so basically get a dog, a cat or a robot, to fulfil all your emotional needs. that's the best it gets these days, folks.
I emphasize: I see plenty of people here in the Netherlands getting solid relationships through dating sites and even tinder. So they do work. If they really don't work AT ALL over there (which remains arguable imo) it must be the people, not the medium. Or the medium must work different there.. which I also doubt. Another thought; what's so bad about a declining birth rate? Or having short(er) and more relationships?
Also a fair point. I just think the far majority does want a relationship. But those who doesn't are often questioned and stigmatized indeed.
I would hate it if I was of old age and in a retirement home and they would bestow a robot on me for company/social interaction. I would probably conclude society finally has utterly failed
it would be good to feel more this way. i do try. as for asmo's thing about more shorter relationships. i hate that. i'd definitely rather be alone. it's all the shared inside jokes and memories building up over time that i like the company of.
The best way is simply to go out and mingle with people leading an everyday life. You will meet plenty of people and if you feel that you would like to get to know someone better, just ask them to join you for a drink or coffee. Needless to say, romance is a way down the line, but if and when it happens it will be sincere and genuine. In the meantime you will be making a few friends. Most people who I have known over the years met their partner through the work environment. I do not mean directly dating co-workers, it could be someone working for a company that you deal with, or a person who you met when you were invited to a co-workers barbecue. The advantage of meeting people in these ways, is that you see the real person in their true colors. Making a few friends along the way is an added bonus.
Yes, very understandable. But its not about you. Other people who do this (mainly early in life, mind you. A lot of them end up with a longtime relationship) get shit projected on them, or society in general gets negative perceived because of it Hence why I'm still wondering in reference to this was:
Relationships can turn south on a dime , relationships are costly , marriages even costlier that is unless the person is lucky enough to have an uncontested divorce. The odds do not favor these arrangements in our disposable " F-you " society where it's every man for himself. One is far better off to travel light in an age where so many people are looking to cut your throat if the mood strikes them.
I find it more insane when a person's happiness is dependent on whether they are in a relationship or not. Or whether they have friends or fit in. :/ Well then try harder. I'm kidding. But yeah i understand its not easy.
so no one else was completely stumped by this word jumble? maybe i just need to go to bed. alone, of course, because i live in a small town where everyone is married by the time they turn 19. i think that's on topic for this thread, but again, it's hard to tell when the OP was barely in english in the first place.
I've never been on a date, nor will I ever go on a date. I loathe the thought of trying to impress some girl...some girl whose history probably includes being gang banged by twelve big black cocks, you know? And here, I sit in judgment? haha I think not.
I'm happy on my own, and extremely independent. I'm just feeling sad about it at the moment because of the contrast. Once i'm used to it, I'm fine. I won't go looking for anyone.
It is kind of an empty feeling, not being special to anyone. But then you also realize that that whole feeling of being special to someone is a delusion that you and they self-perpetuate just to gratify yourselves.
oh i dunno. he is still special to me and he's treated me like trash for the last five weeks. i'm not angry. i love him. everyone's got to do what makes them happy.
