My older daughter is in first grade. She has brought home some disturbing homework in the past. Really biased things about pilgrims 'helping' the Indians and stuff. She got in trouble for not coloring in a picture that said something like "A pilgrim brings his family, his rifle, and his bible to church." All sorts of other ignorant crap. Last Thursday my daughter announced after school that she was supposed to come to school the next day dressed as a cowboy or an Indian. They're not studying anything that might somehow make this relevant. She's wasn't going to be in a play. It was just a dress-up theme day like when they had silly hat day. I told my daughter that we did not have cowboy clothes. She wanted to dress like an Indian. I asked her how Indians dress. She said she thought kids would be wearing feather head-dresses and things like that. I told her that's not what the Indians around here wear to school. I asked my daughter what people should wear if the teacher tells everyone to dress like white people next Friday. (My daughter and I are white.) No answer. I asked her, "Well, how do white people dress?" My daughter looked at her clothes and mine. Silence. I said, "However we want, right?" She agreed. I told her that's what Indians wear, too. Whatever they want. I tried to explain to my daughter, in terms that I hoped would be meaningful to her, being 6 years old, why it is disrespectful to have 'Cowboy and Indian ' Day at school. I told her that it trivializes cultures and promotes stereotypes, and that this makes people think of people who are different from them in shallow, trivial, objectifying ways. I asked her how she thought Indian kids in her class might feel seeing their classmates dress up like stereotypes of their cultures on that day. My daughter got defensive and thought I was dissing her teacher. She was mad because she thought she'd be the only kid who wasn't allowed to dress up. I let her wear a beaded necklace that I bought from the Navajo woman who made it. I told her that if her teacher asked why she didn't dress up she could tell her that Indians do wear pants and t-shirts like the ones she had on to school. I thought we had moved beyond this. This is a public school in California. I doubt that talking to the teacher will help. She is not the most culturally aware person I have encountered. I am tempted to write a letter, about this problem in general, not naming the teacher or school, to the editor of my dinky little town's paper to just get it off my chest. I want to know if other parents on this forum think I should talk to the teacher even though she's kind of dense and if I should write the letter to the editor. I'm also interested in other parents' similar experiences. I have spoken up in the past about things, like my daughter and I being treated unfairly because of our epilepsy, and I now have a reputation as a pain in the ass at the school. So, it's not like I'll be tarnishing my reputation. I just feel like this cowboy and Indian day is so wrong. Your thoughts, please.