Confession/Question (Prostate Massage, Anal penetration)

Discussion in 'Anal Sex' started by Kvit, Feb 17, 2021.

  1. Kvit

    Kvit Newbie

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    Hello all,

    So this will be an initial a long post, to people who are just started asking question about prostate pleasures and anal penetration, this might be a good read because I will try to share my thought on it and how I came to enjoy it...

    So here I am a married guy, age 37 with a bit of kink in me and yet with usual dilemma is anal penetration with toys and prostate massage is a good thing? Considering my wife doesn't really share my kink interests.

    It's been going on like that for few years, well now more like 5...
    I am into Prostate/Anal play, I have tried to convince my spouse into it - and open a new world of pleasure for her but very rarely she is interested in that sort of play in bed. Instead of been always the one asking, pushing and demanding anal from here... In the end one day I stumbled upon an interesting thread about male prostate pleasure and things has changed in many ways for me - Good and and not so great.

    It started with a finger trying to discover my P-spot, to my surprise what people said easy to navigate and find it - in my case was wrong. I didn't find it on the first try and even on the 3rd, but what I did discover was new sensation from toys penetration while masturbating and watching porn.

    By this point, I know a lot of young folks will have a rough Idea - he is Gay right? Well NO!
    I've been asking this myself a lot, I dig deeper into my inner zen - looking for answers, and what orientation do I belong to, happy to say I love my wife dearly (It's been more than 10 years since we are married) and although I might fantasize about other women while masturbating it is never a male figure.

    I looked on many blogs about it and to my conclusion Anal pleasures and prostate massage has nothing to do with your sexual orientation. - Guys and Girls - It is just a new erogenous zone with awesome sensations results - if you prepare yourself and go easy and slow - this will take you to the new height. It did for me at least and I am certain for many many others...

    Ahh, so where was I?

    Since my spouse was a "no no" in Anal department, and I discovered I enjoy anal myself. I learned about cleaning and things to look out for when experimenting with new uncharted territory, Invested in few of the toys small/medium size and lots of lube (Water based) and went into pleasure town.

    I was getting off on anal penetration at the start and my rear entrance was very sensitive and I loved the feeling of stretching, friction. Sometimes feeling of been full was a major turn-on.

    So, this was going on, for a few years and although I would occasionally heat that sweat "P" spot I could never be on it all the time, until instead of getting a larger toy and larger toy once again, I bought a knock-off aliexpress prostate massager, similar to Aneros brand, oh boy - this was a new sensation all together.

    This was no longer a pumping workout with dildos and sex toys or stretching for that matter.
    This was a more slow phased session of discovering your prostate and applying at the start a gentle pressure and experiencing 20-30 min into session contractions that could lead to amazing explosive orgasm. Barely touching yourself - I say barely because I could never to this day achieve Hand free one.

    So at this point my wife understood that anal toys were not just for her that I bought, but some of them where actually mine and she just never used them - but I did ;)
    Here first assumption was like most - are you gay she was confused? Guys - This was a though subject on our part - and it took some explanation, references and convincing that I love her and women in general, toy is just a toy that bring stronger orgasms. That is it.

    So wow - she knew my secret - yet she barely touched them or used them in bed on me or her.
    (Damn... right! You probably wished for a happy ending there with me and her? Me too - but life is more complicated than that)
    Now, she tends to kind of ignore my new/old kinky side our sex is just as vanilla as it used to be.
    Since we are married 10 years in. Not all sex is great, I guess that is why I was exploring new thing and one lead to another and I was hooked on new sensations that prostate was offering.

    With more practice and pleasure out if P and Anal more questions has risen to the point: How to orgasm Hands Free, How to have Multiple orgasms what about dry orgasm etc.

