Just wondering if anyone ever was in a couples swap ? I really want to be able to watch my wife have sex with someone in front of me . I'd like to be able to join in and participate also. I wanted to know what a good scenario would be to be able to make this happen . Thanks
There are lots of swinger and adult sites out there to find lifestyle couples! Use them. Never a good idea to try and bring vanilla's in, because they do not understand it.
If you just want to watch, you can add a single guy or do you want to do a full swap where you both swap partners? Either way, you can join a swingers site. We had a paid account on SLS, (Swing Life Style) but when we moved, we found craigslist to be the most productive. Always meet at a neutral location such as a bar, or restaurant to get to know them first. If you live in a bigger city, you can look on SLS for meet-n-greets to attend.
My husband and I are in what's technically called a cross-relationship with a couple we are close with. I don't allow him to watch me have sex with my BF, though. Nor do I ask that of him.
When my husband & I went down the full swinging route (as opposed to "same room sex"), the being able to watch/be watched was a vital part of the arrangement! We would never have entertained doing anything without the other being present.
I really feel the other way around about this. But we're also poly and not swingers. Our individual development of relationships and need for privacy with our partners is highly respected and acknowledged between everyone.
As everyone said, you should join a swingers site (we are searching people on swinginglove. club ). Search with your wife couples that you like and then talk to them. I think that it's important to chat with them because you can see if there are any red flag, you can block them. ANd also, I think that it's very important to know a little bit the couple first.
The closest we came was traveling with a couple we were close friends with. We stopped at a hotel and the only room they had that could sleep 4 was one with a single California King bed in it. After some card playing and TV watching we hit the hay. My wife was determined to have sex. The idea of being right beside our friends had her turned on. I began spooning with her, and soon slid inside her. We gently rocked, and then I felt the bed move. I looked over my shoulder and saw my friend's wife riding him under the covers. They were discreet but definitely going at it. Since they were aware of us we switched to a missionary position. I heard my friend cumming, which triggered mine. I rolled off of my wife and my friend's wife dismounted him, giving me a wonderful visual of her nice D cup boobs. My wife told me later if they had asked to swap she would have said yes, but they quickly cuddled and fell asleep. So close, and yet so far!
