Daily life seems so...

And that. I like my day to day life.

Life is only blah blah blah.... so pointless if you let it be.

And I personally btw (back to the OP), don't do anything daily that I don't want to. (okay, I may not always want to run into the gas station to buy something or whatever... but seriously....who the hell bitches about shit like that?)

 

you sound like a pretty fantastic mommy.

 

Thanks... Well, the thing is- some people just become parents... I am doing the thing I wanted more than anything else in the world, so it's not work.

 

Get a hobby. Try one of these:
http://www.southord.com/Lock-Picking-Tools/Lock-Pick-Sets.html
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http://www.seriousjuggling.com/unicycles.htm

 

Exactly. I think there's too many parents that don't care and raise kids that end up all fucked up, it's a vicious cycle.

 

I feel like this a lot, and try to just keep pressing on. But my life has especially felt like groundhog day for months now.

I think a good thing is to set short term goals to reach a long term goal. And don't go to college because you feel like you have to, do it for yourself and the personal enrichment and to achieve a goal.

This is slightly off topic but I feel shitty a lot that so many people judge based on occupation, mainly the women. It's even been said in here that a female would rather bring home a guy with a more respectable 'university' educated job that pays less, than a guy who works with his hands and makes good money. But at the end of the day, I'm doing MY thing and the if the right chick comes along great. But I'm not going to model my life based on expectations of a few women.

Think about three things you could have if you wanted. Someone just asked me this yesterday and I said a good relationship/family, financial security to the point I have no money worries and can pursue things I want to pursue, and to be happy.

Everything is achievable.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GzktmQdYdXk"]Bob Dylan - It's all right ma (I'm only bleeding) Letra-Español - YouTube


Here is a good song for ya, PR. Forgive the Spanish subtitles.

For the impatient, a link to the lyrics:

http://www.bobdylan.com/us/songs/its-alright-ma-im-only-bleeding

That song resounds with every part of my being.

 

Life rather happens as we sit thinking about it.

Our choice to sit or to actively engage in it.

 

Yeah... really if a person isn't all into becoming a parent they probably shouldn't become one. It has to be something you want to do- enjoy doing and don't see as a hassle to do well... if that makes sense...

And if you remember your response to that person ....something about how you use people with the mindset such as hers...as something beneficial to weed out the people who aren't worth it to you... anyone who would act like that to a totally respectable (hardworking, honest...intelligent... yes, I realize their is brainpower required to work on cars...) occupation is not someone that you'd want to be with anyway---you know? I have (friendship wise currently) certain things that help weed out people--- and those things (the whole issues surrounding them, yes, they can make me angry, sad or annoyed....IF I allow them too... I chose to view anything that helps me weed out the unworthy (those who would waste my precious time), as something of value.




and the happiness part comes when you focus on and start to achieve the "other wishes".... there are a lot of things that have contributed to my own personal happiness... but the one that may be the most important (one of them anyway) that I don't believe I've ever mentioned on here before is simplicity---simplifying my life and appreciating the small things--- living more minimistically and enjoying more what I do have or do do (if that makes sense) has helped me to achieve a state that could be called "happiness"....

"Life is what happens when we're busy making other plans"
and yes, I agree and I love the way you worded the last part- about how you either sit through life and look @ it kinda like "blah blah blah, same old, same old...."- OR start doing and living IN it.
I have started doing a lot lately that has made the mundane....pretty freaking awesome.... one example in recent wks. is I have started talking to, and enjoying the talks I have with more...with my neighbors. The karma has already come back to me- not just in the conversations and the laughs and the other children (the relatives of the grandparents who live on my block) for Cason to play with.... but with how a couple neighbors have started sharing home cooked meals with us, and fresh veggies from their gardens....even giving us gallons of milk a week (the one neighbor's daughter gets way too much through WIC....she thought Cason could use, which he could.)---- in any case, since I'm a stay at home mom and am here around my retired neighbors a lot... it could be pretty mundane/boring to sit outside and "have" to have "dumb conversations" with my neighbors all the time... or I could do what I did- and created what I finally feel is a sense of community with people of all ages where I live...and just generally makes life more enjoyable- without even having to get in the car and drive anywhere and/or spend any money. (So, yes, I could live here and complain abou or feel miserable about how I really don't like where I live or connect with many people here, or I could do what I've done and create a sense of community and get to know people around here)..

