Do others feel like they cum differently? As in when your with someone Vs using toys together Vs using toys on your own. Vs masturbating
Interesting question as I’ve never really thought about it. I was masturbating last night anticipating a good orgasm after edging myself, but my wife finished me (orally) instead. My reaction to the one was different than the anticipation of the other if that makes sense. I think I cum harder at times when my wife sucks my cock as opposed to fucking but not all the time. When I massage my prostate and cum, it can be a lot more powerful but it’s by nature different. When we use toys together, I tend to cum harder when I’m using toys on her (during PIV or oral) Cumming from masturbating is definitely different, I think because it’s so personally tailored, rhythm, pressure, fantasy, edging – you can really dial it up…
All kinds of different. When I go to see Kelli for a blowjob, my first pop is with me lying on my back with my head propped up against her headboard. I'm very relaxed. She's nude and on all fours going down on me. I can see everything she does. I play with her tits and her ass and pussy since it's sticking up. Sometimes she gives me a toy to stimulate her back there. My orgasm is intense, long and draining. After I put her on her back and go down on her, I'm hard again. Typically, we hit the shower where she has a long suction dildo on the wall. Once the hot water is running, she backs her ass onto the dildo and puts it in an inch or so before bending over to suck my cock again. I inch forward which ultimately gets the long dildo in her ass and my cock all the way in her mouth. That orgasm is different. Probably because it's my second one but also because I'm less relaxed. But it's also more erotic because the rest of the sexual act is different. Plus, my cum is going right into her throat whereas on the bed, it was being delivered all around the inside of her mouth as well. If I'm stroking to porn (or sometimes to people here), it's very different. My cum is outside and on my hand and shaft and I can see the spurt. The porn I'm doing has a lot to do with how I cum. Watching a blowjob makes me cum different than watching someone get ass fucked which feels different than watching threesomes or orgies. The best porn makes me feel like I'm in the scene or with the partner(s) I'm online with. I tend to lose control watching or knowing that someone else is cumming too. That usually doesn't happen when a woman is sucking my dick dry. At least, not at the same time (although sometimes she will). Glory hole cumming is fun but not as satisfying. Again, standing up which isn't always convenient and because of the circumstances a portion of my cock is untouched. Fascinating to do (only done it a few times) and it is better if you bring a partner with you to finish with a proper suck, but cumming is different. It's a naughty, dirty cum. Handjobs can be very satisfying to me depending on who is giving them. My friends never do. They suck me. We all like that. Handjobs at massage parlors, if done right, can be more fun than masturbating. Again, I can watch. Usually my partner lets me play with her body. If she does a lot of handjobs she knows how to stroke a cock hard and how to tease it. If she listens well, she'll stretch out the rub as long as possible until, when I do pop, it almost hurts me on the tip if she keeps stroking. The best of them may end the tease with a quick suck on the tip to start the cumshot and / or a finger in my bum. All of those with trigger the cum and make me spurt. Straight sex is highly dependent on position and placement. I cum better in a woman's bottom mostly because I get so few chances at anal. My regular just won't do it with me but happily fills her bum with a toy. That tight ring of muscle is to die for and just knowing that I'm splashing my cum in a woman's back side is so sexy that I tend to cum a long time. I can't fuck her long back there, but I cum a lot. Vaginal sex is tight along my whole shaft so it's warmer and more slippery. Similar to a good handjob. No visuals when doing vaginal or anal. Or at least not much, so the orgasm is from feeling more that the total sensation. Finally, a good tit fuck is wonderful. I don't cum well if she just lets me slide between her boobs but if she lets me pull it out every few strokes and tease her nipples, that cum is wonderful Almost like a girl teasing just the tip plus the visual of her naked breasts, hard nipples, pre-cum being slid around and then gobs of goo on her tits and neck (and wherever else) makes me think I can last long, but I never do so that orgasm is almost always a surprise to me and usually her.
