Codependency/Fear of Intimacy

You are not a savant. The real meaning of savant is a person that is mentally disabled except for certain things that why people hear about musical savants these are kids who excel in only one area but and extremly deficient in all other. Most savants are autistic.

 

Sorry don't mean to be harsh...

 

Oh ok, I just took it another way then and I apologize. I just dont like when I hear people claim they are more mtaure than anyone because that is generazling and judging based on what appears to be something when it could very well be a cover up for the true person deep down inside ya dig?
I used to think I was a needy person, but now that I broke up with the ex fiance I am finding myself very happy to be alone and searching for someone who I am more compatible with. And also my son makes my life pretty damn close to complete Fuck everyone else, as lonely as I get, especially when he is with his mother the other half of the week, I always remind myself, that if he wre to suddenly die or become terribly ill tomorrow (god forbid) then I would say "yesterday I had everything." So now I feel completely free, and while it is taking a while to get totally used to this new way of life, I am optimistic. It is hard though at times, I have gotten a little close to about 3 girls since the break up but I blew them all off because I am not ready yet, I dont want to just fall right back into a relationship and become attached to someone. I need to find myself and then be able to have a relationship where I can not be jealous and not the least bit controling, I need to learn that people are people and you cant change them or let yourself be changed. It took a lot of pain and heartache to realize that, but thank god it happened when it happened or I might have been stuck in a situation that would have eventually spiraled down right out of control. Sorry for all that, just needed to get some things off my mind!

 

well, i know suncatch face to face, and i'll vouch for her, she's never been condescending to people in any way that i've ever seen. frankly i'm surprised that she feels such a lack of connection/clicking with people her own age because my parents and any of my friends who have interacted with her have clicked with her and pretty much said she's really easy to get along with. my mom said she felt like she knew her all her life. i'm not capable of diagnosing anyone as a savant or otherwise, so i won't go there.

 

We are all friends buddy especially friends from PA I apologized to her, I just mistook her statement to be condencending, which I really shouldnt have to explain myself for doing so, seeing as when someone claims to be more "anything" than anyone else, it usually is seen as a condencending statement. Am I wrong in saying so?

 

sorry i didn't see your most recent posts - i was referring to further back, and i should have mentioned that. truce?

 

"i think i'm have some of the issues you mentioned in your post somechickyoudon'tknow, i've had eating problums and drug/drink problums but i've had theropy for them. also, i've got abandonment issues too caused by some of the things i've had growing up in my childhood, but i think its made me a much stronger person for what i've gone thrue."

A refreshingly healthy perspective.

 

That is the true meaning of an idiot savant not a savant.

 

Truce bro, of course And to Suncatch

 

Thats cool that you where able to come through your problems and have a healthy life and have become a stronger person.

When I was talking about savant I am talking with psychology in mind... I do that most of the time. I know that just the word savant means a person that is artistic. But usually when refering to a person as a savant there are all the other things that I mention before. Typically, the label is only used with those that are mentaly handicapped that have the great abilities.

 

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every body
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i'm awtistic too and i have a.d.h.d too but that don't matter because i don't let it

 

Savant: a person of learning; especially : one with detailed knowledge in some specialized field (as of science or literature)

Idiot savant: a person affected with a mental disability (as autism or mental retardation) who exhibits exceptional skill or brilliance in some limited field (as mathematics or music)

 

its funny you mentioned music, that's what i do, play music
harp
piano
and i sing so there haa

 

I play music too... Piano Violin, I write for choir, bell, piano, and violin. I am learning guitar and trumpet right now.

 

I appreciate it, seriously. You're a good guy.