Casual Sex Protocol

suncatch22 you are beautiful......

 

My advice, for what its worth, is casual sex should be just that casual. What I mean is, not among friends that you've known for a long time. It can get a bit weird that way. A friend of a friend, but not a friend.

The friends I have are all casual sex partners, but we knew that when we met. We became friends later.

And, I have to agree, Suncatch IS beautiful.

 

Suncatch! I've been reading your posts for a while and I empathize with what you're seeking. But throw the protocol crap out the window!!

You deserve better than having to play mind games or passive-aggressive stuff. Call when you feel like it, and if it doesn't work you can find another guy just as good in the local neighborhood bar!

You deserve a friend with whom you can be sincere and spontaneous around. Not every human connection need be possessive in nature.

 

Ive always had trouble with Casual Sex.....its hard for me to be casual about handing my body over to someone to use for their own satisfaction....I have to be at least friends first !!

 

Always worked for me!

I never think a girl is lying just for mentioning "it". I prefer upfront honesty so there can be no misunderstandings afterward.

 

I do agree with erzebet in the fact that I don't really pick someone up in a club and take them home for a shag...barely knowing them if at all. If I'm going to give you a good lick and a poke I have got to at least know you for awhile. Even with casual sex you gotta have some standards!

 

There does have to be some modicum of communication, I mean, how can you expect someone to meet your expectations if they don't know what they are to begin with. If you're free enough to consider casual sex, then be free enough to leave the the games at the door. If the other person wants to play games later, let them - it doesn't mean you have to play.

As I said earlier, most of my friends are casual sex partners, and we knew that to begin with. But If its friends you've had for a long tme, then it would behoove you to be up front with them PRIOR to hopping on them = "this is what I want, this is ALL I want..." anjd if they try to read more into it that's their issue. Don't carry it around with you.

 

Sounds to me that you want a relationship, thats a good thing.
Try talking to your lover and find out what he wants
and then tell him what you want.
If you are not on the same page, try someone else.
Why would it matter what he expects?
It's how you feel and what you need that matters, other healthy people
seek what they want, do the same.

Dan