Can't seem to fit much

Ok so i've run out of ideas, it seems no matter what I do I just don't want to open up. I'm stupidly tight and it takes forever to get the smallest of fingers in. Theres so many things I want to do but it just seems like I want to do more than I can actually fit. Its not like i'm rushing and not aroused. I take my time, use lube everything I can think of. If anyone can give me some advice that would be helpful.

 

Just curious, but are you a virgin? That would explain part of your issue...

 

No i'm not. I probably should have mentioned that aha.

 

Do you work out a lot

 

Workout as in exercise?
Not as much as I used to but yes occasionally

 

IF you were sexually active, than this could be a good thing, but if you're not then it could be somewhat normal.
I know of a couple women in their 30's like this.

 

Yes I am, and ever since its been a problem for me. I thought it would rectify itself in time but clearly not. I don't see it as a good thing, I find it extremely frustrating.

 

Have your partner use lots of lube on one or two of his fingers, and gently start out, while lightly pushing. If it becomes comfortable with two fingers, using the lube then have apply generous amounts of lube to his phallus and do the same thing gently, just past your labia. If he can work his tip in without hurting you, than patience and your own juices should do the rest, but it may take awhile.
This process has worked for me and a girl in college who found sex painful, and a challenge because I'm a little large. This process took us a few hours but once she had me in, she woke the downstairs neighbors twice! :devil:

 

I'm not currently with a partner. But when I was it was still a struggle. With masturbation I find it very uncomfortable. I can just about fit two fingers but not very comfortably. I've tried toys but my toy won't fit. Its not very wide at all but still wont fit. I thought maybe i'd have to push it a little but didnt wanna force it in case. This has happened with all my previous partners but considering i'm not currently with anyone it would be nice to get myself off without this pain.

 

As a male I can't possibly claim to fully understand this situation, but perhaps I can empathise a little.

Occasionally there are times when I really feel like fancy a good session, but for some reason I can't achieve an erection. However, once I start to view some decent porn videos that are to my personal taste (which is a minority I might add, as so many are bizarrely faked & overly kinky - an absolute turn off for me), at which point it doesn't take long before I'm up & ready to go.

Now, I'm aware that things aren't entirely the same here, but I do know that when a woman becomes truly aroused, it's not just a case of becoming wet & the clitoris swelling, but that there is another stage where the labia (majora & minora) become swollen in readiness to accept the penis. In some women this can happen quite rapidly with just the mere thought of things, but with others it can take a lot more enticing, usually by gentle stimulation of a well lubricated clitoris. That's the physical side of things, but when it comes to the psychological side, there's absolutely no reason why women shouldn't get just as mentally stimulated by watching porn videos as men do. There may still be a general taboo attached to it, but what the hell? It's your body. Your life. Your choice.

Overall, don't get overly concerned about it. Relax & let it happen. If all else fails, consult your GP . Gynaecologist.

 

The thing is I really want to. The stimulation, relaxation, patience, everything is there. I don't generally watch porn but tried a few times and I doesn't help anymore than not watching it. My body is super sensitive too, not just in the obvious areas but in general.

It's just that it's been like this for a few years and I thought in time it would change. I don't want it to be like this for much longer. People have said its a good thing, mostly guys and that it's better for them if it's tight. I can understand that but from a females perspective i'm just not finding it a positive thing. GP/ Gynaecologist? Is there something wrong then?

 

May be you should check with your gyno not to pry but how old are you

 

You should definitely check with a gyno. Especially if it's that much of a problem to even get a finger in. I'm pretty small too, but I have no negative issues with sex or anything.

 

Not at all, 20.

 

Ok, you said it has been like this for a few years now. So what was it like before? I know some women are naturally really small, but I've never heard of anyone shrinking. I know there's a couple disorders that cause pain (pelvic something er other), I don't know much about them, but your doc will. Is it that you truly can't FIT a finger into you, or that it is too painful?

 

I think I may considering a few people have mentioned it. I don't know if its because i'm small or tight but it's really uncomfortable. In terms of masturbation I can fit one with a slightly pinch but two is the max. And sex is just painful all round.

 

Ever since i've been sexually active it's been this difficult. I would say it has opened a bit, at one point I couldn't fit one finger. It's like it didn't want to let anything in even though I was totally relaxed and aroused. It's more the pain thing. I do have an ok pain threshold but when it comes to this feeling there is only so much I can withstand.

 

Are you using condoms? I have a friend who had this problem because of a latex allergy.

It's not pelvic inflammatory disease I was thinking of, I googled it. I don't know what it's called. But if you are having problems and pain with your vagina, ask your gyno.

 

It can be said that from the male's perspective it's far better for the vagina to be really tight, yes. But that is a totally unacceptable attitude to take. You are not just a piece of meat intended merely for the pleasure of men, you are an individual with a right to enjoy sex for yourself in the way Nature intended.

There may not be a problem & it may just be the way you are, but either way it does no harm to get some proper advice on the matter. If there is a problem that would be the first stage to getting it fixed. If there isn't a problem it would, at least, put your mind at ease, plus you should be able to get further advice about solving the problem.

Remember, the forums are merely for sharing of opinions, personal experiences & suggestions. None of us are professionals and are in no way a substitute for your doctor.

 

^^^ This....



Cheers Glen.