    I've been exploring my body for many years when I am on my own and what started with anal moved towards Prostate massage that to me is Even more explosive than anal penetration. My dildo toys are mostly picking up dust now, I barely use them. as Prostate massage delivers in that respect so much more :)

    recently I switched from knock-off Aneros to a new prostate massager that has a slight hook curve with bulges of diameter size that allows me to find my P spot more quickly and play with variety of pressure on the P spot. Friction and angle play a big role in this together with lube - lots of lube :)

    Now I am getting off a lot on "milking my prostate" I believe is the term, I can spend up to an hour in relaxed positions (When I have time) while applying gentle to a slightly harder friction and pressure towards my prostate with hook/curved toy. If done right I start to leak pre-cum while your penis is flaccid or in medium erect state - this pre-cum leaking is very very pleasurable - like small micro-orgasms, I can get literally a pre-cum puddle underneath me while doing it, but in the end to help and reach the normal Orgasm I then to start masturbate and this brings me over the edge in a wild way while prostate is continuously massaged.

    So what about the "not so good part"

    1. My wife still doesn't share my kink.
    2. I tend to enjoy prostate play in conjunction with masturbation so much more that my normal sex can feel dull at times.
    3. Even masturbation is no longer as satisfactory without the Prostate play.

    I tell to myself and to you too - Balance in everything is the key.

    Enjoy it to the point, it doesn't become the main source of pleasure.

    Gently explain this kink to your other half - and hopefully she/he will understand your side.
    Always clean and lube up - Making a tear in the rear is easy (You don't want to visit a doctor and blush red while explaining the problem - most of all it can be very serious and dangerous to your well being)

    Testing your limits is good but to the point, when you are experiencing discomfort or pain. STOP STOP STOP!
    Read more material from reliable sources. watch educational videos (PORN Doesn't count) and hopefully you will add a new pleasure in your sex world.

    I hope this long read was at least in some way educational or informative. This is the first time I am sharing something so private on the forum and i hope this will be taken correctly by all of you.

    and I also have questions of my own.
    When milking prostate:
    how much is to much?
    How often can it be done?

    How to reach the Big O
    how to reach multi/dry orgasm?


    If you have any questions fire away.
     
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  2. Earldribs

    Earldribs Newbie

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    I had a girlfriend in high school who brought up the idea of pegging. Secretly I was already a couple years into strap on porn and self prostrate play.

    it was just an amazing coincidence that she was into it herself. So one weekend we went to the toy store and got a strap on, spent the next couple weeks getting the motions down and it was a normal part of our sex life for the next three years until we split up.
     
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  3. erofant

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    Anal / prostate play for a guy DOES NOT mean you're gay!!! This is an old wives' tale / stereotype that's completely wrong.

    A man's prostate is the equivalent to the woman's G-spot. It's most easily stimulated directly through anal penetration by finger, toy, butt plug, prostate massager, or strap-on. It's just another erogenous zone / pleasure center. It WILL make a guy's orgasms much stronger when his prostate is stimulated / massaged while getting a HJ, BJ, or 69-ing with a woman. There are lots of vibrating prostate toys / massagers on the market that'll send a guy into orbit when he goes off. Lelo makes several, We-vibe, and others all make for REALLY HOT play times!! My wife uses them on me at times and it's a W-O-W experience every time.
     
  4. Escierto

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    So anal play does not make you gay? How about being fucked in the ass by a beautiful woman with a big cock? Just asking for a friend.
     
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  5. Styx

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    LOL :D I asked the same question for a friend once myself and just decided to get fucked in the ass by a beautiful woman with a big cock. It was quite amazing actually!
     
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  6. NubbinsUp

    NubbinsUp Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

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    I've never been into it. I was curious as a young child, probably about age 7, and I probed with a finger and a few small objects, but I didn't like the smell, nor particularly the sensation, and I never had any urge to revisit.

    My experience is similar with trying or smelling some foods. The initial impression was not favorable, and it had a lasting negative effect.

    There's also the matter of associating it with a medical appointment. Beginning at age 50, the standard protocol is for your doctor to feel your prostate for anomalies as part of a regular physical examination, regardless of symptoms. It's the least favorite part of the exam for both my doctor and me, and I usually ask him to skip it, and he gladly does. Your wife might feel similarly if you wanted to insert a speculum in her vagina as part of sex play - the association is all wrong.

    There's nothing wrong with anal play either alone or with a consenting adult partner, and I know that prostate orgasms are greatly valued by many. I'm just not one of them. I'm content to remain among the uninitiated.
     

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