Check in here if you're monogamous

I don't suppose this will garner any responses but I figure I'll try.

Monogamy takes a back seat to all of these cuckold, FWB, Las Vegas call girls, wife sharers, 3-somes, swingers and those people who have 5, 20, 30, 50+ partners. If you're monogamous, you don't exactly have a lot of great stories to share compared to the aforementioned.

Check in here if you're monogamous, what is special about it to you?

My wife and I are approaching 50. She was my second, I was her first. Never divorced. Our children are teenagers now. For me it's simple, monogamy isn't about values, religion or morals. Love and sex is something very special I only want to share with my wife. This doesn't imply that she's perfect. In fact, she can be a crazy bitch at times. But I love all her imperfections.

This probably won't make sense. But I fantasize about multiple partners. But I don't want those fantasies to come true. For me, it's OK for fantasies to remain a fantasy. Given the opportunity to swing or cheat, it would be exciting, exhilarating, HOT AS *UCK! But it wouldn't be my wife and I know exactly what I would do. I'd chicken out. I just couldn't do it.

Here is an analogy:

Have you ever owned a car that you just didn't have the heart to get rid of? Its the car you used to get you to and from college, the car that you drove to your graduation, first co-op interview, first career, first promotion. Or perhaps it's the first car that you punched a hole in the floor to attach your first baby seat, then a second one, then a booster seat and two baby seats. Its the car you drove your kid to their first day at school, hockey practice, piano lesson. Now that life moved on and you can afford a much nicer and new car, it just isn't the same. The new car is faster, sexier, shiny, prettier, much younger ... but it just isn't the same. You will never forget that first car and no car can replace it. THAT is the feeling I get from being in a monogamous relationship. It's just ... special and precious to me.

 

Monogamy doesn’t have to make you feel your stories are not worthy or somehow inferior to stories about people who have multiple sexual partners. It’s about what you do with your wife. Where you do it etc. Kinky stuff, BDSM and all sorts of awesome things one person can do with one other. I’m in a monogamous relationship and I love her. All these things I want to do are with her.

 

My wife and I consider our sexual relationship with another m/f couple monogamist as the four of us feel we're married to each other. The four of us have sex with each other, not always at the same time either but we still consider it to be monogamist because the four of us are accepting of it and have deep feelings for each other.

 

However, that car is predictable, you know what makes it run good, you know to fix it and it gets you to where you need to go.....It might not be shiny and slick, but there's no payments....

 

To each there own but I generally believe our race is not meant to be monogamous....statistics prove it....what is like over 60% of marriages fail that is actually reported....most couples nowadays don't get a divorce and just separate due to the financial strain....My wife and I are close to 18 years marriage 22 years altogether and 20 years in the swinger lifestyle.....we never lost our spark in the bedroom still having frequent hot sex. Our intimacy keeps growing deeper for each other.

 

I joined Hip a few months ago looking for new sex ideas my wife and I can try. I learned that we're a lot kinkier than a lot of you. But we don't share, swing, swap, cuck, fwb, exhibition and we have very few other partners. So I thought that would be our next sexual adventure. Then I realize that I can't do that in a similar way that my body just isn't made to run a marathon. I also learned that monogamy is special, and not something that needs to be remedied.

Regardless, I really enjoy reading your fwb / swing / swap stories!

 

I know of quite a few monogamous relationships that started with both as virgins and ended upon death. My parents for one. As the analogy of the car indicated some people are very happy with one partner and what may be vanilla sex for life. There was one couple I knew that married and lost their virginity to each other on their wedding night. They were together well into their 80's until the wife passed away. Within a week the husband also passed. Even though the human isn't geared to be monogamous or even just have one partner for life it does happen. It isn't all that common as a look back through history shows many stories of people having multiple partners but very few totally monogamous relationships. Take the Israel King David who not only had many wives but his affair with Bathsheba ended up with the death of her husband. There is also speculation he had a sexual relationship with Jonathon, Saul's son and heir to the throne. Antony and Cleopatra is another non monogamous relationship in history. Antony married Octavian's sister, Octavia. Despite this marriage, Antony carried on with an affair with Cleopatra, who had three children by him. And don't forget about England's Henry IIV and his six marriages. Lifelong monogamous relationships are not all that common but after a divorce or two a lot of people settle into monogamy even though they couldn't beforehand.

 

A relationship is whatever you make it ,of course with your partner . Manogomous relationships do not have to be dull and boring . If anything quite the opposite as you explore things together and the relationship matures ,experimenting can be a way of keeping the fire going. The only limitations are your own agreed boundaries and these can be up for negotiation in the future as well for further fun and experimentation .

 

We've been together over 20 years. Both of us have had around 100 sex partners each. She has probably had more. Can never get an accurate count. But since we've both been around the block time after time after time there is nothing new to experience. So we are monogomous and very contented just openly reminising to each other about our past experiences.

We do play acting which we have done with other sex partners and we actually refer to each other by past lover's names to heighten the depth of pleasure.

 

My girlfriend and I are monogamous. It was a mutual decision and we are happy that we are only for each other. It makes her feel special and me too. We both know that we could easily have others but the fact that we choose each other makes our relationship stronger.

 

When we bought our house we learned very quickly that a few of our neighbors like to swing. Including the previous owners. but my husband and I do not. Maybe it’s because I was cheated on ( not by my husband) that, the thought of someone else all over my husband, makes me feel jealous. Hey! Get off that cock, it’s mine to ride!!! I just want all his goods to my self. He says he feels the same.