I must admit to being a bit of a control freak. If I had my way no one would be able to encroach on my life and what I want to do. I like to know what's going on around me and have an escape exit if possible. Is control a buzz, or are you more of a happy go lucky type?
At work I have an escape plan......but only to try to gain the upper hand on the situation. Kinda like a retreat, evaluate and take action. Its just a matter of time before I hear gunshots echoing thoughtout the building (not from me ). My back is always turned and wont be able to do anything with a gunshot to the back of my head. Its paranoia, but many have been shot in my line of work. I wont go down without a fight, if I can help it. I want to save people at the risk of my own life. I want to help people at the loss of my own comfortability. I sell ideas of a better life to people and give them hope. So far I haven't had anyone ungrateful for jumping onto my ship. People say..... if you have a problem.....go see Pete. (I'm the only Pete on my shift) The downfall is that my honesty with people is something that hurts their ears at times. Everyone seems to think they are right about everything. They take offense to their claim being denied, and the hate comes. So I have to say control is a buzz for me and might get me killed in the end. Im okay with it. My wife understands and supports me. I like being someone's hero. I dont think that's a bad thing.
Not, not too much a control freak at all. i have been controlled a good part of my life where I could not do anything about it, and that was hell to be in that place, so I am the total opposite.....unless someone asks me to help them lose weight or something....then i will stand in front of the refridgerator with my arms crossed if I have to.... ....but other than being asked for help with something...I live and let live......and there is no use forcing something or someone to be what you want them to be to you.........as if you waste your time doing that, you may miss where the piece of a puzzle of your life would be a perfect fit...... Stan knows me so well and knows if he tried to tell me what to do.....he would be history......but he accepts and loves me for who I am, and lets me be me...that is why I am still here...and I am the same way with him. I am also my worst critic about everything...
I have a hard enough time controlling my dog yet alone my own life. =p I am mostly happy go lucky but I guess I would control what's fun which makes me happy, if that makes sense? So I am in total control of most situations and would not put myself in many situations that would willingly make me not happy.
I make myself sound like a fugitive lol. I don't want to control other people as such. I'm not controlling in relationships, it's more of a situational thing, because I was fucked around in the past. I would not easily let that happen again. Luckily I also have a happy go lucky side to me as well.
Good God......What Is Your Line Of Work When You Half Expect To Get A Bullet In The Back Of Your Head...???... :yikes: Cheers Glen.
Kinda, yeah. In the sense that I don't like being told what to do. And If I am with someone extremely bossy, it pisses me off real quick.
World's cheapest defense attorney. 75 percent pro bono. Sometimes I'll get some food or drink as a generous gift. Lately I've been getting dried fruit to eat, which I absolutely love. Edit: 75 percent is more realistic of a number. I had to think out loud a little more.
Sometimes I will not go out for a week. I will order my groceries and get everything I need online. Then I just get lost in my projects and try and forget the World. When I'm like this I think of my house like a space station. Going to the local shop is like doing a spacewalk. Then when I'm in my room/studio I have complete safety and control. I love it like that. I think I would like to live up a tower, with security gate and underground parking. That is my ultimate fantasy. Yes some fantasy is required...
I can very much be a control freak. I dont try to control other people, I'm really easy going when I'm hanging out with friends and at work and what not. But when I am home I do like things to be a particular way. This is mostly, actually completely due to anxiety. I know that can make me a difficult person to live with but my significant other just pokes fun of me for it instead of getting annoyed, which is a blessing.
Then there's Freud's "Pleasures of retention". He said some people get a sense of control by withholding bodily excretions. I get this on a non-ejaculation level.
Although Freud is widely believed to be a quack in modern psychology, I can see this being true. It is part of the whole eating disorder spectrum, right? Anorexia and bulimia are just extreme forms of "control" behavior.
I like this thought. I have a place out in the country that I think of as "The Citadel Of Sanity". Friends and family can do as they please, as long as they don't piss me off.
hmm, i really don't know the answer to this. generally, i think i am pretty happy go lucky, but in certain areas it does really bother me if things aren't the way i think they should be. same. if somebody tells me to do something that i'm already planning on doing, it becomes really hard for me to actually go through with it.
I'm a very flexible, happy go lucky person...BUT..when I get around a bossy ass telling me how to do everything this way, there always winds up being a problem. lol I've never really wanted to be boss over others; but, I cannot stand a stupid bossy boss. smh
I'm laid back. I go with the flow. I mean, I'm in control of my own life, but I don't feel the need to rule everything around me with an iron fist. I do, however, tend to be attracted to control freaks.
I'm kind of middle of the road on this. I'm happy go lucky until some bullshit happens. I think for me, it's more so self control and to be calm when things get out of control. That's what I want mostly, is to be able to maintain self control. I've come to grips that I don't have any control of the physical environment around me, beyond what goes on under my own roof. But to deal with strange hostile people who come out of nowhere, or just a situation that I'm dropped right in the middle of not knowing what the hell is going on, I want to be able to react with zen-like patience, but at times I fail miserably.
more like lack of control paranoia, i have it. not that other people are anything i want control over, just what there is of my surroundings that impinges on my life. maybe this is different then what people mean by it. i hope it is, though outward to some it might seem the same. this is why i'm glad there are computers, so people can have something to enjoy controlling, instead of each other.
