Control Freak or not?

I think she just needs to educate the guy and his friends that nudity isnt something bad or necessarily sexual. Id think if she was nude or topfree enough then eventually youd think hed come around to seeing that its no big deal. Its better than just covering up and letting him keep the unhealthy mindset he has now, thats not gonna help him.

 

when i first met my husband, andrew, he didn't get the idea of me being topless. He was raised to believe that nudity was only meant for showering, (real old fashion parents). At first I kept covered, but i resent it so much that I finally explained to him that this was comfortable to me and that i felt like i was compromising myself way too much for it. Now, i'm usually topless in the house. Our friends, mostly guys, have actually come over while I'm topless and simply not give it a second thought. I know that not everyone is that way, but people can come to the understanding. Your best bet would be to sit down and talk to him about it.

 

Of course you're right that she should try to educate him, but just ignoring his feelings about it won't achieve that. It needs to be done gently.

 

I think itd be more uncomfortable for a woman who enjoys being topless to keep her top on than for a guy to have to deal with his gf being topfree that isnt comfortable with it. You can always get used to seeing things you dont necessarily like but some people cant always get used to being confined in something unnatural and artificial as a top, especially if youve been topless all of the time for your whole life mostly and then have to start wearing them alot out of the blue.

I go shirtless all of the time and it takes all my nerve just to put the damn thing on to go places that I gotta wear one and I think its downright unfair and unjust for me to have to wear one just to please some stuck up people who still cling to values that are 100 years or more outdated. I dont really see myself going shirtless as being disrespectful to or offending anyone and im doing anything bad so I dont see the big fricken deal of it. I feel bad for women cuz they got it much harder and I think they need to speak up and demand their rights. When a guy tells a woman shes gotta wear a top it should infuriate her to no end.

 

My last pot didnt necessarily have to do with the given situation. It was just my opinion in general. I already understand basically whats goin on here jus to let you guys know so I dont get flamed for my previous post.

 

i am a naturist and prefer being nude.

 

well, problem sovled. Not only did he let me be topless in front of about 5-6 people, but we had a sleepover at one of his freinds house and we cuddled and loved each other all night. I got covered in kisses and that was it. Nothing more sexual. and all his freinds thought it was beautiful. Like a piece of art. It was so nice and freeing. and he loved it. He liked saying, "isn't she pretty and so carefree? I'm such a lucky guy"

It's so nice we're on the same page, now.

 

Thats great, im happy for you. Im glad your situation had such a happy ending. I really hoped it would.

 

I'm happy about the happy ending. Yeah, I think that the bf was being too controlling, and not accepting enough, and not appreciative enough. I hope that things continue to go well from now on.

 

Yeah im glad things turned out well for her because if a guy couldnt appreciate her for who she truly is then he really must be crazy so yah im just glad that he turned out to be ok after all

 

Fantastic news!!