If you want to date a chick go for it. Down the track if you date a guy he will accept it or not. Most likely accept it. I'm straight and married but I would like to try things with a male. I think it's just the physical side I want to experience I don't care if people want to be straight or gay or identity as something else just get on with it, you have choices, it's not illegal but I don't believe society have to promote it, we just have to accept it. If you are single and open minded hook up with a male and see how you like it, try a couple. Try anything you like if opportunity presents. So long as you are safe and you don't get hurt it's just for fun and you may find what you like. If sleeping with a guy doesn't feel good then you may find it's not for you.
I don't think it's a matter of "wanting" to be straight, gay or otherwise. We don't choose our sexual orientation, or who we're attracted to. What we do choose is what we do or don't do with that attraction.
From what I read she is mostly attracted to men, that's. Her natural attraction. By chance she has hooked up with a chick and liked it, nothing wrong with that. I'm suggesting she just hookup with a guy and have sex. On her terms of course. Have a root, see if she likes it or likes being the female of a hetero sexual experience. It's just testing the water, doesn't mean marriage or a life choice to be straight. The right guy might do the right things to really please her or she might figure she is more into girls. I know I'm 100% into females, I don't really see guys that I'm "attracted" too but I would consider hooking up for a new experience. Some NSA fun
Thank you!! I tried with a man and it worked... Guess I am bisexual! Really big thanks for all your support, you are all great!!
Good to know you're open to both options lol! But seriously I'm pleased you came to a resolution and a realization. Enjoy that knowledge.
Sex is fluid. And can change over time. One does not need to fit into a little square box and remain there forever. I personal feel that not everyone needs a title. Go with what you like. Enjoy whom you like. But above all don't feel that you need to be " one or the other".. Wishing you happiness and joy.
I'm glad you've listened to advice here, Kyria, and are exploring. Very little self discovery comes through just thinking. We need to experience. I am a 59-year-old bi man, and it is only through my experience with women and men, especially in a gradual evolution in the gay part of myself over the last 30 years (from 30 years of age to the brink of my 60th), that I have discovered some truths that I believe have always been there, but that also continue to change. I've had lifelong bad luck with women, having had many rejections and only two girlfriends, for a few years each. Initially it seemed like whenever I got rejected by a woman that I asked out or after only one or two dates, my gay desires and fantasies would increase until I went looking for a real guy. But for the first 20 years, the desire for the real guy in front of me wasn't there like it was in my fantasies and my love of gay porn, though there were a handful of exceptions. But overall my sexuality was stuck. But things changed when I had my first anal experience with a guy. For me, it was that much greater level of intimacy that awoke something in me. In the last 9 years since then, my gaysexuality has evolved, very slowly, but also in spurts, with kind of significant encounters moving me to the next level of accepting the gay side of myself more and more. I have gradually come to understand that I've had a lot of internalized homophobia. I've hit two additional, and very significant, plateaus this year alone. First, for the very first time, I develop romantic feelings for a platonic male friend. I realized that I actually have a very real fully gay side that obviously goes way beyond my first 20 years of only being interested in the cock and nothing else about the man I was with. And the second event only happened a month ago, when for the very first time I enjoyed making love to a hairy guy, with some real masculinity. Before that I was only into smooth bodies and genitals (I suppose you can say internally homophobic-based desire for female-like skin). But I was so into this guy that superficial things didn't really matter, and it was the connectedness to this man, and the connectedness to myself, that really mattered. I feel I am now really open to myself to have desire for any guy, any place, any time, as life unfolds. I'm seeing guys on the street and in every day life in a whole new light. I feel that over these 30 years I have chipped away little by little at the wall that I had unconsciously built around the gay part of myself (perhaps stemming from 5 years of pre-adolescent sexual "experimentation" with my best male friend--a friendship that ended badly--along with being constantly bombarded by society's overt homophobia), bringing myself to a place now where I'm not only totally open to everything with a man like I've been with women lifelong, but now leaning heavily towards men only. And I feel so happy and feeling true to myself. I know I'm still evolving and we'll see where things go. Kyria, I believe you too will continue to evolve, and as your experience with both sexes continues, you will both discover who you really are, and just naturally change through time, both simultaneously. Just be kind to yourself, and most importantly, kind to others. Enjoy your life, be happy, and I wish you all the best. Peace.
Thank you for telling me your story and opening up!! Everything you all wrote here is invaluable and I'm relieved! Really, this forum is great!
You know, reading some of the posts here on this subject and in other threads, it just occurred to me that each of us are on a journey that is not subject to someone else's expectations or their agenda - but it is our journey - seems obvious, but I think reading some things written here has shown me that this is my path and are my shoes and nobody else can tell my how to tie my laces...It's been a slow unraveling of a lot of stuff for me, too - and there have been times when I felt I could regret not figuring out all of this stuff much earlier - maybe I would have found a life partner of the same sex or maybe I would have avoided hurting my wife and confusing my kids, and on and on... but I don't think these journeys we take can be regretted. I had a native American friend a few years back - he had a hard time for quite a period of his life. He was a recovering addict and alcoholic. IN his recovery he made art and wrote poetry - and expressed his pain and his joy that way. One day, toward the end of his life I was holding his hand and feeling badly that he was growing weaker. I asked him about regrets - and he said, "it takes as long as it takes" and that was all he had to say on the topic. I think it helped that this amazing man, with the beautiful long dark hair and striking Indian features was laying there, with a favorite blanket over his body, not afraid to hold my hand and look me in the eyes - he was my brother - a deep friendship that was created out of mutual trust and honesty - and because of his devotion to his heritage, I experienced something profoundly wonderful in him - his simple words come back to me now as I write this... it takes as long as it takes, my friend.
