Dating Outside Of Your Race...Could You???

BlackGuardXIII: My last three relationships, ( I am Scot/Irish),
My current love, a Native woman.
Racism exists, big time, I thought my last partner and I got treated shitty, but it appears that in Canada, it is more acceptable to show overt disgust towards Natives, cuz it sure happens a lot.


Its sad isnt it? I get that a lot, even when I walk around with white girl-friends. The one inter-racial relationship I was in *she was white*, it was heart breaking to hear all the nasty comments we received when we went anywhere together.

Why not go out with a nice white guy who will treat you good instead of a dirty Indian?
Watch out, he might rape you.
Do you sniff gas together?
Don't you feel dirty after kissing him?

Random shit like that is what I heard all the time. Sometimes I'd go home and cry because of what I was putting her through merely by being with her. Thats why I broke it off, I felt like it was my fault because even when I wasn't around, she would still receive comments like the ones above. I couldnt put her through that for the rest of her life, I loved her too much. I hate western society.

 

I've done it for my entire adult life. My parents were an interracial couple; I'm half-African American and half-Native American (Cherokee). So interracial relationships are quite natural to me -- and unavoidable, no matter whom I'm with.

-- Skeeter

 

Lol, I don't care what color you are, I sure wouldn't want to date you If someone is fed up with a relationship they should be able to get a divorce... but yes thinking before getting into it is better of course... which is why I'm single, I don't want that whole marriage stuff anyhow.

 

You are seriously a dumbass if you believe you can reduce all Asian womyn to that stereotype. God, you don't deserve to live.

 

heh heh....womyn..did you get that from beavis and butthead or is it a typo?

 

i could easly, race isnt a big deal

 

Well it's easy to say we're all the same, that colour should have no boundaries, etc etc and I wholheartedly agree with those statements. I have dated men of all races - its the person that counts to me, not where he's from. But I am Indian and I come from a culture where I do have to face the consequences if I fall in love with a person outside of my race. It's a huge deal and it is a problem that has to be faced by me and the person who I choose to be with (if they're strong enough). Its not just colour but culture, religion and language barriers. Unfortunately it is a matter of fact. I hate it, and my better judgement and romantic nature fights against it but I cannot ignore it - a friend of mine was disowned for three years becuase he fell in love with and married someone of a different race. In my heart I am a "liberal minded hippy" but in reality I have to think about whether I want to lose my family. Sad but true.

 

I hope you're joking. That is so f*cking insulting not just to american women, but especially to Asian women AND MEN too. I am Asian and for you to think you can just "use" someone's culture (or what you percieve their culture to be like) for your own advantage makes me feel sick. And for your information not all Asian men are over-controlling bastards who dont know how to treat women, many, many, American men are sexist, racist, violent and controlling - men like that exist in all cultures. Asian women are not just dumb little receptacles looking up to you. At least I don't know any girl who is like that.

 

Would I date outside of my own race? No! No I deffinately would not!! How disgusting the very thought is!!
Reason I say that is my race is 'the human race' so wouldn't be at all interested in dating, say, a pig or a duck or a dog....only someone from my race, which is the human race,...you see where I'm going with this?

My point being, in answer to your question, is of course I would date outside of my 'race.' I would and HAVE. I am an white English-Ukrainian girl but my darling baby Son is mixed race, 1/2 of me of course and half Nigerian.

Although some may be a little stunned why you have asked this question, as the assumption in this day and age is that interracial relationships are common place and accepted. I have on the other hand witnessed evidence to the contray.
I, as a white girl, have experianced racisim towards me for dating black men. From black women. (I must just stress to you all I truely believe this is NOT how most black women think so of course I do NOT judge black women as a whole by going off the experiance I have had from this small number of racisit black women)
I have been told to lay off 'thier men' like those men belong to them and that I had no place 'stealing him away' from them. I also had a really good friend for many years. We were very good friends (she was black) but when I started seeing her friend (who was also black) I was told by her in no uncertain terms "Don't go thinking you can fall in love with him now 'cause you won't ever really have him. He won't ever marry a white girl, not when he can marry a black woman!! I wouldn't let him. Nor will any of us." By 'us' she ment his family, all his friends,...and the entire black race you'd have thought to hear her say it!!
So sadly there does, for some reason, that I can NOT understand, seem to be an excisting issue with interracial relationships.
Like I touched on before, it's not even really interracial anyway, we ALL come one race,...the human race.

Love, peace and empathy,
Stasia.

 

Oh!!!! I dont believe it!! I've just read all of the posts from the first one (that I'd of course already read in order to reply to it...) all the way through right up to mine which is the last one. And I have about twice noticed I am not the only one to have pointed out the whole "one race - the human race" therory. Now I look like I nicked my line from those people!! :$ I did really think of that one all by myself you know!! Honestly!! (Im a big girl now, I can tie my own shoe laces too! Lol!! )

Love, peace and empathy,
Stasia.

 

Plenty people say it

 

Nah, I know that really. I just thought I might of been the first one to have brought it up on the postings, wanted to look all clever! Lol! That's all, no biggie!

 

haha ok i wasn't trying to start anything

 

Yeah, I know you weren't. Tis cool.

 

sounds like a sweet deal to me

 

I am sure you posted your thoughts before you read the earlier 'one race' reply that I made, and I thought it was cute that someone else saw the same humour in the question. I hope someday that even more people agree that the idea of any division lines in the human race is outdated. I like to ask those who still cling to the different race concept how they can decide where to draw the lines, since there is no abrupt gaps, but only a 6 billion piece band that imperceptibly varies from one skin tone to another. From one 'race' to the next there is nowhere I can see that can be said to be a dividing line.
Mitakuye Oyasin.
To the member who is looking for a unAmericanized Asian woman to marry, I wish you luck, honestly. It is not at all the way I went about finding my soul mate, but then again, I didn't know what I wanted. What I found exceeded what I could have imagined in my wildest fantasy anyway. Be careful what you wish for. Just one last thing, I hope your soulmate fits your criteria, cuz if not, you are going to really miss out on something that I swear to God, you cannot imagine even exists.

 

Here here!! Well said!!
Also I would inform them of a fact, that may well shatter their ideas of 'Keeping to their own', EVERY single person on this little rock we call earth is only ever at MOST 6 times removed from the next person. And that my friend IS a fact. So who truely is keeping to their own kind? Answer; no one. Give that girl a cigar!! It IS a damned fact though, and don't I feel smug knowing that?!? Lol!!!
(If anyone doubts that I invite you to go check that one out for yourselves. Go!...Go investigate! Lol!!)

Love, peace and empathy

 

I wouldn't date anyone.

Having dated people "outside my own race" (I hate that term, we're all human) I can say the two people can make it work. The families are another matter.

 

I have no problem dating someone of another race.. I agree with the poster above me who said that the familes are another matter.. Very true.. If I'm interested in someone the race does not matter..

 

i'm white and my girlfriend (been together for 13 months) is of Latin (spanish) orgin...race is no boundry for me