I am struggling as a single mom to decide whether or not to come out. I am from a mostly conservative family and I really don't want to disappoint my dad, who is a huge role model to me. Also, I don't know what my kids will think. They are too young now, but when they get older I don't want it to be an issue. I just feel so alone.
Coming out is incredibly hard. But so is denying what you are. i agree about your worries regarding your parents, they often just can't understand. Your children will love you regardless: my daughter grew up in a lesbian household and is 100% completely normal: she loves me and is totally hetero. No one can make the decision for you, but there are professionals who can help and suggest strategies to ease the transition. Have faith in your own sense of being.
you're gonna want to raise the kids to not misunderstand what's going on, and to not believe things they might otherwise hear. so eventually it should definitely be a discussion. Everyone else will love you for it too.