 

My choice will to always be engage in it as then if things are not to my liking I can also work on the change to make it so.

Sitting and watching and doing nothing is counterproductive and a cycle that is not in my opinion healthy.

Life is as good as we choose to see it and make it. Everyone had troubles and moments but if those are the focus a lot of good gets lost along the way. I would rather see good and focus on changing what is not so good.

AT being engaged as you are doing with your own community is a really good thing. For you and for them.

 

Thanks. It's really not something I did at first at all really when we first moved here as I wasn't wild about moving here (we've been here two yrs. now) and this is where I grew up and where my mom and grandma live still... but anyways, not to start to ramble too much- it's something I have recently been increasingly thinking about (getting involved locally with diff. things-everything from just getting to know the neighbors more to meeting more moms with kids case's age--I met a great new friend that lives two mins. from me a few days ago with two kids- one of them being 2 wks. younger than cason..-she is also a stay-at-home mom and we are planning to do things together with the kids during the weeks-- anyways... to other things, like potentially going to the Unitarian or other church... doing more of the storytimes at the library-- potentially volunteering locally...seeing more local bands, etc.)-- I had previously felt kinda isolated here so decided to do something about it. I dream of a nice, quaint, more 1950's style family life, if you have any idea what I mean lol

 

rat, i mean this in the nicest way possible but it can be very frustrating to read your posts sometimes. You're obviously a really intelligent guy but it seems like you're completely stuck in a rut and just letting the wheels spin. It also seems like you lay a lot of blame on the shoulders of society when in reality you have the power to control your life. There are people doing amazing things everywhere in the world - seek them out. Its hard for you to see beauty in the world because you're not around people who see beauty the same way as you. From reading various posts from you, it really seems like you just need to get out of your town and delve into something new. travel and explore other perspectives. Start a completely new life somewhere else - it might be the most terrifying thing you've ever done but it will be new and will make you feel alive.

If you're going to do what you really want to do with your life, what will really make you happy (fuggetabout what other people expect of you), now is the time to do it. You're young and have absolutely nothing tying you down and that chance may not come around again.

 

Being home with Cason is a wonderful thing and that you are taking full advantage of that is in my opinion a great thing. For him as well as he has the security of having mom there and you have the pleasure of watching him grow and develop.

Play days are a great way for them to learn interpersonal skills that will help him through his whole life.

Enjoy this time with him and have fun with him.

 

All that.

But.... sadly when people look down on the world from their high and mighty pedestal (which, when it all comes down to it, is really just there as a defense mechanism and deflection tool), they are bound to be disappointed and bored with life anywhere they are at and no matter what they are doing (w the exception of things that are lots of fun...the day to day anywhere is what I am talking about...)--- I think in certain cases changing the internal scenery is more important to do before changing the external, otherwise the latter will be pointless anyway.

And thank you again for the kind words, Heather.

 

it gets worse when you start to see school friends in the obituaries

 

this is true too and I've agreed with everything else you've said in this thread. I think its really important to build a sense of community wherever you are and to find joy in daily life. anytime I find myself in a rut I try to do things that are good for my soul. I think its important to do everything with purpose and deliberation. You can inject a lot of meaning and joy into every day life if you deliberately do little things all day that make you or those around you happy.

 

Yep....

I often circle around those two words in the things I say.

But those two words are the key to enjoying life most of the time.

 

I wish I could rep you for this but not able to as I have to spread............

Well stated.

 

I dunno, guys. I saw the original post here as more of a complaint about the phoniness of societal structure, the inability for most people to question the necessity of "the daily grind."

Meliai "If you're going to do what you really want to do with your life, what will really make you happy (fuggetabout what other people expect of you), now is the time to do it. You're young and have absolutely nothing tying you down and that chance may not come around again."

Wasn't the first post stating that we aren't structured in a way that truly allows people to forget what society is pressuring them to do?

I dunno, I think it is valid. You can be happy with daily life without being happy with the system.