Cheating - Too common?

AWESOME

 

Find some new friends. I do think this is a big part of the problem. Everyone just tolerates it and looks the other way, oh well its not me. Cheating is diffenately the most cowardly route to take. Either you want in or you want out. Not only do other people look the other way but a hell of a lot of spouses do to. A couple appologies and they are all back together. I watch people like by brother in law get cheated on 3 and 4 times and still think his wife loves him and doesn't mean to do it. Its sad really. There are plenty of men in this world who do not cheat and realize what they have a home. I can honestly say I am one of them. I just try to get the cheaters, liars, theives and lazy ass people out of my life. I for one am sick of dealing with morally corupt people that think they should be able to walk all over other people without consequences or consciences.

 

i worry about being cheated on all the time...because basically every guy i am/was friends with has cheated on his girlfriend...when i see how they treated their girlfriends, it makes me a little paranoid as to what my boyfriends doing to me. hearing that friends of yours are cheating or have cheated makes you start to worry if all guys are like that.

 

What a sweeping judgement.

Put 15 beers in you and a hot strange girl at a party grabbing your crotch through your jeans and tell me how you'd act.

 

And your assumption that we would be
overwhelmed with temptation to betray
our loved one is any Less of a sweeping
judgement?
We are not all you, either, remember?

 

My statement was about beer, not people.

 

Oh, well, ok then, my mistake :rolleyes5

 

Cheating is wrong, but I feel that everyone has a reason for what they do. We will never really know what makes another person's mind tick, only our own. Just chalk it up to humanity, and learn the signs so that you can avoid it.

 

ive cheated on my gurl and to listen to her cry the way she cried when she found out was bad enough... shit fucked me up and id never do it again...

 

honestly I thought that maybe I could/would cheat
didn't want to think this way
yet I did
I saw this movie called A Little Sex yesterday which is basically all about infidelity
and was absolutely disgusted by it
NEVER
and I think I would just die if I was ever cheated on, I dunno what I would do =/

 

I've never cheated, but I've been cheated on, and it HURTS! So I would never do it.

 

I havn't been on here in a very long time and I seem to be older than most of you here and have been going through the Affair thing for 2 years now. My H cheated on me for 3 years. You are probably thinking how did you not know. I look back now and see that I knew something was wrong but didn't want to face it. When I got the nerve up, I checked the cellphone bills and confronted him. It was something that I never thought I would be facing in our marriage.
It is a very common thing nowadays. I have to agree with what someone said about not knowing how you would act in that situation. My H worked with this woman for 5 days a week 10 hours a day. They started out as friends and it became more. It had nothing to do with me or our marriage. It was about them. My H said he never had any intention of leaving or never stopped loving me. He knew what he was doing was wrong but cared for this woman. I believe that you can love 2 people at once. I use to think black and white with never and gray areas but now I see how hard it was for him also. Three people got hurt but have worked everything out. I'm not mad at either one of them now. Communication is a key part in any relationship. When you can talk and really listen to what your partner is saying to you a whole other part of your relationship will open up. For my H and myself, we have a stronger marriage than I could have ever expected.

 

agree

 

The obvious solution is to dump the girl and beat the hell out of the guy.

 

Ditto !

 

so for over 3 years your husband would go behind your back, taking away any trust and basically giving his love to another woman...and your still with him? Hmm Blinded by Love or stupidity?

 

Blind love and stupidity at first. Here it is again about not knowing what you would do if you havn't been in this situation. We have been married for 20 years, alot changes, we changed, grew apart for awhile but have found something that is incredible now.
Yes, the trust was broken but the love never died nor did he treat me any differently.
Some people are capable of loving and giving that love equally.

 

Cheating to me is just low. If your interested in a nother guy/girl or just arent the committed person thjen break it up first. Dont go behind your partners back. Its selfish and low. I have no peace with cheaters. Is it becoming more commom? I bet it is yes.


Naima

 

yah pure scum, a waste of life.