dealing with these types of guys

nevermind. delete post

 

Oh my god this rspect shit again. She wants her ass kissed plain and simple. Most of the people in this thread know what's going on lol

 

THANK YOU for this post. People in GENERAL should have respect. Or else you aint getting shit what you want--unless you pay a hooker.

"shut my legs" typical saying for assholes to say. No I wont shut my legs cause one im not a slut. Im just looking for some fun. Relationships suck IMO.

I aint looking for this guy to take me out on a 5 star date. I asked for a little more respect. cause he aint getting laid by ANYONE if he acts like that.

UNLIKE other women, they ask him for all the favors in the world. (cause hes getting laid by them) Once he figures "hey...that was a cool chick" just like my other booty calls did, he'll come running back and do the respect i asked of him the first time

what his dumb ass doesnt know is do what little little i ask, like "hey can you make me a drink while you're at it?" and that means you WILL get laid tonight. and i do have a mad sex drive, i can be like a man. but i keep my shit classy.

respect goes a long way. Both parties will be happy. My last fuck buddy, was actual friends with me, never fought, he respected me, i respected him. simple as that.

the girls before me, made him wait 1-2 weeks for sex cause they were bitches

As currently for this guy, I aint talking to him. once he knows im gone and realizes, he'll come back and see that i was a simple type of girl all along. and finally respect me more.

 

Trouble with that word "respect" though is that its going to get interpreted differently by the guys than the girls. To the guys its going to sound more like trying to whip him, to the girls its going to be more about being more than just a sex object.

Its also near impossible to be objective if you are 1st or 2nd person. You may be able to train them one way through sex. But you can also end up training them another way without realising it. If you keep on at him about a little more respect trying to change his behaviour, but he ends up working out that everytime you get angry or have a little fight it ends up at the end of the night with you grabbing his collar and throwing him on the bed, well he's going to end up getting you angry on purpose, cos he prefers the angry sex to lame cuddles and kisses and pillowtalk.

By the sounds of it, he's just a little immature, you say something that hurts him without realising it, and he comes back with some sulky comment designed to hurt you. Its got nothing to do with respect. In terms of the real meaning of the word 'respect' he no doubt does. Thinks you are hot, a reasonably cool chick, maybe even a little too much for him to handle - that sense of respect is still there no matter what you say to each other or what you do for each other

In the end its not respect if you have just trained him to say one thing out loud, whilst he's thinking the exact opposite

Do you really want to get into that cycle? Ten years from now, you've got a few extra love handles, you want to train hubby to say stuff like "No honey, you're not fat, you're as gorgeous as the day I met you" Then you go stand in front of the mirror and still feel bad about your weight. Or do you want the truth from him - "Stop going on about your weight, you stupid bitch, I can pound a lot harder with the extra cushioning" - Which in the end is best for you?

 

Stacy..you and me are pretty much looking for the same thing FWB relationship...with respect. I haven't found it yet. heck I don't even know if it exist. but I'm still looking

 

that was fucking hilarious! you think you're a step above those chicks?! lmao

 

ain't aint a word.

and girls arent bitches just because they don't give it up right away.

I don't really know what kind of respect you're after. If all you are is a booty call to guys, they could give a shit less if you're a cool chick or not. Guys want girlfriends to be cool chicks. Fuck buddies just pretty much have to be attractive.

 

you have very good points there. thinking logically. I know I cant tell people what to do. I can manipulate well. but I hardly did it on him.

the way he gets on my good side is by saying things to me that I wanna hear. but he also tells me the honest truth which I dont mind hearing either because all my life I got told lies. I been listening to the truth rather than getting hurt. I need a guy like him.

I'll ask if he will do something for me, he'll say no in public with our friends bu twhen i get up to do it, he'll say no im joking, ill do it *quietly*. He doesnt wanna get seen as you call it -whipped- which im really not trying to do that.

he sees im a cool girl and im nice- i dont bullshit, i dont expose myself like a retard, that part he respects. I just want respect all the time and thats what is stopping him. His ego or whatever doesnt want to be seen as a girl "bossing" him around cause in the past, thats who hurt him-- *women* his last girl got with his best friend. I know why hes immature and stuck on saying "women are crazy" because of THAT.

holy crap I just figured him out. I like him and his company. If its gonna take time to realize that respecting a girl like me, is no big deal, i will work with him

 

First time I ever heard of someone saying they wanted their fuck buddy to listen to them and do what they wanted (at least outside of bed)...

I have to admit this is the best twist yet...

"I don't want a relationship, because relationships suck... I just want the guy I am fucking to treat me like I'm his girlfriend"....

The drama river overflows.....

 

this thread is full of lols

 

lol

 

And that in the end is what it all comes down to, theres always a certain level of misunderstanding between the sexes, you can never really get in each others heads.

Its not really about ego; one human dominating another. It is about gender roles; being bossed around by a girl is emasculating to most of them. So its not his ego that gets bruised, but his masculinity.

And if you are going to get your friends involved, then its a balancing act. Even if you got to a point where he respects you all the time, then you are going to loose some respect with your female friends, they are then going to see you with a guy easily whipped, you playing it safe with a guy that doesnt get their blood running.

For your ego, you want to hit that Goldilocks range, be seen with a guy that the other gals are a little jealous of, but of course not so much they are hitting on him behind your back.

Whip him to much, get to the point where he does respect you all the time, then you arent going to respect him, and end up getting the shits with him, cos he's too much like a girl

 

I suggest you just be alone for a while

 

She's just responding to people who agree with her to enough of an extent she can still feign higher ground lmao

Stacy, in all honestly, I really do hope you get this shit figured out one day. Funny as it is I know it has to suck for pretty much everybody involved when no nuts are busting.

It's not every guy you meet treating you like shit. I know you're not gonna listen to me cause I think it's funny to fuck with you, but you're bringing all this shit upon yourself. You have no one but yourself to blame for you relationship problems.

get a fucking vibe if you're that horny, get a boyfriend if you're lonely, get a fuck buddy if you can stop acting like a spoild princess bitch.

or deal with guys who reflect back to you the energy you projected to start with when you orchastrate these situations.

 

you believe you deserve someone to treat you better? I think you need to get over yourself.

 

This isn't to Stacy as I don't think there is much help for her...

But because there are others who may have the same questions without playing the games.

If you want a fuck buddy, without the bullshit and games... don't surround yourself by bullshit and games...

A fuck buddy is not someone you just fuck... That is called a stranger...

A fuck buddy is someone you consider a friend... a buddy, a pal... someone you enjoy being around and who enjoys being around you... that you fuck...

If you treat people like shit, they will treat you like shit back... If you feel you are better then someone (specific to the conversation at hand) and you think you are doing them a 'favor' by fucking them... then they are not a buddy... they are just a piece of meat...

Going out to find a fuck buddy... sorry that doesnt happen... Because if you go meet someone new for the express purposes of fucking them, they are not a buddy... they are just a fuck... thats it... nothing more, nothing less...

Now, for a really really important point....

No matter if it is a marriage, a ltr, a summer flame or a quick fuck... if you actually think the following, then you will always be bouncing from one fucked up relationship (friendships are relationships too you know) to another until you grasp why it is wrong...

 

Here, here
three cheers
:2thumbsup:
and all that junk that basically just says

Damn that was good.

 

I do not care for fat people.

 

Good to know.

 

lol, right on tom and yazzz