Ok I will give it a go, I'm definitely not articulate with words like you For with someone it definitely depends on the person. I'm unfortunately one of those females that doesn't cum just from penetration. Generally I'm rather difficult to get off and tend to give my husband a sore wrist or jaw or both depending on what we doing. He likes to get me off before we have sex were I would prefer during. When he does it before it's normally ok and takes the edge off but I'm always left wanting more Vs during I will play with my clit at the same time and it rips through my whole body. Toys are a different all together when he uses them on me I deliberately fight to hold out because I enjoy them in a different way, I enjoy watching him enjoying watching me move and moan. I guess I put on a show with them but because I fight it for so long they are longer and more pulse like and shoot all over. Masturbating has change in some ways after joining here. Normally it's direct and out of need now days and not just for fun. My time on my own is short so it normally has to be done fast and being I know where I like my finger and the pressure that I need and the speed I like it, it's enjoyable and what I need but not intense. But I have found that having a style of conversation that can all be changed when I do it, to the point that it made my toes curl when I did it last. A good chat with the right person who can indulge my naughter side makes it even better. I guess the female form of edging is pulses of pleasure shooting off over and over again and the end result is pure pleasure and greedyness of wanting more.
That's not just a female need believe me, I look for those those sorts of conversations too. It's hard to find them sometimes, but when you do, they can make the difference between masturbating and fucking cumming...
I never knew it was possible to feel that intense on my own until a few days ago . But as they say better late then never.
It takes the right person. I had a back and forth going with a woman a couple years ago. She had a sense of people and of the world. She knew how to get inside me and help form a deeper sexual imagination. She could talk sex and technique, feeling and fetish. It made for great masturbation. It was immersive. We masturbated to each other’s experiences and stories and for me at least it was other level and powerful. I’ve not seen her online in a couple years and I sometimes wonder where she might be.
It really does makes a difference doesn't it. My SO lacks imagination so I can get frustrated with it all. But this conversation it was easy to bounce off each others wants/needs/desires, something that I normally don't get or its one sided and it turned into hours of fucking awesomeness.
SO’s can be like that – mine is terrific but lacks a bit in the department of imagination. It can be frustrating when you feel that part of your life isn’t being tapped. So much about great sex and release happens in your head and so much of our thoughts feed into the physical. It can be a powerful trip when someone “gets it.”
I'm my own worst enemy on the SO front I never told him what I was into.. and he is very vanilla... very very vanilla. Expressing what I have been keeping in my head for years has been freeing in more ways then I expected it to.
I hear you. I use the phrase French Vanilla, but I know what you mean. What I have in my head to her might be odd or weird in some way, but I see it as liberating and pushing into new, more exciting territory.
The things I once loved doing before I meet SO and thought were normal didn't translate very well, his reaction was a guess negative so I started believing there was something wrong with me. So I forced myself to be vanilla as well. He is trying but I know he will never be ok with most of what I am. Even putting in print for has definitely been liberating, feels like I freed up some space after a traffic jam lol
I took a chance one time and told my SO a fantasy I had. I went into great detail. It was highly sexual, very explicit but more importantly an expression me, with my true desires. It was nerve-racking to express it. I got absolutely no reaction. To call it awkward would be a colossal understatement - you could have heard a pin drop as they say…
Yeah that sounds about as good as the reaction I got when I first bought it up. 10 years later I have figured out it's easy to put in a text so I can't see his reactions. It stops me getting frustrated and I get a yes or no answer in return.
It’s tough when your journey is a fairly straight road and you have very real and natural urges to explore. I’m sure my SO wonders what the hell is wrong with me or why can’t I be like everyone else? It’s frustrating but it is also great to run into kindred spirits who understand and encourage a wider expression of sexual experience. I actually never thought about texting my SO – I wonder how that would go over. lol
Yes, masturbating and toys on my own are fun relief When my gf fucks me with a vibrator, I feel very well fucked and satisfied and have anal orgasms. When she sucks me off or I fuck her hard, it's a completely over the top mind body and sole orgasmic experience. One night stands not much different than masturbation
