Cyber Sex: Is It Cheating?

I can only hope and pray that one day this will become possible!

 

*rofl* !!!

 

Huh? Hahahahahahahahahahahahhaahahaha

 

Naughty my A$$, who are you trying to convince here..? Us or yourself?

Let me get this straight, it wasnt ok for your husband to have porn... which does not physically affect you (unless YOU allow it) BUT you decided since he didnt give you the foreplay YOU needed (instead of talking about it) decided to get into a relationship which you knew was wrong?

Yea.. ok... naughty...

NOT the word I would use to describe it... go back re-read your own post, and re-think what you posted that rediculous... What you did is most definbately cheating especially since you thought of going to consumate the relationship (Affair would be more appropriate).

 

Ok Green, and what if your significant other was "cybering" and you found out it was with someone from your home town?

What then? would you be ok with that?

LOL RIIGHT of course you would, because you wont want to say: well thats different... cybering (unless agreed to by both partners is wrong) no matter how you cut it...

 

Re-read what you critque, & fucking take a valium or something buddy. I was just relating my personal experience with it.
I already stated further back in the thread that it depends on the couple. Every couple has different arrangements.

There was much, much more going on in our marriage aside from that.
I read that you're going to be married soon elsewhere on the forum. Good luck to you.
I'm not about to argue over my marriage that has been dead for over two years now. We both ended it. It lasted five.
You can't sum up five years of marriage in a couple paragraphs.

 

If it was limited to typing, and was not a ongoing thing I could overlook it. However if it was web cam it would be cheating. To me a web cam makes it personal, as does repeat performances. No names, no personal details....just cyber.....a one night stand on line. To me it would be like masturbating to an erotic story that you help write.

 

cyber sex is just like reading an erotic story on a website that someone writes. it's someone you don't know saying sexual thigns. of course you're going to get horny, it's hot. on the webcam is a bit on the line, but it's not like you're fucking the person and you migth not even be thinking of them. it's just kind of a sexy risky situation.
now if you're online every night webcamming and getting off with the same person and actually want the, instea dof who you're with... well it's not cheating but you should really break up with your boyfriend/girlfriend.

 

I don't think so.

 

I think cyber sex is just retarded. lol

 

it depends on the relationship, what constitutes cheating in any relationship depends on the standards that are set between you two. a good rule of thumb to use would be - if your partner thinks its cheating, then its cheating (the only time this rule of thumb doesnt apply is if your partner thinks its cheating if you do it but not cheating if he does it or vice versa)

 

If you are not cherish and declaring a relationship or love for someone, you are not cheating.

If you not engaging in physical interaction, you are not cheating.

CYBERSEX is neither, thus it isn't cheating. You are not :

A) forming a relationship
B) declaring love
C) engaging in physical sex acts

It is nothing more than a social fantasy involving two or more people. A game and nothing more.

 

yes 100 % cheating

 

Nope. It's not.

It's 0% cheating.

 

At that point, all she is doing is typing text into a computer. If she were to develop a relationship with this other person or have sex or whatever, thats when I would have a problem. Again, you're insecure if you can't stand the idea of them cybering with someone else. The competition is out there, and your partner has the right to choose to leave you at any time. You can't force someone to stay with you. You will have to let them choose if they want to be with you or not. Trying to filter or supress your competition is nonproductive because your partner will be and has been exposed to others. They will either choose to remain loyal to you, or not, and not letting them cyber is a stupid way and pointless way to try to influence that decesion.

It doesn't make a difference if they cyber or not. So you might as well let them do it, and its only cheating if you're insecure in the idea that your partner might want to leave you. You have to accept the fact that they can leave you and stopping them from cybering wont stop them from wanting to leave you, it will only give them another reason to.

 

I agree with most of what you said, however, it would be dumb to assume that if a person gets turned on, they might not stray... its kind of similar to why you put a lock on your locker in the gym, the only people the lock is keeping out are the honest people... so why open a door of temptation?

Again, it depends on the individuals... my point is simple:
If neither of you can agree whether it is or isnt, then don't do it...

A good rule of thumb is if you couldnt do it in front of that person, you shouldn't be doing it.

So... if my fiancee' would get mad about it (and she would), then I shouldn't do it and vice versa.. we all need private lives, and while I agree, that security in your relationship is a part of it, listening to your partners concerns about it are just as important.

I am very secure, my fiancee', not so much. She would be upset by some of my posts on this board. but so long as I am not "cybering" I don't think I should have to stop posting here.

 

In my opinion the answer is yes.

Let's say for example: let's say my boyfriend is having cyber sex with a girl . . .well, I guarantee when I walk in the room the computer screen is going to be shut off or he's gonna do it when I am not around. If it's something he has to do sneakily, then it's cheating. Not necessarily cyber-sex either- talking dirty to other girls looking at their naked pictures and what not- I mean, I wouldn't do it so I would hope the same courtesy would be given back to me.

But in reality I have a great guy who I doubt would ever do that to me!

 

Do you wipe your shitty ass in front of that person (after having diarrhea?)

 

CYBERSEX is like Acting.

Acting isn't cheating. Actors in movies don't get angry at their significant others or vice versa during a "love scene".

WHY? Because it's not real. It's a fantasy. It's fake.

When I cyber, I am playing a character and that's it. I'm not establishing a relationship with this person or trying to meet them for real sex.

It's an act. A game. NOT CHEATING.

 

So you mean to tell us that your penis does not get erect during this time, that you are just "playing a part". Ha, yea,i don't buy it and I am sure no one else here does either.