Hello everyone I am just wanting a little advice. I have been with my partner about 8 months now and our sex life is great apart from one thing.. I cannot go on top. I have suffered from weakness for a long time and due to my job I’m which I run around all day I am often very achey and have general body tiredness. When I go on top I have to have that much support he is doing as much work as him being on top. He doesn’t mind and we have great sex still but it really bugs me. I know I need to work on my health and be stronger for general life but I just wondered if there’s any tips for in the mean time? Has anyone else experienced this? I feel like I can’t hold my body weight up at all and my legs just shake. (I am only small by the way) It’s one of those things that shouldn’t bug me this much but it is. Thank you
I don’t understand? I know that’s what I need to do but I can’t. Getting on isn’t the problem but I can’t do anything or lift myself up because my body’s to weak When I say he supports I meant he has to move me up and down
you don't need to lift yourself up.once your straddling him,lean forward and work up a rhythm together.It's not rocket science You don't need to be doing the whole porn film Olympics stuff.Lean forward so he can kiss etc your titties.Get his hands on your Ass and away you go.
I know it’s not rocket science and I know how to do it I just can’t play any part in it which is the problem. Working up something together isn’t an option because I can’t. It’s very tricky and I’m maybe not explaining things the best
If you're trying the squatting position, that's basically exhausting for anyone who goes on top and tries that position. I'd say you just kneel on your knees right on the bed instead.
I’m not and it’s something we have discussed together. I was just seeing if other people were having the same problem and it seems they are as I’ve had a few inboxes.
Another thing to add to the "straddling him while on the knees" position is to completely lean down right over his body so that you faces are almost touching. This way you can also support your body weight not just with your knees, but also with your elbows. Kissing during sex becomes much easier this way as well. Then you just start grinding, and hopefully you find the sweet spot......
Have you tried leaning forward, supporting yourselves on your hands or elbows, lift your hips up a little so that he can do the work? The only thing you’d have to do is support yourselves and position your body so that you’ll get the most pleasure.
I don’t want him to have to do all the work that’s the problem. I really want to be able to myself. A big turn on for me is pleasing him
Ok, but this way it would be possible to swap turns. If you cannot do it any longer, lean forward and let him pound you, then swap turns when you feel up to it again.
The advice Sae, Circular, and I have been offering here is so that you can actually do more work to please him. The position that we've been talking about allows you to rock your hips and control the penetration, as well as the clitoral stimulation if you're able to sink down to take his entire length and rub your clit against his crotch. For that matter, you could even reach down and stimulate your clit yourself, or he could do that even.
Question for the OP, where are your knees? Are you kneeling with your knees on the floor/bed? Or are you crouching with your feet on the floor and your knees near your ears?
