. Like all the time, Dont you

 

Did the trailer tip over when you were knocking boots?

Seriously, if I was your friend I would hate you the rest of my life. It's pretty shitty what you did. Maybe your friend and the guy shouldn't have been together, maybe you shouldn't have been with the guy.

Say 3 hail Mary's and your forgiven.