I am a 17 year old emergent lesbian. I've had one pretty minor crush, but no romantic encounters of any kind. Anybody else have a similar case? Or am I totally a socially inept outcast?
See, that's what I'm worried about, I spend so much time NOT dwelling on it, what if it never does happen? Thanks for replying, by the way.
Don't feel bad, I'm 19 and haven't had a serious relationship with a girl yet. We're called "late bloomers". Plus I was thinking maybe your sex drive is low. I'm sure you'll find love though. :love:
I thought about that, and I'm pretty sure it's not a sex drive thing. It's more of a social inhibition, I think. Like I haven't ever even talked to a girl outside of a platonic way; I feel like there's this invisible social barrier that I can't breach, it's like I don't have the ability to express romantic feelings, no matter how much I wish to. I hope it's not a sex drive thing... that would suck... Thanks for commenting, btw!
You're 17. =p Plenty of years ahead of you for romance. When you find your girl, if she's experienced she'll guide you. If she's not experienced just don't hesitate or be shy. That's easy to say I remember my first time and I hesitated and I was shy. >.> but you realise it didn't have to be that way. There shouldn't be any awkwardness, nobody needs to know, it's just between you two. Anticipation makes you nervous. I doubt it's a low sex drive though. I think you'd know if it was. You want sex, right? You're worried it mightn't happen so that a yes. Throw the sex drive out the window.
I'm more worried about the love part, sex is secondary, I'll cross that bridge when I get to it, but I know it's not about drive. And I know, there's plenty of time, and the statistical likelihood that I will NEVER experience that connection with someone is impossibly low, but you know I'm listening to all these straight friends I have blather on about their love lives, how many dates they've had, how many different partners they've had, and I'm sitting there thinking, "I'd just like to hold hands with somebody." I don't actually voice this opinion, because it sounds really pathetic. Hey this is some great advice though, thank you guys!
So I don't know if it's cool to change the subject in the middle of a thread, but I'm going to, so... Yeah. I've got this friend, right, and she's dealing with the unwanted advances of her best guy-friend. I haven't known her that long, but I've got kind of a crush on her, I feel irrationally angry at this guy who won't leave her alone, I think it's jealousy. But she's ridiculously straight, and she'd never go for me (I think we've all been there), so I guess all I can be is a good friend. Scenarios such as this keep happening to me, so without further rambling, does anyone have any advice on how to meet/romance/talk to girls?
Aww well if you girls do get together there will be nothing to worry about. Just maybe let her know and be yourself and everything will come naturally.
You're right, but anything that comes naturally will unfortunately not be romantic. That's an understatement of just how straight she is...
