So i have a weird question and i hope someone can help out: I’m a male and the only sexual activity is masturbation. I do it in an unconventional way but i won’t get into depth about that. I was in a relationship for a few months but I was really hurt in it, like to the point where i was diagnosed with depression. Today i am still hurt but it’s not as bad as it was. But the big change i’ve felt is that i have no sexual desire to others. I love masturbation though but i have no want to lose my virginity. My question is why don’t i have a desire to lose my virginity or ever love anyone again. thank you
Um, you have no desire because the last one kind of blew up in your face. I'm guessing depression is a big part of it - keep working on that, and don't expect it to just go away. Also, some antidepressants really kill off your sex drive - you may get to a point were you'd rather feel the loss and hurt than feel nothing at all from the antidepressants. Good luck with that and put yourself back out there.
Such a short time after your relationship, I am hardly surprised that you are feeling messed up. It takes a while to return to normal. Hopefully you have avoided antidepressants, they just slow down the natural healing process and play havoc with your body chemistry. Masturbation is simply a way of getting rid of your old sperm so that it can be replaced, so, like a woman's periods, it is independent of your state of mind regarding any future relationships.
It's only been a few months since your breakup, so it's understandable. You might also by default have a particular set of standards when it comes to losing your virginity. Some guys just want to lose it. To talk about myself as an example, I'd rather the experience was special, not just for me but for the both of us. So, I haven't done it yet, lol. When the time comes for you to truly want it, the time comes, I suppose.
