Counselor screwed me

fine

Define what you think 'meaningless sex' is, because to someone who hasn't had sex, all sex is meaningful.

You could put all kinds of special hats and name-tags and uniforms on people,
they are still going to gravitate towards sex.

I don't think it was right for him to do that, I just don't see it as a big deal.

 

follow this advice LG!

yup

:2thumbsup:

i've said it before and i'll say it again.... people who have been sexually abused, especially as young children, tend not to see the danger-signs until it is too late... can i assume that you were not sexually abused as a child?

 

SO SORRY TO INTRUDE ON YOUR BUSY SOCIAL LIFE

TAKE NOTE OF THIS POST PEEPS.

BULL**IT...

THATS NOT WHAT YOU SAID EARLIER.

MUST MAKE YOU PROUD.!!

A REPLY TO THIS POST WOULD BE MOST

APPRECIATED.....




And Last, But Not Least, May I Draw Your Attention To The "Header" Of

This Thread......COUNSELLOR SCREWED ME .??????????

Mmmmmmmmmmmm.!!





Cheers Glen.

 

he lost his job?

Chances are his career is now irreparable because of this one silly mistake,
Due the pettiness of our species, the act of merely touching another is so offensive and tumultuous to our well being, we deem it worthy of a punishment that may well ruin his life.

everyone makes mistakes.

 

oooohhh.... you gone all CAPITAL.... doesn't help to illustrate any points you may or may not be trying to make though...

 

yes... peeps make mistakes and like i said before, they pay for them... why should the counsellor not pay for his own mistakes???? am i missing something?

i knew a female counsellor who was very indiscreet with a male client of hers... she lost her job, but has learned from the experience and has a job in a different field now... she's over it and life goes on... she admits herself that it was inappropriate of her to behave in this way... why should this counsellor get "special" treatment....??? geeeez...

 

it's called 'forgiving'

 

Set Aside For A Few Seconds What Happened To You Years Ago, And

Read My Post Again...................Slowly....



Cheers Glen.

 

Add To This, He Could Be Now Placed On The Sexual Offenders List....

All Because Of A Hand Placed On A Leg.......F.F.S.....



Cheers Glen.

 

How bestial! how depraved! what monsters these people are, that go around....flirting and hitting on people! it's atrocious!

 

people forgive in their own time... and forgive they must... or they carry around a whole seething pustule of gunk that will kill'em if not shed... but in their own time....

sorry sweetie, call me dense, but i don't think i am getting your point... you seem to be saying that LGs words and behaviour are incongruous? but i don't really see that... i don't think he is lying... i think he is a vulnerable person who was taken advantage of by someone who should know better... he needed advice, not a sexual advance from this man... what is your beef with LG?

 

and in that time, this guy might well be unemployed, depressed and become homeless. who knows.
Oh but it's OK, his 'victim' (the person who he touched a little, who didn't explicitly say 'no' or simply just leave the area) forgives him. He got him fired, with intent. but he 'forgives' him. that makes all the difference.

 

I cant define it, because it means different things to different people. So it's beyond definition. And no, you're wrong, you can only speak for yourself here. I've never had sex, or even any type of physical intimacy with anyone, and I do not think all sex is meaningful. At least it wouldnt be to myself personally.

That is far too generalising. Anyway, most people are able to keep their sexual urges under control. Not least when they're working in a professional capacity. Someone who cannot keep a lid on their sexual urges certainly should not be in a job where they are there to support sometimes extremely mentally and emotionally vulnerable people.

It is a big deal, because if he's done it to LG, Id be very surprised if he is the only patient he'll do it with.

 

I'm Starting To Lean In This Direction....

You Really Don't Understand How The Gay Scene Works, Do You.?....



Cheers Glen.

 

i just doubt it.
I really really doubt it.
Imagine if you and I were to have sex.
It would change both our lives in some way, I couldn't be more certain of that.

 

Why.

If that was the case, noone would have sex.
I'm quite sure that the institutions would make sex illegal if they could just figure out how.
People are always going to want sex.

 

Id be lying if I said that thought hadnt crossed my mind, but Im giving him the benefit of the doubt.

 

Because there are people that can keep their sexual urges under control, and many people dont even have high sex drives anyway. So its too much of a generalisation.

Dont be ridiculous. I was talking purely about people making inappropriate sexual advances when they are supposed to be working in a professional capacity. You've taken what Ive said completely out of context.

 

You only doubt it, because you're assuming everyone views sex in the same way, has the same values about it, and has the same needs and criteria when it comes to it. Which is not true at all.

Im not disputing that, but that doesnt mean that change would be for the better, does it? And I know it definitely wouldnt be for me. I would only be interested in having sex if very narrow criteria was met. Sex outwith that criteria is not something that interests me, and would damage me terribly emotionally if I engaged in it, which is why I never would.

 

There's such thing as this happy fantasy romantic world where everyone magically falls in love.
There's no such thing as an 'appropriate sexual advance'.
It's inappropriate 100% of the time.

Like I said, I don't think this councilor was doing his job correctly, though I strongly disagree with punishing him in such a harsh manner.
Cognitive behavioral therapy probably doesn't take into account the fact that people, (even councilors) are human beings, prone to having sexual urges and prone to making mistakes.

What cognitive behavioral therapy SHOULD teach is that:

People are unforgiving ruthless pathetic pitiful soulless bastards.

Don't touch them, or flirt with them..because it apparently makes them depressed, either that OR they get depressed when they Don't get touched or flirted with.

lol