Dick play only __ no kissing or romance__ am I the majority or the minority?

I only enjoy dick play only with my friend and other meet ups. I only like romance, kissing and snuggling with a woman. I like to suck and be sucked and to rub our dicks together as we masturbate at once and sometimes double stuff the fleshlight but I don't want to kiss or otherwise caress him romantically,

Am I in the minority?

 

Not at all, most of us just want to enjoy mutual oral sex with another man from time to time. I've had a long time (14 yrs.) suck buddy and it's nice having someone available to get together with regularly to suck cock with.

 

As a lot of you might know I'm still waiting to have any same sex experience, just so you are all aware. I can't imagine having a good sexual experience with a guy without making out with him. Maybe sneaking in a beej under a table for kicks when no one is looking but normally I'd expect a little foreplay. I guess we'll see hopefully in the near future what my preferences actually are!

 

Growing up with this, one thing became clear: The only guys who wanted/needed kissing and all that stuff were gay guys and there were so many of us who were deathly afraid of being gay - but getting some dick was okay as long as no one wanted to play kissy face. I know that in a majority of times, getting busy with a guy had to be done quickly lest it be discovered that you were having sex with a guy and, well, that was going to be your ass and not in a good way. I would get to understand the thing that drives us guys to have sex so it made sense that if "Bob" and "Eddie" were horny and down with having sex with each other, they'd get right to it and without all the foreplay that (a) women needed and (b) gay dudes were insisting upon.

One of the highlights of having sex with guys is that you didn't have to do all the stuff that women demanded, from extended foreplay to being held to performance standards, things being conditional, women holding the pussy hostage to get what they wanted, so on and so forth so Bob and Eddie getting together for a quick blowjob session... just worked - save the kissing and cuddling for the ladies and many, many a guy was heard and known to say that men are for sex, women are for everything else.

A lot of guys were okay being a fuck or suck buddy as long as things didn't start to look or feel like a relationship and that, it seemed, included kissing and cuddling and things that were still considered to be very gay. Try to kiss your fuck/suck buddy back then or suggest that instead of busting a nut and hopping out of bed, let's just stay in the bed and cuddle... and find out what'll happen next, i.e., you're gonna need a new fuck/suck buddy. Really, I had a gay and effeminate boyfriend, and we rarely kissed or cuddled or got all into foreplay or, like he once said to me when I asked him about foreplay, "I see myself as one of the girls - but I'm still a guy!"

And let's not forget that one of the things that women complain about us is how we don't want to engage in foreplay or, if we do, how we totally suck at it - and, again, the really attractive thing about having sex with a guy was... no foreplay needed or required... until more modern times came to be. I've engaged in foreplay with a guy but I wouldn't think of trying to kiss him because most guys ain't feeling that and I'm not a fan of kissing guys but the rest of his body is fair game (unless he says it isn't). We do whatever we're gonna do and... cuddling to bask in the afterglow? Oh, hell, no. Nothing personal or anything like that but even in my own experiences, the only guys that I've been with who wanted to cuddle after sex were... gay men.

I have never been with a bi guy who wanted to kiss and cuddle before or after sex; maybe that's been the so-called luck of the draw, but not only does it not surprise me, it doesn't make me upset if a guy wants to get right to the business at hand. Sure, I know how to kiss and cuddle even if I don't particularly care for it - having sex with a guy isn't just about me and I understand that and I used to wonder why a guy needs foreplay while being taught - by women - why they want and need foreplay.

Sighing big time. I'll never say that men cannot be romantic with each other because I know they can but, really, if what I want is (a) to suck your dick and (b) lie back so you can suck mine do we (c) need to engage in romance-like foreplay? A lot of guys here want the foreplay, kissing, and cuddling and that's fine but it still feels like more of the exception than it is a rule for men. I could be wrong.

 

I want your cock, you want my cock, let us do what we are both wanting to do, and part ways satisfied. That's what sucking another man's cock is all about. If we like each other after sucking each other off and see the need to stay in touch, then we can do so again in the future. I've made many friends by sucking their cocks as they have too. Keep it simple, get done what is needed and move on. Return visits if the first was enjoyable enough are always available. That is what is so great about mutual oral sex between men, it can take place within 20 minutes for each of you if both are good cock suckers, or it can be prolonged to an hour if you are both totally into the cock you are sucking on which is why I always prefer to take turns sucking each other's cocks before finishing it off in a side-by-side 69 sucking session as we both cum in each other's mouths in the end.

 

Based on my experience and what I'm reading here, BiEric, I'll say you're in the majority.

Separating bisexual from biamorous or biromantic, most bi men are biSEXual and groove on sucking/fucking men and women, but biromantic with just the women. I find this to be especially true of married men who place the romantic part with their primary relationship, their wives.

Applying the Kinsey scale for those two traits to myself, I'm a sexual 3 (right down the middle and a romantic 0 (just heteroromantic). Maybe a 1 at the very most.

With guys it's, "Let's get the cocks going and swap orgasms!"

Roses, candlelight dinners, and long walks on the beach are for my female partner(s).

Gay guys (Kinsey 5s and 6s) are the romantic ones.

 

Lust, Cock, Pussy, Orgasmic delights. I could deal with the cum, but not a kiss unless it was from a woman. Thats Me.

 

I feel the same way, too. It is all about taking a dick and licking, kissing, and sucking it until I have drained all the cum I can out of it.....and then thanking him for the opportunity to do so. No romantic overtures; just pure carnal pleasure. The kissing, cuddling, and extended foreplay are with my lady.

 

I'm the same way.

