Caught Masturbating By My Son

My teenage son (18) recently walked in on me masturbating to porn on my laptop at a time when he is ALWAYS asleep (early morning), which is why I choose that time for solo sex. I'm not sure exactly how much he saw because when I heard the door open I quickly covered up and within a few seconds turned off the video on which the volume was turned down low. However, I am pretty sure he knew what I had been doing. Obviously, this is awkward and I usually ensure privacy when I am masturbating (I'm a single dad) but I guess no one is perfect. I am wondering if I should initiate a discussion with him about this incident or just let it go? I know that he has been doing the same thing from evidence on his computer. I am leaning toward just letting it pass and saying nothing.

 

He's probably laughing at you.

 

At least your son now knows a micro penis runs in the family.

 

So what's the problem then can't you talk to your 18 year old son about you and masturbation, I'm sure he knows all about it anyway masturbation that is.

 

it's not that I can't talk to him about it, in fact, we have discussed the topic previously. it's just I had never been caught in the act and wanted to see if there was any sincere advice here but am getting mainly typical silly wisecracks.

 

You have an abundance of posts in masturbation threads.

I'm sure you can handle it yourself.

 

Well my sincere advice is there's nothing wrong with talking about masturbating, he obviously knows you do it so talk to him about it. I know it's not the accepted thing to do in families talking about sex that is, but he knows now so I don't think there's a problem. If he had been a lot younger then obviously that's different, but he's 18 and old enough to realise now that even dad masturbates. I know it's embarrassing talking about masturbation in the family, but even my daughter knows I masturbate and that didn't bother her when I told her, although she found it rather funny when her dad admitted to doing it. But all in all she accepts it as a perfectly natural way of releasing my pent up sexual tension, when I don't have anyone else to have sex with.

 

My sincere advice is to let this one go. Sometimes if you talk about something too much, you're actually kind of admitting there's something wrong with it. You were doing nothing wrong, and I doubt your son really wants to be approached about the fact that you were masturbating. Everything is cool. It's not like you were doing the wrong thing by hiding the fact that you were masturbating from your son, although I'm sure backchat would love it if we could all just openly masturbate in front of each other.

 

Just let it go. If I caught one of my parents doing that I would be mortified, but if they tried to talk to me about it later, that would be so much worse.

 

I would just like to correct you on that neon I don't think that at all. But what I do think is that masturbation in the family is a normal thing, and I just wish that we were all grown up enough to realise that masturbation is a normal part of human behaviour, and not something that should be looked down upon with disgust in the family. Of course I wouldn't expect see everyone in the family openly masturbating in front of each other, and that's simply because children in the family need to be protected from viewing sex and pornography. But that doesn't mean to say that when your son or daughter are at the age of consent, you shouldn't be afraid to talk to them about why you were masturbating. At least talking about it is much better than pretending it didn't happen, after all you are grown up adults and shouldn't feel it's a shameful thing to do.

 

Yes, it is obvious from my posts elsewhere that I am into masturbation but that doesn't mean I am comfortable being seen by my son doing it. In fact, I would only be comfortable being seen masturbating by a sexual partner. I am not afraid to talk to my son about why I was masturbating and if he asks, I will explain. But I don't think I am going to start the conversation unless it comes up later in a general discussion about sexuality. Thanks to all for thoughts here.

 

Just joking around backchat...

 

Ewww...

 

Handling It Himself Was What Caused The Problem In The First Place......



Cheers Glen.

 

Seriously, saying nothing sounds like the best idea.

Why don't you have a lock on your door? If you don't have one now, I recommend that you get one and use it.

 

Ya dont be shy..... Nothing @ all wrong with it

 

He removed the lock to put the glory hole in

 

After a period (that is the little dot at the end of a sentence) hitting the space bar just once is usually ok.

 

What's your 18yr old son doing coming into your room anyway?

"I guess nobody is perfect" this is very true but masturbation is in no way wrong.

As others have said, I would let it go.