Hello all. I am a 25 year old girl. I will get straight to the problem. I am in a relationship with a guy for about 8 months now. He is a great person and we have a sweet relationship. For the first 3-4 months, the sex was incredible. We were all over each other, all the time. Then we settled into a pattern that I have grown used to now. And this is where it gets a little tricky, because before this, I haven't been in a relationship that lasted more than 3 months. And honestly, I am beginning to crave the touch of another man, a different sized and shaped cock. Now, there's this new guy at work who's giving me the hots, (and if I wasn't in this relationship, I would have had been under him by now) and I'm confused. I have joked with my bf about threesomes (in quite graphic detail! I had him licking me while the other guy was inside) a few times, and last time he even played along when I asked him to find a guy for me. But should I tell him my true intentions and the guy at work and risk hurting him? On the other hand being serviced and pleased by two men at a time is becoming irresistible. Any females with similar experiences might offer help?
I think honesty is the best way. Even when it fails, at least you know you didn't fool anyone. I'd tell him that, by the way, you do have a guy you'd like to bring into the mix. I don't think he'll like that, but he'll learn something about the real you and will be able to decide if he should stay, or go. And I totally sympathize. I love my husband, but I feel desire to fuck a sexy man when I see one. I'm married, but I'm not dead. And neither is my husband. I think a healthy sex appetite is a good thing.
Honesty is the only way to get the kind of relationship that is best for you. Be yourself. And trust that your partner really wants you, the real you, warts and all. If he doesn't, and he wants to go, let him, and know that it means you are both free to find the kind of love and life that best suits each. And if he stays and plays along? Rawwr!
As others have already touched upon, honesty is the best route. Don’t go behind his back and have an affair as it’s only going to end badly and is just cruel. Some people are into swinging, or at least up for trying and some aren’t, it’s pretty much that simple. It sounds to me that you are just not ready to settle down with someone and still want that variety in your life which is okay, although at age 25 you should start thinking where you want to be in 5 / 10 years as well. The older people get the less chances they have and more baggage they accumulate, just saying… Also think about this, are you okay if he said “sure” but wanted to bring another girl into the situation? Fair is fair… Bottom line it sounds like you’re not happy or at least becoming sexually frustrated and if you don’t do something you’ll either just get depressed or end up cheating on him. Both are not ideal. Figure it’s your life and you should get what “you want” out of “your life” and have to face the consequences as well. You’ve already brought up the whole threesome idea to him kiddingly, so you’re halfway there. Sit him down and tell him this is something you really want or at least want to try. If he goes ape or says “Hell no” well then you pretty much have your answer and then need to decide what to do.