Although I've never had any experience playing with a cock, my interest is only in the cock. I am not at all attracted to the idea of being romantic with a guy. That part of me is reserved strictly for my wife.

 

I think most bisexual men have no romantic feelings for the other man. That's why we're bi. We get the kissing, love and emotional needs met by the women in our lives
With men it truly is just sex. I love my wife and we snuggle every night as we go to sleep. With my boyfriend, it's all about sex. While my wife gives me oral sex and lets me fuck her ass, with my boyfriend I get to suck him and he gets to fuck me. And I can return the favor. We engage in sex with each other because we get something our wives cannot give us.

 

It's possible to develop romantic feelings for the other man; it's just not our "usual MO." We want to suck or fuck and... go find something else to do even if it's sex with another guy. Or take a pause for the cause so the two of us can go at it again if we have the time to. I grew up learning to be bisexual in the 1960s and even then, the word was, "Boys are for sex and girls are for sex and everything else!" You can have feelings for a guy... doesn't mean y'all are going to be all cuddled up and playing kissy face with each other unless that's what floats your boat and his - but this has almost always been in the realm of gay men more than bisexual men - until here of late, that is.

I loved my gay boyfriend and, as I've said, we didn't kiss and cuddle all that much and he was fond of telling me that he could find a better place to put his lips. We had amazing passion between us and he would give me the most intense orgasms and releases and I'd do my level best to lay waste to him... still didn't kiss and cuddle all that much and I actually liked kissing him but I could find a better place to put my lips, too...

 

I agree with all of you but recently something happened between my bud and I of almost 15 years now. During all of that time we were just getting together to suck each other off and the past couple of years I've been taking him up the ass. We'd gotten together last week and as we were getting into bed, he pulled me close and we just started making out, I didn't pull away, I embraced him as he was embracing me. We were passionately kissing each other as we've done with our wives. This went on for about 20 minutes until I began kissing my way over his chest, to his belly, then took his raging hard cock into my mouth. We spent a good 30 minutes sucking each other's cocks to find ourselves passionately kissing yet again after we'd both had our orgasms. I'd never done that with a man before, I briefly did so with him while taking a shower with him but nothing as passionate as that afternoon. I enjoyed it immensely, he even blurted out that he loved me to which I replied, "I love you too". I'm not sure what to think of it, but it felt right at the time. Our wives know we suck each other off and encourage us to do so they are not being asked to suck our dicks all the time, but I don't think I can tell my wife what we recently done with each other. Our relationship has gone to a different level, and I feel we both wanted it to go this direction.

 

Don't say anything to your wife yet. Wait and see if that happens again, if it becomes regular. You may be almost to a fork in the road but you ain't there yet.

Best wishes!

 

Youre taking it to another level. When it gets emotional and you cant discuss it with your wife, Thats cheating. If thats what you want, bless you. I would love you like a Bud, but thats the extent of it. I would Love a Great blowjob or ass fucking, but getting all kissy face and emotional just doesn't do it for me. That's my hangup, I don't like most other guys that way.

 

I was the same for many years, I didn’t want to kiss the guy I was having sex with. At first it was just his cock I was interested in, then I wanted to try bottoming and liked it too. But that felt more intimate and sensual for me. I found myself wanting to kiss the man that was fucking me. Some guys aren’t very good at kissing I found and if they aren’t it can be a bit of a turnoff for me. So I guess it’s not essential for me, if we suck each others cocks and don’t kiss that still feels good for both of us. I can go the route of just a sexual release and that’s fine. But making out and feeling a guys body on me while he’s in me feels pretty good too.

 

For me it's only about sex and that's all I expect. If my top wants to get into hot kissing and making out that's fine if that's what pleases him and gets him off. I've been there and it was really hot lust. But, after we shot our loads, it was back to just FB friends going about our normal lives. It 's like being in a play and throwing yourself into the role, but with a very happy ending.

 

I think you'll be fine, as you and him have really been like this for years, just never at the right time, place to say the words - or still held back in fear from a lifetime of homophobic conditioning. You're fully both bisexual and biromantic. It doesn't make you gay, unless you stop liking women. I think both of you couples are polyamorous and have been for a long while?

Enjoy these new levels of feelings and intimacy!
I'm kinda jealous of guys who can be bi-romantic. I'm just not wired that way, I'd be a 0 or a 1 at most, but more so out of friendship

 

Not in my estimation. I'm the same. Finding a suck buddy who only does this and isn't into the other, or taking it up the ass. That's rare on bi hookup sites.

 

Probably the majority among bisexuals, or as many of us like to be referred to...heteroflexible/ heterofluid. Definitely the minority in a gay setting, though.

 

Without a doubt, in the bisexual community you are in the majority if you don't treat other men romantically or want to kiss them.
I don't get romantic with men. Snuggling, cuddling, not what I want with men. I didn't want to kiss men for the longest time and I don't go out of my way to kiss men.
All that said, sometimes a man wants to kiss and if it feels right it can make your dick ten times harder and your cumshot 10 times stronger, deep from your belly. I've had a few men who wanted to kiss after they came in my mouth. I had a guy kiss me when he was cumming in me. It's just a whole new level of hot sex when it happens. So kissing happens sometimes and I like it.
I don't do the snuggle or cuddle but I enjoy laying with a man and exploring him with my hands and mouth. If there's no time pressure I like spending time after sucking off a guy by caressing his legs and ass, lick his nipples, lick his balls, all so I can have another go at his cock to drain whatever he has left to give from his balls.
I'm in the minority of bi guys, maybe closer to full on gay, just not quite because I'll never give up pussy. It's the other food of life.