Get into your parents head. Get them to tell you why they do all these things to you. Once you get that out of em you can go from there. Maybe yelling at them would help, but im not so sure thats a good idea. maybe you could piss them off to such a certain extent they have no reaction, just a blank face. Your the only one who knows your parents well enough to know what to do to get yourself a little more slack. Try different approaches to different problems to acheive different sollutions.
I've always heard that as a parent, if your kids don't hate you, then you are doing something wrong. To be honest you did lie to them. Then you expect them to trust you all the time. Then after not telling them something important for over a month, you get upset when you finally tell them and they are upset about it. To me it seems like your view of reality and what is/should be fair is skewed. Trust is a thing that has to be earned. From what you described it definitely sounds like your parents lost their trust in you. I'd ask them what you can do to get it back. The one thing that is vital to stay away from is the belief that you are the victim and that they are always wrong, the whole "my parents are unreasonable" attitude. That is going to get you nowhere if thats the attitude you have. I also agree with whoever posted about their daughter had a tone but never realized it (sorry forgot who said that). That is another thing that is very likely to happen. You may not think you have an attitude or a tone towards your parents, but what they are seeing and hearing may be an ENTIRELY different story. So if you can't sit down with your parents and have a nice civilized conversation then you are going to get nowhere. I remember hating my parents when I was your age. All I could talk about was getting out of the house and away from my parents and such. Now that I'm older and don't live at home. I realize how good I really had it and that my parents did a good job, even though I hated them at the time. Which just helps reinforce the thinking of, if your kids don't hate you, then you aren't doing your job. Remember it is their job to look after you and protect you, help you to grow and become a good person and a strong adult. This comes before making sure you are best friends and you are allowed to have all this unrestricted fun while you are in high school. So just have a nice talk with them and keep it civilized, you may be surprised how it turns out. This goes for all the rest of you young uns who are thinking the same things. -Litos
but i tottaly talked to them in a civilized matter a few months ago about all this...and then i heard them talking bout me like 'oh shes just too wild! we cant let her go out she'll just end up pregnant!!!' its so stupid because the only thing i got caught lying about was that i had a b/f..whats so BAD about THAT? i duno man i know they want the best for me and all but - they just blow everything out of porportion. i give up on trying to 'prove' to them that im responsible and crap...i turn 18 in a few months so i guess it makes no difference.
You got caught lying, and about a boyfriend. Basically the biggest things that you can do to get your parents worried about a pregnancy. The simplest advice is to stop assuming you are correct, and listen to others. Generally people older than you. With age comes wisdom. Anyways, you seem like you yourself could also blow everything out of proportion. Settle down and listen to your parents. -Litos
