dealing with these types of guys

When he treats her like that ? What the fuck are you even talking about....

She made a joke, and so did he...It wasn't even mean.
She got offended and he should do what, praise her, compliment her all the time, be thankful that she even wants to be with him ?
Yeeeah right.

AND even if he was serious, it's not a big deal because this is what she thinks of him:

That says it all.
It's like she's doing him a favor by sleeping with him and giving him attention, so how dare he not treat her like the queen she is

So basically, she is with him because there's no one better atm. If there was, she'd wouldn't be fucking this guy. So why can't he feel the same about being with her and why can't he consider other girls ?
After all, they're just friends with benefits....

 

It's extremely impolite to imply you're going to ditch someone and act arrogant like they're totally replaceable. All romantic partners, whether it's for one night or one million, should be respected.

I agree; her attitude needs to shift that she's the stuff. It sounds like both parties are a little stuck up.

 

interesting perspective

 

Especially, if you want respect - you're going to have to be able to give it.

 

Without drama, she wouldn't be the drama queen she is....

 

You have to EARN respect.

 

You either talking to the wrong crowd, or meeting them at the wrong places. You can meet FWBs many places (friends, bars, on the street, online etc) Usually being on their first appearance you can tell whether you'll get along with them in the end. If theres no attraction or even no chemistry move on.


He talks a lot of bullshit that you dont want to hear, you cant joke with him - and it seems that you do enjoy to do that. He insults you and makes you feel down when you just want to a have a good time. And even though you find him attractive and that he down to earth and funny... there are many FWBs that can be attractive, down to earth and funny... and most of them will have some sort of manners.. or at least accept a joke.

Overall, you arent looking for a boyfriend (you say so).. But a casual buddy.. So you can do him and just ignore his bullshit, or find someone else, you arent looking for a mate your looking for sex... Even stupid guys can (hopefully) do that and say some compliment, if you chose them.

 

i agree with the last sentence. we both have big egos. hes just arrogant and doesnt appreciate the compliments i do give to him

and i AM doing him a favor. all the other girls he did have was ugly or fat. I choose him because he told me upfront what he wanted. so no mind games.

i really dont care what a guy looks like. big, muscly, skinny, big dick, small dick. its all about the respect in my opinion. i thought he would try just a little harder.

lately he has. hes listening that i dont like our bedroom info talked about w friends. he sees it embarrasses me.

and paif, he wasnt joking. or he was but he ended up acting like an asshole

thats our biggest problem. i play, he plays, one of us gets offended. then its our egos

but overall, im just gonna deal with his bullshit. im sure someone will come around on a more serious level anyway.

 

He's not obligated to appreciate you.

Do you know everyone he's slept with? Why do you think it's a favor to sleep with someone because you're attractive/not fat?

Maybe he doesn't care either.

A lot of guys do that. It isn't personal. If it bothers you, end it.

Please, this isn't jumping on you, but people misuse the word "ego" almost constantly. It's just a word that means "I" in Latin. You're talking about it in Freudian terms. You'd say "superego," in that case. The ego is the foundation for individuality, knowing you're a separate person from your mother and how to get things in an acceptable manner. The battling thing is the superego.

Isn't it better just to masturbate?

 

Liar Liar, pants on fire

 

First off, you're not hot. And taking into consideration how you treat guys and what you're looking for from them... I'd say how they treat you is pretty much on par with what you deserve based on your own actions and personality...

Real talk.

 

Yes, they are.:2thumbsup:

 

i love how you neg repped me for pointing out the dude's physical downfalls, then you do it!

 

Eh, I think it was more warrented in my case. I mean just read that first post. lmao really?

 

this about sums it up^^^

 

What is this respect you are all taking about?


Wait till she finds a "good" guy that is going to put on the act until he get what he wants, a month or so of sex maybe a year and then she finds out he's an asshole?

She's young, doesnt have to worry about ltr's or marriage at the moment, regularly the vagina is on fire and she wants to put out that flame, simple as that, but because she approaches sex like a guy you all attack her?

Just as likely not to get respected if she makes the guy put on the act, jump through hoops for sex, especially when the guy knows she's the hornier one

Close her legs till she gets a good guy? What is a good guy?, one thats going to do the housework for her, one thats going to be all sensitive in bed like a girl....yawn!

Even Lulu does it, we are supposed to beleive that the act, this "respect" is more important than if the guy has one of those little button mushroom dicks, and the sexual frustration that ensues......no ones going to believe that, all everyones going to beleive is that the boyfriend is some sucker while she has another secret man or two on the side


People stick together for love, cos they click, like being in each others presence. You are never going to be 100% sure your partner hasnt cheated on you, Never going to be sure part of the "respect" isnt an act. In the end its more important that you are with someone because you want to be with someone, not because of anything to do with relieving the horny.


"Will you still respect me in the morning?" - What does that even mean? "Sure sweety, I just blew my baby juice all over you face and in your hair, but yeah I'll still respect you in the morning, especially if you let me do it again before I get ready for work"

 

Well, it had to happen...

I just gotta take issue with you on a few things here...

Whether you are looking for sex, a casual date, a ltr or a life partner, the criteria should be the same. The start of that is that the person should either be a friend, or at least someone that you think can be a friend.

I don't know what respect others are talking about, but first and foremost, you must respect yourself. That means not sticking your dick into (or letting someone stick theirs into you) people that you wouldn't be okay waking up to the next morning.

Secondly on that respect, you should have enough respect for the person you choose to give a part (even if it is a tiny momentary part) of your life, that you don't play games and lie to them, and can expect the same in return.

The whole ' because she acts like a guy' line... I guess you must be speaking for yourself, although you hadn't stuck me as the typical guy... If a guy OR girl acts like this, I would (and have, and will again) say the same thing.

The "one thats going to be all sensitive in bed like a girl....yawn"... once again... I assume you are speaking of your experiences only.... Being sensitive in bed is not a gender thing, it is a choice... that choice, is do you pay attention to your partners needs and wants or don't you?

And finally... (at least for now)... Seriously, are you going to sit there and tell me that you are one of these people who thinks that sex in a relationship (which should involve respect) is supposed to be clean and moral or something? That blowing your load on someones face is a sign of disrespect?

Sex between people who love and respect each other can include ANYTHING that those involved want it to.

 

So you want a casual fuck buddy that treats you like a girlfriend and/or princess?

Not gonna happen.

 

^ Casual buddies shoud treat each other with respect... but the way she explains it now, seems like shes looking for more.

 

Hmmm, would this be where to mention I'm in Chicago till the 25'th??